Ukuxhatshazwa kunokubangela ukuba uxhalabele kwabantwana
Akukho nto elula ngokuxhatshazwa . Enyanisweni, kungaba yinto ephazamisayo kubantwana abajoliswe kuyo. Intlungu kunye namaxhoba ezixinzelelo zifumana iimpembelelo phantse zonke iinkalo zobomi babo ezibenza bazive benesizungu, bekhulile, bexhatshazwayo kwaye bexhalabile. Ingakumbi, le miphumo yokuxhaphaza ihlala ixesha elide emva kokuba umxhaphazi sele uye kwelinye ijolise.
Akukho mntu uza kuthi amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa aphantsi kweemeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Enoba bayasongelwa , i- cyberbullied , okanye i- name-calling call , ezi ntlobo zokuxhatshazwa zinefuthe elihlala njalo. Kwaye emva kokuvela kwexesha elide, amaxhoba okuxhatshazwayo angaba neempembelelo ezimbi. Amanye amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa aya kuba nokudakumba , ukuphazamiseka kokutya kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala . Kodwa, nabo bangakwazi ukuhlakulela ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki.
Ukuxhatshazwa kweengxaki zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana abakwaziyo ukufumana
Iziphazamiso ezine eziphezulu zokuxhalabisa abaxhatshazwayo bokuxhatshazwa ziquka ukuphazamiseka kwengcinezelo yokudandatheka , ukuphazamiseka okwenziwe ngokubanzi, ukuphazamiseka kwesifo kunye nokukhathazeka kweentlalo.
I-post-traumatic disorder stress (PTSD) . I-PTSD iyenzeka emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu okanye esisongela ubomi, njengokuba sisengozini embi yemoto okanye ukulahlekelwa isihlobo esiseduze. Kwakhona kunokubonisa emva kokusetyenziswa kakubi kokuxhaphazwa okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Abantwana abane-PTSD banokufumana ama-flashbacks, babe neentlongo zobusuku, baqhawule ngokulula baze bahoxise kwabanye.
Ukuba ukuxhatshazwa komntwana wakho kwaba nakho kakubi kakhulu kwaye kwaqhubeka ixesha elide, kukho ithuba elongeziweyo lokuba unokuhlakulela i-PTSD.
Isifo sokuxhalabisa ngokubanzi (GAD) . Abantwana abanenkinga yokukhathazeka ngokuqhelekileyo badla ngokuxhalabisa kunye neengxaki eziphazamisayo kwimisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla.
Ngokomzekelo, banokukhalaza ukuba banaloo mvakalelo oqhubekayo wokuthi into embi iya kwenzeka. Kubangaphandle, abantu abane-GAD kubonakala ngathi banengxaki engapheliyo kodwa kukho nezinye iimpawu zomzimba. Ezi zibandakanya ukulala, ukuxhoma, ukungazinzi kunye nokukhathala. Akuqhelekanga ukuba amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa akhathazeke okanye ade alindele ukuba into embi iya kwenzeka. Emva koko, into embi yenzeke kubo xa bexhatshazwa. Ngenxa yoko, ukuxinezeleka okuphindaphindiweyo kunokuyichaphaza kwezinye iindawo zobomi babo kwaye kube yintlungu yokuxhalabisa.
Ukuhlaselwa ngumsindo . Abantu abahluphekayo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwengxaki kufuneka bajongane nokuhlaselwa okungafunekanga nokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngethuba lokuhlaselwa, baziva bevalo lokwenkqonkqhazo olubetha ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kwesixwayiso Ezinye iimpawu zingabandakanya ukujuluka, intlungu yesifuba, kunye neentliziyo ezinokukhawuleza okanye ezingaqhelekanga. Ukungaphenduliwe, ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiko kunokubangela ukuba abagulayo banqande ukuphuma okanye benze izinto abaye bazinandipha. Baxhalaba kukuba baya kuvela kwelinye isiqendu. Ngoko bahlala ngaphakathi, nje xa benokunye ukuhlaselwa kwesifo.
Uxinzelelo lwentlalo . Xa umntu esaba ukuhlazeka okanye ukubonwa kakubi ngabanye, banokuba neengxaki zokuxhalaba kwentlalo.
Abantu abanalesi sifo banenkxalabo yokuzimela malunga neemeko zentlalo yansuku zonke. Ukoyika kwabo kukuba abanye baya kubagweba. Bakhathazeka kukuba indlela abajonga ngayo okanye benze ngayo iya kubangela abanye ukuba bagcuke. Kwiimeko ezinzima, abantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalaba kwentlalo banqanda ukubuthana kwezentlalo ngokupheleleyo. Akumangalisi ukuba amaxhoba okuxhaphaza aya kuba neengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu, ingakumbi xa behlazeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo okanye bahlaziswe esidlangalaleni. Inkolelo yabo kukuba ukuhlazeka kwabo bafunda esikolweni okanye kwimisebenzi yesikolo kuya kubakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Oko Unokukwenza Ngokukhathazeka Kwezingane Zakho
Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkxalabo yokuxhalabisa, kukho ezinye izicwangciso zokujamelana nazo ezinokuphumelela xa ukwesaba komntwana okanye ukuhlaselwa koxinzelelo kungekho nzima.
Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantu bafumana ukuba ukudweba, ukudweba okanye ukubhala iingxaki zabo kunceda. Akukona nje kuphela lo mkhuba ukubancedisa ukukhulula uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba, kodwa kubuye kuqondise ingqondo yabo ukusebenzisa i-creativelet emoyeni. Ezinye iindlela ziquka ukufundisa iindlela zokuphucula umntwana, ukumkhuthaza ukuba asebenze, kunye nokuthandaza okanye ukucamngca.
Kodwa xa ukwesaba umntwana okanye izinto ezixhalabileyo zibalulekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ziphazamisa ubomi bakhe ngandlela-thile, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lwezakhono . Ingcali yomntwana wakho inokuncoma umcebisi onokumisela uhlobo loxinzelelo lwengxakini olukhoyo. Umcebisi unokunceda umntwana wakho asebenze ngokuxhatshazwa kwakhe. Ukuthetha nomntu malunga nokuxhatshazwa kunceda abantwana kunye nesinyathelo esibalulekileyo ekuphiliseni.