Ukuthetha Nomntwana Wakho Ngokufa

Indlela yokujongana nesifundo esinzima sokubandezeleka kwengane kunye nomfundi wesikolo sakho

Abantwana beminyaka yobudala beBakala banokuqonda kangcono ukufa-kukuba yinto engapheliyo eyenzekayo kunoma ubani-kwaye unokukwazi ukujongana nosizi olungcono kunokuba sicinga. Ngalesi sizukulwana, mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uvelele kwimbono yokufa kunye nentlungu ngenxa yee-movie , imiboniso yeTV , iincwadi , kunye nokuxoxisana nabahlobo. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba bebenokubambisana nesandla sokuqala kunye nokufa komntu osondeleyo kubo, kusenokuhlala into engacacanga-into eyenzeka kwabanye abantu. Ukulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo kubo kunokutshintsha konke oko.

Ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka esikolweni ufanele ahlangabezane nokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, nokuba kukufa kootatomkhulu, omnye ilungu losapho, okanye nokuba nesilwanyana, unokubonisa intlungu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nazi ezinye izinto onokuzenza ukuze uncede umntwana wakho aqonde ukufa aze ahlangabezane nokulahlekelwa kwakhe:

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Vula kwiMibandela enxulumene nosizi lwabantwana

Abantwana bafuna ukwazi ngokufa, nangaphambi kokuba bafumane ukulahlekelwa ngumntu kunye nentlungu. Yinyaniseka ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo ngelixa uqhubeka ulula ngokwanele ukuba ube ngumfundi wesikolo.

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Ungakuphepheli igama elithi "Ukufa"

Ungasebenzisi iibinzana ezinje, "uhambe," "ulahlekile," okanye "ulale" ukubhekisela kumntu owafa, nangona xa uthetha nomntwana onothando. Oku kunokudala ukudideka okungakumbi kumntwana omncinci, kwaye unike umfundi esikolweni osemdala ukuba unesityhafu kwaye akayi kuxoxwa ngaye.

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Qondana Nomntwana Wakho

Unyana wam wayeneminyaka engama-6 xa ndimvumela ukuba abone uBarardard , ibhayisikobho apho uyise efa. Emva kweentsuku emva koko, wayekhathazekile kwaye wayehlala ebuza ukuba uyise okanye mna ndingasifa. Ndamtshilo ukuba akunakwenzeka, ukuba siphila kwaye sincinci, kwaye siyaqaphela ngokungazibeka esichengeni. Kodwa andizange ndithi cha, asiyi kufa. Nokuba ndandifuna ukumthuthuzela, ndazi ukuba ukuxoka kwakuza kumnika ukuqinisekiswa okungamanga kwaye bekuye kubakho ukungaqiniseki xa efumanisa inyaniso.

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Ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho uyayiqonda yonke into ngexesha lokuqala

Unokubuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo imibuzo, ngaphezu kwexesha leveki okanye kwinyanga. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi. Kungaba nzima kumntwana wesikolo esikolweni ukuba atye yonke into kanye. Kwakhona unokuzama ukuwusebenza engqondweni yakhe ngokuphindaphinda. Kwaye ulwazi olufanayo lunokuba luncedo kuye ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo njengoko ekhula ngokomoya nangengqondo.

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Musa Umoyiko Wokuvuma Ungazi Into

Umntwana oneminyaka engama-grade esikolweni unokuthi aphephe ngemibuzo malunga nezinto ezinjengeyonto enokuyifumana emva kokufa kwaye kutheni ungeke ukhulume nomntu xa ehamba. Kungcono ukunyaniseka malunga nokuba awukwazi konke kunokuthetha amanga okanye ukumnika ingcaciso ocinga ukuba uya kufuna ukuyiva.

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Lindela ukuba kuthathe ixesha elithile

Intlungu ingaba yinkqubo, kubadala. Isikolo sakho esikolweni esikhulayo singabonakala singenasantlalontle malunga nokufa komntu othandekayo kwaye ke siwahlukane nentonti ephukileyo.

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Ukulindela ezinye iimvakalelo

Umntwana wakho unokuthukuthela ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntu. Unokuziva enetyala, ngokukodwa ngokufa komntakwabo okanye umzali (umntwana omncinci angakholelwa ukuba lo mntu wafa ngenxa yokuba "yayimbi.") Unokubambezela, ulungele ngakumbi okanye ufune ukungena embhedeni wakho.

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Cinga ukuvumela ukuba umntwana wakho aye kwiindawo zokungcwaba

Umthendeleko unokuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba alahlekelwe ngumntu othandekayo. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ucinga ngobuntu bomntwana kunye nendlela enokuthi inkonzo ibe yintlungu. Ukuba umntwana wakho unentlonelo nakwezinye iintlungu kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuba nomsindo xa abanye abantu bekhala, kungcono ukuba umgcine ekhaya.

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Nika Igumbi Lakhe Ukulila

Mxelele ukuba ulungele ukuphulaphula okanye uphendule imibuzo kodwa ungamcindezeli ukuba ubonakala enqabile ukuthetha.

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Yazisa Iimvakalelo Zakho

Abafundi beBanga-mali banokukwazi ukujonga iimvakalelo zakho, ngoko ungazami ukufihla intlungu yakho. Ngelixa ungafuni ukuba umntwana wakho akubone ukuwahlukana-kunokusabisa kakhulu ukuba abantwana babone umthombo wabo wenkxaso-cima-ungazami ukufihla imvakalelo yakho. Ngokumxelela ukuba kulungile ukukhala nokudakumba ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, umfundisa indlela yokusingatha ukulahlekelwa ngendlela ephilileyo.