Indlela yokujongana nehlazo lomama kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakho
Nsuku zonke siva ibali malunga nokuhlazeka koluntu. Kusuka kwi "abantu baseWalmart" kwiifoto zikaKim Kardashian, ukuhlala kushushu kubakho umntu othabatha ukutshisa into ayenzileyo. Kodwa kukho uhlobo olutsha lwe-online shaming oluhlaselayo imihla ngemihla yabasetyhini, kwaye kuthiwa yi-Shama. izimvo malunga namama kwi-bikinis echibini ukuya kwiifoto zabamama abancinci babo abantwana kunye nento yonke phakathi, abama bahlaselwa malunga nantoni na.
Kwaye kuthatha ukuxhatshazwa kwamama kwinqanaba elitsha.
Akungabazeki ukuba ukuba ngumama usuyomsebenzi onzima . Ngaphandle kokujongana neemvakalelo zokungaqiniseki nokukhungatheka, omama namhlanje bangaphantsi kwe-microscope. Into yokugqibela nayiphi na imfuno kufuneka umama ukuba azame ukufumana abantwana bakhe abantwana
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Nangona ihlazo lomama alikho elitsha, i-intanethi, kunye neendaba zentlalo, sele iphendukile. Ingaba ukugxeka uKelly Clarkson ngokungalahlekelwa ngumzimba wesisu sakhe okanye ukubiza umama epakini lithembekileyo kwaye kungagqithwanga, yinto ebangela iingqondo zabantu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa abantu behlazo abanye, bazive befanelekile ukuwaxosha kwi-intanethi. Baqikelela ukuba ukuziphatha, izenzo, okanye iifayile zaso, ziqinisekisa ukuba uhlobo lwenyango. Kodwa xa kuziwa kukuhlazisa umama, amaninzi amaninzi akenzanga nantoni na ephosakeleyo. Esikhundleni saloo ndlela, ama-mama ahlaselwa into elula njengento yokuzisa ukutya okuqinileyo , nokuba uncelise okanye usebenzise ifomula , nokuba ingaba ulala okanye ungaboni ukulala .
Uninzi lwexesha, abantu abahlazola abanye ngenxa yezigqibo zabo zomzali bazive benganelisekanga ngokwamakhono abo omzali. Ngenxa yoko, ukuhlaziywa kwe-intanethi kubanika indawo yokuzimela zabo iinkolelo. Ngamanye amaxesha, oomama baya kuhlazisa abanye abaMama kuba banomona. Mhlawumbi umama uhlazo luhle kakhulu.
Esikhundleni sokubhiyozela umsebenzi onzima owawuthathayo ukuze afike apho, uhlaselwa ngenxa yokuzibhokoxa kwaye ugxile kwimpilo yakhe ngaphezu kwezingane zakhe, nokuba ingaba le nkolelo ibonakalisa ingqiqo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, oomama banamahloni ngenxa yokuba abantu baxhamla iifayile ze-Facebook zendawo okanye zifuna ukuzizonwabisa. Okanye, mhlawumbi banomsindo okanye bexhalabile ngeemeko zabo ekhaya kwaye bafuna indlela yokuqalisa. Njalo uhlale ukhumbule ukuba akukho ndlela yokuva ilizwi lezwi okanye ubone ubuso obuso. Ngamanye amaxesha oko kuthethwa njengentsingiselo-moya kunokuthi kube yinto ephosakeleyo yokuzama ukuhlawula okanye ukuhlambalaza. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, abanye abantu badanisa abanye ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukuqaphela nokuqinisekiswa. Ukuba wonke umntu uyaphuma kwi-bandwagon kwaye uyavumelana nokuvavanywa komnye umntu, onokuziva enomvuzo nangona ungenzi nto.
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Xa kuziwa kumanyazi omama, wonke umama usengozini. Nangona uzama ukuthumela nayiphi na into evuthayo kwi-intanethi, akuqinisekanga ukuba abahlaziyi bamama abayi kukujolisa. Emva kwakho konke, kuthatha kuphela into ebhaliweyo okanye engafanelekanga kwi-Facebook okanye kwi-Twitter ukuze uhlasele ubomi bakho.
Ngaphezu koko, akufuneki nantoni na ukuba uhlazeke. Abanye abahlaziyi bamama baya kuthatha iifoto okanye iividiyo ngaphandle kolwazi lwakho kwaye bayithumele kwi-intanethi. Ukuba ungazifumana kwisimo esihlazileyo somama, zizinto ezilishumi okumele uzikhumbule.
Musa ukuphendula . Ngelixa unokuba uzive ungenzi nto xa abantu bethetha izinto ezimbi ngawe, indlela engcono yokuphendula ngokumangalisa umama kukungaziboni izithuba kunye namazwana. Nangona kunzima ukuyeka ukuthumela i-rebuttal, okanye ubuncinane ukuzama ukuchaza oko ucinga ngako, ungaphenduli. Nokuba ukuxolisa kunokugcina umjikelezo womama ohlazo.
Kunoko, vumela ibali likhuphe.
Cima yakho post, tweet okanye izimvo. Ukuba ukuhlazola kukubangelwa into oyithethile okanye uyithumele kwi-Intanethi, yicime. Ngoxa le nto ayiyi kuphelisa umxholo wakho ngokupheleleyo kwi-Intanethi, iya kususa enye indlela yokuba abantu babe neentloni. Gcina engqondweni nangona ukuba abantu banokuzithumela iifoto zakho okanye bathabathe iifotshane kunye neentloni ngalezo ndlela. Unokuqhagamshelana nomboneleli weendaba zoluntu uze ucele ukuba isithuba okanye ifoto ifakwe phantsi, kodwa abahlali basabela kwizo zicelo.
Musa ukuxhalaba malunga nokuhlazeka . Ukuqhubeka ucinga malunga noko abanye abakutshoyo ngawe akuphiliswanga. Iyakuchukumisa ixesha lakho namandla. Ngaphezu koko, kukukwenza uzive ungcini. Gxininisa kwezinye izinto endaweni yoko. Yiba nekhofi nomhlobo okanye uye kwi-movie ukuze ucinge ingqalelo kwizinto ezithethwa kwi-inthanethi.
Gcina unamahloni ngamehlo. Kuqhelekile ukuba ube nemvakalelo ehlukahlukeneyo, ukususela ekuhlazisweni okukhulu kunye nokudakumba komsindo nokuzisola emva kokuhlazeka esidlangalaleni. Vumela ukuba uzive ngaloo mvakalelo kodwa ungahlali apho. Qaphela ukuba iingcamango zakho zigqithisa imeko yakho. Ngamanye amagama, ungayithengi kwingcamango yokuba ubomi bakho bonke bonakaliswe. Kukho ubomi emva kokunyelisa umama .
Musa ukufunda oko babhalayo . Nangona kuqhelekile ukubuza ukuba abanye bathetha ntoni, akusiyo ingcamango efanelekileyo. Kunoko, hlala kwi-media media. Akukho nto iya kuvela ngokufunda ezinye izithuba ezingenanto kunye namazwana. Ungabanikeli ukwaneliseka kokufunda amagama abo angalunganga kunye namazwi.
Cinga ukuvala ii-akhawunti zakho zentlalo . Kwiimeko ezinzima zokumangalisa umama, ngamanye amaxesha impendulo engcono kakhulu kukuvala zonke ii-akhawunti zakho zeendaba zoluntu. Emva kokuba uhlazo luye lwafa, unokuvula ii-akhawunti ezintsha kunye namagama e-akhawunti ahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, sebenzisa igama elihlukile le-Twitter kunokuba unalo xa uhlazekile.
Musa ukuhlazisa abahlaziyi . Khumbula, nayiphi na inxibelelwano kunye nabahlaziyi bamama, kuquka ukuzama ukuzihlazisa ngokubuyisela okanye ukuziphindisela , ukuvuza umgangatho wabo nokugcina umjikelezo uhamba. Abantu baya kulahlekelwa ngumdla kumama onamahloni ngokukhawuleza ukuba awuphenduli ngandlela-thile.
Hlala ulungile. Ukuhlazeka umama kunokuziva kunzima kakhulu. Kodwa khumbula, eli thuba aliyi kuhlala ngonaphakade. Kwaye nangona kunzima ukujongana nemiphumo, ungayifumana. Hlalani nigxininise kwizinto ezibalulekileyo, njengabantwana benu abantwana , kwaye musa ukuvumela le meko ikuchaze.
Ungamkeli ukucinga . Isitshixo sokubuyisela kukuba awuvumeli ukuba kwenzekani kuwe ukuba uchaze ukuba ungubani njengomntu. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuthokoza. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uzihawukele kwaye ujonge umbulelo ngexesha elifanayo. Ukuchonga izinto ezintathu imihla ngemihla ukuze ubulele, kwanokuba kulula njengelanga.
Yenza kwakhona ukulawula ubomi bakho . Ukuziva ungenamandla kwaye ungenakunceda unomdla oqhelekileyo kumaxhoba omama onokuhlambalaza kwaye unako ukuqhubela kwezinye iinkalo zobomi. Khumbula, awukwazi ukulawula oko abanye bathi ngawe kwaye awukwazi ukulawula ngubani okholelwa loo nkcazelo. Kodwa unokulawula indlela osabela ngayo. Beka amandla akho ekubeni ngabazali abalungileyo kunye nomntu wesimo endaweni yoko.
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Ukuba uye wahlaziswa esidlangalaleni, mhlawumbi uvakalelwa uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezibandakanya yonke into ekudabukisayo nangomsindo wokuzisola nokungakholelwa. Kwiintsuku ezithile kunokuvakalelwa kukuba awuyi kuphinda ubuyele kwisimo esiqhelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, naliphi na ixesha ukuya kwindawo yokutya, thatha umntwana wakho epakini okanye u tyelele ithala leencwadi, unokuba uzive ngathi onke amehlo akuwe, ekugweba. Kodwa akumele uphile njengaleyo. Nazi izinto ezine onokuzenza eziza kunceda ufike endleleni ukuze ufumane kwakhona kwaye uzive ufana nomntu wakho omdala kwakhona:
- Shintsha iipatheni zakho zokucinga. Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abaye bahlazeka esidlangalaleni baya kuhlala kwizinto abaye bahlangabezana nazo, ngokuqhelekileyo bavumela ukuba badle iingcamango zabo. Injongo kukuba iingcamango zakho ziza kujikeleza izinto ezinentsingiselo okanye injongo ebomini bakho, kwaye kungekhona ukuhlazeka kwakho. Ukutshintsha ukucinga kwakho kunokukunceda uqhubekele phambili, nangemihla apho ungazivumi. Ukuba unenkathazo yokutshintsha iinkqubo zakho zengcamango, umcebisi unokukwazi ukukunceda uhlaziye ukucinga kwakho. Khumbula, kufuneka ukhangele izifundo kumama ohlazo kwaye ushiye izinto ezimbi emva.
- Thatha ngengqondo. Kulula ukuqina xa yonke into ihamba ngokucwangcisa. Kodwa ukuvavanya okwenene kwamandla akho kwenzeka xa uhlangabezana neengxaki okanye ubunzima. Khumbula, ukuhlazeka umama kunzima kwaye kunokuthatha umonakalo. Ungesabi ukucela uncedo. Ukwenza oko akuwona uphawu lobuthathaka. Kunoko, ibonisa amandla akho kwaye ibonisa ukuba ufuna ukuphucula imeko yakho.
- Gxininisa ukukhula komntu. Jonga ukujonga kakuhle imeko yakho. Ufuna ukuphucula phi? Ukuchonga indawo apho unokufuna ukuphilisa nokukhula. Ngokomzekelo, kufuneka usebenze ngokuzithemba okanye ukuqinisekiswa . Okanye mhlawumbi, unenkxalabo yokuxhalabisa kunye nokudandatheka kunye nokufuna ukuthetha nodokotela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhlazo lwamahloni luchukumise kangakanani, kufuneka ugxininise kwiindawo ebomini bakho apho ufuna ukuphuculwa khona.
- Fumana ukuvalwa . Inxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa iyakwazi ukuqaphela ihlazo kunye neentloni oye waziva kwaye uchithe kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo xa uluntu lwama-intanethi luqala ukugxila kwenye into. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu ojonge ukuwubeka emva kwakho. Injongo kukuba awusayi kuvumela ukuba iingcinga zakho zixakeke ngezinto ezenzeke kuwe.