Imiba eyingqayizivele kunye neNzuzo Abazali abakhulileyo abajongene nabo

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Khu seleko lwezeMali

Inani lamama omdala liyakhula. Abasetyhini abaninzi balinde ukuba i-thirties kunye neenkulungwane zazo zibe neentsana, ngokwemibiko evela kumaziko okuLawula izifo. Ngaphambi kokuba ulinde uze uphume kwemashumi amabini ukuba usana luba yinkqubo entsha kumatshini kaMama Wars , kufuneka uqwalasele iimfuno ezikhethekileyo kunye neenzuzo abazali abadala abajongene nazo. Okokuqala, cinga inani labahlanganisi bokuba ngumzali omdala.

Okokuqala kukukhuseleko lwezezimali. Abazali asebekhulile abaye balinda ukuba abantwana baye bachitha ubuninzi babo bomsebenzi. Baye baphakama kwinqanaba leenkampani, bafumana ezo zikhutshulwa kwaye zikulungele ukukhulisa abantwana. Olu khuseleko lwezezimali lunceda ukuhlawula iindleko eziphezulu zokukhulisa umntwana kodwa kwakhona kuvumela abazali ukuba balungiselele iindleko ezingalindelekanga kunye nokufundiswa kweekholeji.

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Ixesha elide lokuchitha kunye nabantwana

Ngokukhuseleko lwezezimali kunokuza ixesha lokuchitha kunye nezingane. Lezo iiyure ezingapheliyo kunye nobusuku obusenyameni kwiofisi ngokuqhelekileyo zilingana nexesha elininzi lokuphumla kunye neentsuku zobomi. Nangona umama enika umsebenzi wakhe ukuba abe ngumama wokuhlala ekhaya, utata unokuba neeveki eziliqela ukuphuma kwiintsapho zekhefu okanye ukuncedisa ekhaya xa abantwana begula. Lezo zinsuku ezongezelelweyo zongeza xa uthelekisa nomzali omncinci onokufumana kuphela umhla weentsuku ezihlawulwe ezintlanu ngomsebenzi.

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Ukuxabisa Okukhulu Ukuba ngumzali

Ukuba ulindele kakhulu ubomi bakho ukuba ube nosana, uxabiso lwakho lomntwana lukhula ngakumbi xa efika. Enyanisweni, uphando lwafumanisa ukuba abazali asebekhulile bavame ukuba neempembelelo kwiindawo zabo zabazali. Isimo sengqondo esihle somzali sibonise ukuba abo bantwana bakhula ukuba babe neengxaki ezingaphantsi kokuziphatha, ezentlalo okanye zengqondo. Abazali asebekhulile bachitha ixesha leminyaka, kwaneeminyaka, becwangcisa iintsana zabo, begcina imali yokuchitha kwiintsana zabo kwaye bavele bephupha ngabantwana babo bexesha elizayo, okubangela ukuba baxabiseke ngakumbi ngovuyo lwabazali xa umntwana esezandleni zabo.

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Ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo

Abantwana bayamangalisa, izinto ezinommangaliso. Baya kufaka ulwalamano oluqinileyo kuvavanyo. Kulula ukutshitshiswa kwiqabane lakho kuba umntwana wakho okhuselekileyo uye wakugcina ubusuku bonke okanye umntwana wakho onomdla ngokukhawuleza wagqiba ekubeni abe ngumntwana osemtsha owayesebenzisa i-smart-aleck. Uninzi lwabazali asebekhulile baye bebonke kunye kunye neengcali ekuxhaseni ngamanani amaninzi. Basenokulindela ukuba nabantwana, kodwa bayazi amandla abo kunye nobuthathaka njengabantu ngabanye kunye neqabane kunye nokuba banokuyidlala ngenzuzo kweso sibini esincinane esingazange sihlangane ngokude kwaye sihlangane neziphepho ezininzi.

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Iiminyaka eziliMibini Iinkcukacha zobomi

Abazali abancinci nabadala banamava afanayo kunye nomama okanye utata phambi kokuba umntwana wabo azalwe: zero. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abadala banamava eminyaka amaninzi okuphila. Umzali omdala uthambekele ekukhululeni umzali kunye nokukhula okungakumbi kusekelwe kwiminyaka yobudala kunye namava obomi. Kukho inani leempahla eziza kunye neminyaka eyongezelelweyo yokuba ngumntu omdala, kubandakanywa nokwazi ukuba ungubani njengomntu, ungaziva ngathi ulahlekelwe nantoni na ebomini bakho kuba unabantwana bancinci kwaye unako ukuphatha unyango, Iimeko kunye nemini yemihla ngemizuzu encinane, ulwazi oluthe xaxa kunye nokuzola okuza kudala kunye nokufumana iminyaka emininzi yobomi.

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Izizukulwana zeGap

Kuninzi lwabazali abadala abajongene nabo, kunye nezizukulwana, yebo, izizukulwana ezikhoyo. Xa ephumelela esikolweni esiphakeme, uza kuba uninzi lwabaninzi boogogo.

Kodwa kungekhona nje kuphela isizukulwana esikhulileyo, ngaphezu kwamathuba okuba ungobudala kunomntwana wakho. Nangona abazali ngamashumi amabini maxa wambi bazive bengabandakanyekanga noko kwenzekayo namhlanje xa kuziwa kubantwana babo. Kodwa abazali asebekhulile baneminyaka emithathu ukuya emine ngaphandle kwezingane zabo, benza izizukulwana zabo zibe zikhulu kakhulu.

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Ukudinwa

Unokuba ungafuni ukuyivuma, kodwa uhlala kwihlabathi ixesha elide. Utshatywe kakhulu, kwaye ukukhulelwa kuya kuphakanyiswa xa unabantwana. Njengoko iintsana zijika zibe ziintsana kunye nabantwana abasuka kuba ngabantwana abancinci, uya kuba nesifiso sokuthi umntu uza kukubeka phantsi. Izingane zinamandla angenammiselo, kwaye, ngelishwa, abantu abadala, ingakumbi abadala, abakwenzi. Ulungele ukufumana ukudinwa njengokuba awuzange ukwazi ngaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ungumzali omdala.

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Ixhala leMpilo

Akufanele nje ukhathazeke ngawe kunye nempilo yengane yakho njengomama okhulelwe, kodwa kufuneka ukhathazeke ngempilo yakho xa abantwana bakho bezalwa. Enyanisweni, abazali abaneminyaka nayiphi na ubudala banokujamelana nemicimbi yempilo, kodwa abazali asebekhulile banomngcipheko ophezulu weengxaki zezokwelapha nje kuba sele begugile. Uyancipha, ukhathala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye maxa wambi kufuneka nje uthathe ikhefu lomzimba ngaphezu kohlobo lomzali wakho omncinci.

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Ukubekwa Ngeendlela Zakho

Wena kunye neqabane lakho nilenze into eninzi yindlela yakho ixesha elide ngoku. Ubekwe kwiindlela zakho, kwaye ngoku kukho abantu abancinci abaqhawula indlu eyayingenasiphelo kunye nokuphazamisa izicwangciso zakho ezicwangcisiweyo kunye nezidanga zoluntu ezenza ukuba uhambe kwiindawo zakho ezizithandayo kusasa. Ukuba ngumzali omdala kudinga utshintsho oluninzi ebomini owake wayazi ekubeni uhlala ngaphandle kwezingane ixesha elide.

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Ukunyamekela Abazali Bakho Ngoxa Ukhulisa Abantwana

Abazali abakhulileyo banokuzifumana bekhulisa abantwana abancinci kwaye banakekela abazali babo asebekhulile ngelo xesha. Kuqhelekile, kunokuba negama: iSzalwich Generation. Ixesha lakho kufuneka lihlulwe phakathi kokunyamekela wonke umntu, kwaye oko kunokukushiya ngeendlela zokuphila ezinobunzima, ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama kunokuba umama oneminyaka engamashumi amabini. Abazali abancinci banako ukukwazi ukulahla abantwana babo kunye nootatomkhulu, kodwa ootatomkhulu babantwana bakho banokuba lula ekupheleni kweminyaka engamashumi asixhenxe okanye ama-80 kwaye abanako ukunyamekela umntwana omncinane.