Njengoko umntwana ekhula, ubuntu babo buya kuqala
Njengomncinci njengasesebuntwaneni, sinika iimpawu ezithile zobuntu kubantwana. Singathi "ungumntwana ovuyayo," okanye "uhamba ngokulula," okanye uchaza ukuba umntwana "unenkani." Kodwa ngelixa ezi zimbonakalo zingabonisa iziphumo zento ezayo, ubuntu bomntwana wakho abuqali ukuqala ukuthatha ifom ukude kamva.
Kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo kubazali bafuna ukwazi ukuba ubuntu babo bunjani.
Ukuzaliswa kwabazali kungabandakanywa isethi kunye neendlela zobugcisa ezahlukeneyo kunokuba umzali angabafundi, kwaye abantwana abaneempawu ezahlukahlukeneyo baya kuphendula ngokubhekiselele kwizizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo kunye nezicwangciso zokuziphatha.
Ezi zimpawu zobuntu ziqala ukuvela esikolweni esiprayimari. Nantsi indlela onokuyichazela ngayo xa ubuntwaba bomntwana bakho bekhulayo, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuthini loo mntu.
Isimiselo asikho Ubuntu Bomntwana Wakho
Kukho iimpawu zobuntu bomntwana ukususela ekuqaleni kakhulu ebomini. Ngokomzekelo, ezinye iintsana zinqwenela iinkqubo, ngelixa ezinye zikhetha ukuguquguquka okukhulu. Iingcali zengqondo zibiza le mihla yokuqala "isimo sengqondo."
Isimemeko singenangqondo kwaye sichazwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ngabaphandi abahlukeneyo - ngamanye amazwi, iintsana zinemimoya ethile ngokwemvelo, kodwa isimo sengqondo asikho "ubuntu" babo.
Ubuntu bubungakanani beempendulo zomntu, iimpendulo kunye nokuziphatha.
Ngokutsho kwengcali yeengqondo uDan McAdams, ubuntu bomntu bunokubonakaliswa ngokuqwalasela iimpawu zabo zobuntu kwixesha leminyaka.
Ezi mpawu azibonakali ngendlela ecacileyo kwaye eqhubekayo de kube yiminyaka emibini. Ngoko ke, ubuntu bomntwana buvela kwindlela engathandabuzekiyo nje kuphela xa ubutsha buhamba.
Ngaphambi koko, unokwazi ukubheka indlela yokuziphatha yabantwana njengempendulo kwabanye abantu abazungezile, kanti iimpendulo zokuziphatha zenzeka ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-11 ne-12 ubudala.
Iimpawu ezinkulu zobuntu 5
Njengomoya, izimo zobuntu ziye zabonakala ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ngabaphandi abahlukeneyo.
Mhlawumbi enye yeengcamango zomntu ezigqwesileyo igxile kwiimpawu ezi-5 eziphambili zobuntu. Bazi:
- Unembeza. Oku kuchaza umntu ovame ukuba ngexesha okanye ekuqaleni kwexesha lokuqeshwa, unembopheleleko kakhulu kwaye usebenza kwiinjongo zexesha elide kunye nolawulo olungancinci.
- Ukungqinelana . Kwakhona kuthiwa yi-pro-yentlalontle, umntu ovumile ngokuqhelekileyo unxibelelwano oluhle lwentlalo, unomdla wokuba ujikeleze, usebenza ekuncedeni abanye, kunye nokusebenzisana kakuhle kwiimeko zeqela. Kwakhona uhlala ebonisa uthando ngokuzeleyo kwaye kaninzi.
- Ukuvula ukuva . Umntu ophakamileyo ovulelekileyo ukufumana amava, uguquguqukayo, unomdla kwaye unolwazi. Unomdla wokuba nengqondo yakhe neengqondo zivuselelwe, njengokujonga ubugcisa, ukuphulaphula umculo omtsha, isampuli yokutya okungaqhelekanga kunye nokufunda iincwadi kunye nezibongo. Umntu ovulekileyo uthanda ukuba neentlobo ezahlukeneyo kwimpilo yakhe yemihla ngemihla kwaye ufuna umdlalo.
- Neuroticism. Umntu onomdla wokuva iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ezinjengokuxhalaba, umsindo, ityala, kunye nokudandatheka, rhoqo. Abantu abanamaqondo aphakamileyo e-neuroticism baninzi amathuba okuba baphendule kakubi ukunyanzeliswa nokutolika iimeko njengoko zisongela okanye zingenakunzima.
- U kukhutshwa . I-extrovert ngumntu okhuthazwa ngokuba ngumnye umntu. Oku kukuchasene ne-introvert, okhuthazwa ngokuba yedwa.
Ubuntu Bomntwana Kwiminyaka Yabo Ephakathi
Ezi zintlanu iinkalo ziqala ukudibanisa kubantwana ngethuba leminyaka, kwaye ukuhlanganiswa kweziganeko ekugqibeleni kubangela ubuntu bomntwana wakho.
Ngokukodwa, abaphandi baqala ukufumana ukungafani komntwana omnye ukuya kwesinye kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-Big Five iimpawu ngexesha leminyaka emibini. Bafumana ukuhamba ngokubanzi kumanqanaba emiGangatho emi-5 eyenzekayo kuwo onke ama-tweens. Ngokomzekelo, i-conscientious tendency is increasing in the middle of years.
Udibaniso lwezinto ezahlukileyo ezibonakalayo kunye neendlela eziqhelekileyo zibonisa ukuba iimpawu - kwaye ngoko ke "ubuntu buntwana" - ngokwenene kuvela ngexesha lobuncinci.
Xa ubuntu buvela, aluyi kutshintsha kakhulu: uphando olwenziwa ngo-2010 lufumene ukuba iimpawu zobuntu zokuqala ezibonwa ngabafundisi beziko lokuqala zingaxela ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala.
Okokufunda, kubaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, e-Riverside, kwi-Oregon Research Institute kunye neYunivesithi yaseOregon, basebenzise ukulinganisa komntu ovela kubafundisi beziko leprayimari kwiqela leentlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantwana baseHawaii emva kweminyaka yama-1960, xa kuthelekiswa nobuntu bokulinganiswa kwividiyo Udliwano-ndlebe lwabantu abangu-144 balabo bantu emva kweminyaka engama-40. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba iimpawu ezichazwe ngabafundisi ziqhubeka ziqhubeka iminyaka emine kamva kwaye ezo ziganeko zaxela izimpendulo kwiimeko zentlalo.
Ubuntu bomntu buhlukile. Njengoko umntwana wakho efika yakhe, ukuxhasa iinkalo ezintle zobuntu ngokubhiyozela oko bakubonisayo kakade kubakhonkcoza.
Umthombo:
UMcAdams, uDan, no-Olson, uBradley. Uphuhliso lomntu: Ukuqhubeka kunye noTshintsho kwiCandelo loBomi. Ukuhlaziywa koNyaka kweeNgqondo. 2010. 61: 517-542.
Nave CS et al. Kwi-Independent Independence of Personality: Uvavanyo lwabaTitshala luchaza ngokuzimeleyo ngokuziphatha ngokulandelelana emva kweminyaka emine. I-Psychological and Personal Science. 2010 Julayi 8; 3 (1): 1-9.