Ukubhalisa ukugcinwa kwexesha lesigxina akusikho nzima ukwenza, kwaye kunokukhusela abantwana bakho kwiimeko xa ungekho ukubonelela ngononophelo lwabo. Ngokomzekelo, nantsi ezinye zeemeko xa umzali omnye engadinga ukunika umgcini womthetho wesikhashana:
- UKhenille ngumama ongatshatanga ohamba umsebenzi. Ngenxa yokuba yakhe yangaphandle ayibandakanyeki kubomi bentsapho, kufuneka atyikitye kubazali bakhe ngexesha elifutshane xa eyazi ukuba uya kuba sexesha elide.
- ULarissa ungumzali ongenaye umkhosi okhonza e-US Army. Xa esetyenzisiweyo, ukhetha umgcini wezomthetho okwethutyana kwiintsana zakhe ukwenzela ukubonelela ngononophelo xa ephuma kwilizwe.
- UMarco uphinde abuyele ekugqithiseni izidakamizwa kwaye ubeke ixesha lokugcinwa kwabazali bakhe ade afumane umsebenzi aze abuyele ezinyaweni zakhe.
Ezi zimelele nje imizekelo embalwa. Nangona akukaze kube lula ukwenza isigqibo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ungasayina ngaphaya kokugcinwa kwexeshana kwimeko apho kuyimfuneko. Ngenhlanhla, le nkqubo ayikho nzima. Enyanisweni, umngeni omkhulu kunokuba ngubani ocela uncedo!
Ngubani Oya Kukunyamekela Abantwana Bakho?
Xa usenza isigqibo sokuba ngubani onokugcina umntwana wakho umgcini wexeshana, qwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Amaxesha abantwana bakho kunye neemfuno zabo. Abantwana abancinci baya kufuna ukunyamekelwa kunye nokunyamekelwa. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ulutsha lunokujamelana neengxaki ezahlukeneyo ngexesha lokungabikho komzali okwethutyana. Zichithe ixesha elide ucinge ngobuntu bakho bebantwana , indlela abaya kuphendulwa ngayo, kwaye ngubani olungeleyo kwiimfuno zabo ezithile.
- Amava kwesihlobo okanye umhlobo onokumnika umgcini wexeshana. Impendulo ecacileyo ingaba kukujonga umzali omnye. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba ungabandakanyi abahlobo kunye nezihlobo ezingazange zibe nabantwana. Nangona ukhetha umgcini onabantwana ekhaya unokuthuthuzela, yintoni eyona nto ibaluleke ngakumbi ukuzimisela ukunika abantwana bakho inkathalo kunye nengqalelo abayidingayo!
- Amalungiselelo okuphila. Ukulala embhedeni ukuphela kweveki akukho nto enkulu, kodwa ukuba ulindele ukufunwa kwexesha elide ixesha elide, uya kufuna ukukhetha umntu onendawo eyaneleyo yokufumana abantwana bakho ngokufanelekileyo.
Izizathu zokusayina kwiSigxina
Ukuba uceba ukuhamba ubusuku obuncinane, unokuba uzibuze ukuba ukubhalisa ngokusemthethweni ukugcinwa kwexeshana kuyimfuneko ngempela. Ngokwenene, akunjalo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iingenelo ezibalulekileyo ekumiseni ukugcinwa kwexeshana nomntu othembelayo.
- Ukunikezela ngokusemthethweni umgcini wexeshana kuya kunceda ukukhusela nayiphi na ingxabano enokuthi ngubani ophethe uxanduva lokunyamekela abantwana bakho xa usuhambe.
- Ukwenza umntu ngokusemthethweni umgcini wesikhashana angamvumela ukuba avume ngokukhawuleza unyango lwezonyango, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ukuba abantwana bakho bayagula okanye balalo xa ungabikho.
- Ungakwazi kwakhona ukumisela imida malunga nokuba uza kuba ngumgcini wexesha elide.
Indlela yokwenza uMama wakho abe ngumgcini wexeshana
- Phrinta ifom yokugcinwa kwexeshana.
- Gcwalisa ngokupheleleyo.
- Ifom yefowuni yokugcina ingqalelo. Eli nyathelo elibalulekileyo liqinisekisa umntu ofumana ifom (njengabasebenzi bezonyango) ukuba ngokwenene uyayityikitya kwifomu.
Ukuphepha ukuxabana
Ekugqibeleni, ukuba lakho elide libandakanyeka ebomini kubantwana bakho, uya kufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyazi ukuba unika umgcini wesikhashana. Ezinye izivumelwano zokugcina abantwana zichaza ukuba omnye umzali 'unelungelo lokunqaba kuqala' kwiimeko apho umgcini-nkonzo wesibini (nokuba ngumntwana wezingane) kufuneka. Ngoko uya kufuna ukufunda isivumelwano sakho sokugcina kwaye uqwalasele ukuthetha nommeli.