Izizathu zokuba novelwano lwabazali beNtshontsho yabantwana

Ukungaziphathi kakubi akusoloko kuvela kumzali ombi

Xa ubona loo mntwana ophonsa amatye epakini, okanye kukho enye inkunzi kwidlanga lokuzalwa elibonakala lifikelela kumantliziyo wonke, kulula ukugweba abazali. Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba kutheni bengagcinanga umntwana wabo kumgca. Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ubani ophakamisa umntwana onjalo kufuneka abe ngumzali onyantya.

Kodwa, ukucinga kwakho malunga nomntwana oziphatha kakubi kunye nabazali bakhe akunakho ukuchaneka. Kukho ezinye ezininzi izizathu zokuba umntwana engakwazi ukuziphatha. Nazi izizathu ezithoba zokuba kutheni ungafuna ukuba nemfesane kubazali bentwazana engenanto.

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Awazi ukuba Yintoni Enyamezele Umntwana

Amava obomi obunzima, njengengozi yemoto yokufa okanye kufuphi neentlekele zemvelo, inokuchaphazela kakhulu ukuziphatha komntwana. Ngoko ke iziganeko ezixinzeleleyo, ezinjengokuqhawula umtshato, ukuhamba, okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo.

Ezi ntlobo zamava anzima ziyakuthintela uphuhliso lwentombazana, nangona zivela ngexesha lokusana okanye ngexesha lokukhulelwa kukaMama. Ngoko ngeli xesha libukeka ngathi umntwana ukhetha ukungcola ngaphandle, awukwazi ukuba kwenzekani ngaphakathi kwengqondo yomntwana.

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Awazi ukuba Ziziphi Izinto Abazali Abaye Bazisebenzisa

Abazali bomntwana ongekho nto banokunyamezela amava amanzima abo. Abazali abaye balahlekelwa ngumntwana banokuba nobuhlungu obukhulu ukuba baqeqesha ngokufanelekileyo umnye umntwana. Okanye, umzali onembali yokuxhatshazwa unokuba nzima ukuba ngumzali onempilo kubantwana bakhe.

Amava obomi obunzima obuchaphazelayo abachaphazelekayo ngendlela abazali abadibana ngayo nabantwana babo. Umama ongatshatanga unokuba neengxaki zokufumana ixesha lokuchitha kunye nabantwana bakhe, ezinokuba negalelo kwiingxaki zabo zokuziphatha. Okanye, abazali abajongene nabangenamakhaya bangakhathazeka kakhulu ngemeko yabo ukuba babone ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana.

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I-Genetics Dlala Indima Ekuziphatheni

Nangona indalo idlala indima enkulu ekuziphatheni komntwana, i-genetics inokuba yinto ebalulekileyo. Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2013 olupapashwe kwi- International Journal of Developmental Behavioral Development, lufumene ukuba izinto ezinjengokuzithiba okungazinzi kunye neengxaki zomsindo zingazuzwa kubazali.

Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2012 kwi- Psychological Science lwafumanisa ukuba i-genetics idlala indima enkulu kwiingxaki zokuziphatha xa abazali bekude. Ukuba ngaba abazali bengadlala ngokufutshane noko abantwana babo benzayo, i-biology inokuthatha inxaxheba enkulu ekuchaphazeni ukhetho lwabantwana olwenzayo.

Ngokucacileyo, ukulungiswa komntwana kuzalwa kunye neempembelelo zokuziphatha komntwana. Abanye abantwana bavumile kakhulu okanye banamahloni, ngelixa abanye bavame ukuxhamla, baqaphele kwaye bangabi nantloni.

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Umntwana unokuthi abe neNkcazo yezeMpilo yengqondo

Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha okubi, okungahambelaniyo, kunye nokuzikhusela kubangelwa yimpilo yengqondo okanye ingxaki yokuziphatha . Ingxaki yokuchasana ne-Oppositional , ADHD , kunye nokuziphatha kakubi, umzekelo, kunokukhokelela kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha.

Kodwa nokuba nemiba yempilo yengqondo, njengengxaki yokuxinezeleka okanye ukukhathazeka, kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zokuziphatha. Umntwana oxhalabisayo angenza into engcolileyo ngenxa yokwesaba ukwenza into apho angaphumele khona. Okanye umntwana ogxininisekile unokungabi namandla okufumana umsebenzi wakhe.

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Umntwana unokuthi aphule ukuphuhliswa

Kungenxa yokuba umntwana uneminyaka eyi-10 engatsho ukuba angenza njengomntwana oneminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Abantwana abaninzi banokulibaziseka okuphuhlisayo okuchaphazela ukuziphatha kwabo.

Awukwazi ukubona ukulibaziseka kweentetho, iingxaki zeengcamango, okanye i-autism iziphazamiso zeziganeko nje ngokujonga umntu. Ngoko nangona ubudala bexesha lomntwana okanye ubungakanani bakhe, akanakho ukufumana ukukhula okumele ulindele.

Ngoko unokubona umfana oneminyaka eyi-10 ephosa umsindo kwisibhedlele okanye umntu oneminyaka engu-12 ekhala ebaleni. Akuthethi ukuba bachithekile okanye ukuba abazali babo ababaniki imithetho eyaneleyo. Kungenzeka ukuba ubuchopho babo abukhulanga njengoko unokulindela kwaye awakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo kangcono.

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Imindeni eyahlukileyo ineMithetho eyahlukileyo

Khumbula ukuba ngenxa nje yokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana unento ekhohlakeleyo, akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu ucinga oko. Abazali bomntwana ongezondayo bangase bacinge ukuba unqine kakhulu okanye banokukhathazeka ngumntwana wakho.

Yonke intsapho ineemithetho eyahlukeneyo kwaye abazali banamazinga ahlukeneyo okunyamezela. Ngoko ngoxa ucinga ukuba umntwana womnye umntu ubonakala engabonakaliyo, abanye abantu banokujonga ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kuyamarha.

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ezinye iindleko zentsapho kunye nokulindela akumele kube ngcono okanye zibi ngaphezu kweyakho. Kunoko, banokuthi bahluke.

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Abazali Bengazi Nento Eminye Yokuyenza

Abazali bomntwana ongalunganga unokuzama konke okwenziwe ukuba bafumane umntwana wabo ukuba aziphathe. Unyango, amayeza, iinkonzo zasekhaya, kwaye mhlawumbi nokuba kusetyenziswe indawo yokuhlala kungenziwa. Kwaye abazali banokuphelelwa amandla xa kufikelelwe ekuzameni izicwangciso ezintsha zokuziphatha.

Kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uphulaphule xa umthumelela ekuphumeni akuthethi ukuba uya kusebenza omnye umntwana. Okanye ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ubonakala efunda kwiipazamo zakhe xa ususa ilungelo, akuthethi omnye umntwana uza kwenza okufanayo. Abazali bomntwana ongalunganga bavele bazama ezo zicwangciso ukuba zisebenze.

Kukho nethuba lokuba ukuziphatha komntwana kuye kwaphucula. Abazali banokuba bazimisele ukunyamezela ukukhala nokukhala ngenxa yokuba umntwana wabo akayikubetha . Okanye, banokuba bazimisele ukubekezelela ukungcikiva kancinci xa nje umntwana wabo engazilimazi.

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Intsapho mhlawumbi ifumana ukugwetywa ngabanye abantu

Ukuba umntwana udlalisa ngokungaqhelekanga, mhlawumbi abazali baye banyamezela isabelo sabo esilungileyo samehlo kunye nokubukeka okungahlambulukanga kwezinye iintsapho. Yaye loo mpendulo yempendulo ayinakunceda.

Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali abahlukumeza abantwana baphatha ubuninzi beentloni. Bakhathazeka malunga nendlela abanye ababajonga ngayo kwaye banokuziva benganelisekanga kwaye bexolisa.

Akulula ukuthabatha umntwana ongeyiphutha ngaphandle kwintlalo. Abanye abazali kufuneka bakwenze ngaphandle kokubaluleka, nangona kunjalo.

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Basenokukwenza Okulungileyo Kwabo

Akuyena wonke umntu ogqithayo kumzali. Kodwa abaninzi abazali benza okusemandleni abo.

Nangona ezinye iintsapho zinexesha elininzi lokuqeqesha iqela elincinci kunye nemali eninzi yokuhlawula ibhola elitsha lebhola, ezinye iintsapho ziyazinzima. Kwaye ungeke uhlale ubona loo mizabalazo.

Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abonakala banobomi kunye ngaphandle bangabhekana neentlungu ezininzi ngaphakathi. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha komntwana kuyimpawu yenkathazo enzulu ngaphakathi kwintsapho.

Indlela Yokubonisa Intlungu

Kunokuba ungeze kwixinzelelo lwabo ngokungakhange kubonakale, umomotheka okanye ukugqithisa kunokuhamba ngokubanzi. Ukuba ngaba abazali babonakala ngathi benza okusemandleni abo, igama elinobubele linokuba lube luhlelekile.

Ukuthi, "Wenza umsebenzi omhle," unokunika umzali ophazamisayo ukuba akhuthaze ukuba aphumelele ngosuku. Okanye, ngokutsho nje, "Kuya kuba ngcono," kunokunika umzali okhungathekileyo encinci ithemba.

Ukuba uyayazi kakuhle intsapho, isibonelelo sokubhinqa iintsuku ezimbalwa. Isicelo somhla wokudlala sinokuxabiswa kakhulu.

Kodwa khumbula, ngenxa yokuba omnye umntwana uziphatha kakubi, akuthethi ukuba abazali okanye umntwana bangabantu ababi.

Imithombo:

> Dick DM, Meyers JL, Latendresse SJ, et al. I-CHRM2, ukuLawulwa kwabazali kunye ne-Adolescent Externalizing behavior: Ubungqina be-Gene-Environment Interaction. Iingcali zeNzululwazi . 2011; 22 (4): 481-489. i-doi: 10.1177 / 0956797611403318.

> Lipscomb ST, uLaurent H, Neiderhiser JM, et al. Ubunzima be-Genetic budibanisa kunye nabazali kunye nokunakekelwa kwangoko kunye nemfundo ukuqikelela ukunyuka kwendlela yokuziphatha. I-International Journal yoPhuhliso lweNtsebenzo . 2013; 38 (1): 70-80. i-doi: 10.1177 / 0165025413508708.