Umzali ongeyena umgcini ngumzali ongenalo ukugcina umntwana wakhe. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba umzali ongekho mgcini ukuba abe negcinweni lomthetho, nangona engenalo ukugcinwa ngokomzimba. Ukongezelela, abaninzi abazali abangenabuncwane banamalungelo okutyelela ngokukhululeka, bahlawule inkxaso yabantwana, kwaye babandakanyeka ngamandla kubomi babo abantwana.
Iingoma
- "Abazali abangabikho-mthetho bayabhubhisa." Nangona oko kwenzeka, akunqabile ukuba umzali onqabileyo ukuba anike inkxaso yenkxaso yomntwana kumzali ongekho mkhokelo. Ngoko ke, ngabantu abaxhaswa ngumntwana kwaye bakhethe ukungahlawulanga (ngaloo ndlela bazuza isihloko esithi "izidumbu") ininzi inzeka kubazali abangabikhoyo. Nangona kunjalo, akunakulungele ukuthetha ukuba abazali abangabikhoyo ngokubanzi bayimiphefumlo ebulala abantu abangakhethi ukuxhasa inkxaso yabantwana. Kukho abaninzi ababandakanyekayo, abanothando, abangabazali abangabikho phantsi apho bahlawula inkxaso yenkxaso yenyanga ngexesha ngalinye ngenyanga.
- "Bonke abazali abangabikho phantsi kootata." Ngokutsho kweenkcukacha zabazali abangaphantsi kwexesha elilodwa, abazali abaninzi abangabikho phantsi kwabo bangamadoda. Nangona kunjalo, inkundla ezininzi nangaphezulu ziyabona indima ebalulekileyo indima abangatshatangayo ekudlala ubomi babo kubantwana kwaye bazimisele ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili ukunikezela ngokugcinwa kunye kunye / okanye ukugcinwa kwedwa koobawo.
- Abazali abangabikho-cala ababandakanyekanga kubomi babo bezingane. " Le yinye inkolelo enkolelo-jikelele. Abazali abaninzi abangabikho phantsi banomsebenzi onzima kakhulu ukubandakanyeka kubomi babo bantwaneni ukususela ngeli xesha bahlanganisene kunye.
- Abazali abangabikho-cala abazali abazali abangatshatanga. " Kuyinyani ukuba abazali abaxhamlileyo bahlala bephethe ubunzima bomsebenzi owenzayo ukukhulisa abantwana bodwa, kubandakanywa isidingo sokubonelela ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, iimpahla, imfundo kunye nezokwelapha. Nangona kunjalo, xa abazali abangenabuncwane banabantwana abangaphezulu okanye batyelele, basuke bengabomama abangatshatanga kunye nabantwana, basebenza nzima kunokuba banakekele ukunakekelwa kwezingane zabo njengomzali ongumzali.
- "Abazali abangabikhoyo-mthetho bazinikela ngokuzithandela." Le yinye inkolelo enokuthi iyinyaniso ebhodini. Ewe, abanye abazali abangafuni ukukhusela bazinikela ngokuzithandela. Abanye bakhetha ukuba bangabandakanyeki kubomi babo bezingane, ngoxa abanye babethandana ngokwenyama ngenxa yokuba babenokwenene ukuba kwakuyinto enomdla kumntwana ukuba baphile kwikhaya elinye, kunokuba bahambe ngeenxa zonke.
Iingcebiso
- Hlalani nxaxheba! Abantwana bakho bakudinga, kwaye nangona bengabonakali, bayakufuna.
- Nika ixesha. Usalokhu ulwalamano lwakho nolwalamano lwakho? Ukuphilisa kuthatha ixesha. Kungenxa yokuba izinto zinzima okwangoku akuthethi ukuba baya kuhlala bekhuni njalo.
- Yakha ishedyuli yokutyelela kwaye unamathele kuyo. Bonisa ukuthembeka kwakho ngokunamathela kwishedyuli oye wavumelana nayo, nangona ukwenza oko kunzima okanye kunzima.
- Hlalani nethemba. Nangona unqatshelwe ukugcinwa, unokukwazi ukukhenela imeko yakho okanye ufake ifayile kwakhona.
- Zizenzele nabantu abanomdla. Ngokukodwa xa unqatshelwe isicelo sokugcinwa kwetyala ngeenkundla, uya kufuna ukuzungeze nabantu abanomdla kunye nabaya kuphulaphula njengoko ulwabelana neentliziyo zakho kunye nokudumala.