Gweba ukulinganisela phakathi kokugqithisa kakhulu kunye nokugqithisa kakhulu
Ukukhetha imiphumo efanelekileyo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokubamba indlela yokuziphatha kwezingane zakho. Kodwa ukhetha imiphumo efanelekileyo kwiimeko nganye - ngaphandle kokuba unxilongo okanye unzima kakhulu - kunzima, ngakumbi xa unomzali ngokwakho. Ukuba ukhathazeka ukuba izicwangciso zokuziphatha ozisebenzisayo ngoku azisebenzi, ke yithuba lokuphinda ucinge ngemiphumo oyikhethile ukuyisebenzisa.
Iziphumo ezifanelekileyo
Imiphumo efanelekileyo ifundisa abantwana bethu ukuba balawula ukuziphatha kwabo - nangona xa singekho ukuba sibagxeke. Ziye zafaniswa ukufanisa isigaba ngasinye sokuphuhlisa umntwana, ngoko asizange silindele ngaphezu kokuba abantwana bethu bakwazi.
Ezi ziphumo zemiphumo emihle zinokwahlula kwiindidi ezimbini: iziphumo zemvelo kunye nemigqaliselo.
- Imiphumo yemvelo yinto eyenzeka ngokwabo ngenxa yendlela yokuziphatha komntwana. Umzekelo, ukulahlekelwa kwefowuni yakho kuthetha ukuba awusenayo ifowuni ukuyisebenzisa. Ukulibala umsebenzi wesikolo kuthetha ukufumana i-zero.
- Imiphumo engqiqo yimiqathango esithathayo , njengabazali, ukunceda abantwana bethu babone ukuba ukukhetha ukuziphatha kakubi kuza nemiphumo embi engathandekiyo. Ezi zijeziso ngenxa yokuba abagwebi. Imiphumo yengqiqo ayimonakalo ngokomzimba okanye emoyeni. Umzekelo wawuya kubakho abantwana bakho belele embhedeni emva kokungavumi ukuya kulala ngexesha. Isiphumo sinxulumene nokuziphatha, kwaye kuyaqondakala kwimeko. Kwakungenelisekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba abayi kuthanda ukuvalelwa ngokufanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngoko kusebenza njengomgqugquzeli wokuguqula ukuziphatha kwabo.
Kuzo zombini iimeko, ufuna abantwana bakho babone ukuba ngokwenene bakhetha imiphumo yabo ngokwabo xa bekhetha ukuziphatha kwabo. Unokwenza ngale ndlela ezimbini:
- Ukuthetha kunye nezingane zakho phambili malunga nemiphumo. Into oya kwenzayo xa abantwana bakho behlukumeza akufanele kube yimfihlakalo. Bamele babe neengcamango ezintle zezinto ezizayo, ngokusekelwe kwimithetho yentsapho ecacileyo. Ngale ndlela, banokubona ukuba ukuphepha ukuziphatha kakubi kubanceda kubo, kuba bayazi ngaphambili oko kuya kubabiza.
- Ukuhlala bezolile xa abantwana bakho bekhohlakele. Xa sithukuthelele abantwana bethu ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo, senza umcimbi malunga nathi kunokuba senze ntoni ngabo. Ukwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuhlala sizolile, sibatshutshise, obonisa ubungqina bombandela. Kwaye kwakhona kuphelisa umzabalazo wamandla ophazamisa abantwana bethu ukuba bagxile kwizinto eziye zaqalisa umphumo - ukuziphatha kwabo!
Imizekelo yeziphumo ezifanelekileyo
Nazi imimiselo yemiphumo efanelekileyo yeminyaka kubantwana beminyaka yonke:
Iintsana - Iintsana azidingeki ukuba zijeziswe, ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ufuna ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho. Ngokomzekelo, masithi uthatha ithoyilo kwizandla zomntwana wakho osekhulile, okanye ukuphosa i-spoon yakhe emhlabathini ngenzame yokwenza ukuba uyiphinde uyikhumbule - ngekhulu lekhulu! Nazi ezinye iindlela ozithathayo:
- Tshintsha ithoni yakho yezwi. Ingane yakho inentlonelo yethoni yezwi oyisebenzisayo. Ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngezwi lakho, thetha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ejulile, ithoni. "Ewe" elula ngokuqhelekileyo iyakwanela ngokudibanisa nokuhlaziya.
- Phinda uqondise umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi eyahlukileyo. Oku kuthetha ukunceda umntwana wakho ugxile kwenye into. Umzekelo, xa ezama ukuthabatha ithoyizi yesandla somntwana wakho osekhulile, mnike enye into yokudlala nayo.
Iintsana - Ukongeza kwimiphumo echazwe ngasentla (kwiintsana), ungongeza ixesha kwi-repertoire yakho. Oku kuthetha ukubeka umntwana wakho kwindawo ehlukile, njengesihlalo esikhethekileyo ukunyathela, imizuzu embalwa. Ixesha lokuphuma alikho ixesha elide lokusebenza, nokuba kunjalo. Iqhinga lokuyeka ukubandakanyeka nomntwana wakho ngelixa ephumayo. Kufuneka ummncede ukuze usebenze! Nika inani lenani elilingana nelanga lakhe. Ngako-ke uneminyaka emithathu ubudala kwakuya kuphuma ixesha elingaphezu kwemizuzu emithathu.
Abafundi besikolo samabanga aphantsi - Kubafundi besikolo, uya kufuna ukusebenzisa iindlela ezifanayo ozenzayo xa abantwana bakho bebancinci (kubhalwe ngasentla), ngelixa udibanisa i-twist ngexesha eliqhelekileyo.
Zama ukubeka amathoyizi okanye amalungelo kwixesha! Oku kuya kusebenza kakuhle ukuba i-toy ihamba ngexesha elide lide, okanye xa kwenzeka ukulahlekelwa amalungelo, ilahleko lihlala ixesha elifutshane. Abafundi besikolo abangekho badala ngokwaneleyo okwakungashukunyiswa yinto ethile.
I-Age-Age Children - Ukongezelela kwiindlela zobuchule ezisetyenziselwa abantwana abasesikolweni (ezibhalwe ngasentla), uya kufuna ukukhetha amalungelo amaninzi anokuthintela. Umzekelo, ukushiya umhla wokudlala ekuqaleni okanye ukulahleka ixesha leTV okanye ixesha lekhompyutha.
I-Tweens - Ukongeza kuzo zonke iziphumo ozisebenzisayo ukufikelela kweli nqaku, uya kufuna ukuzithobela kwimiphumo eya kubaluleke kakhulu phakathi kwakho. Umzekelo, ukulahlekelwa kwefowuni, amalungelo omdlalo wevidiyo, okanye ixesha kunye nabahlobo.
Abaselula - Njengokuba kunye neyesibini, uza kufuna ukulungelelanisa amalungelo okhethayo ukuwathatha kwimeko kunye nokuba yintoni eyenza umehluko kumntwana wakho. Eminye imizekelo ibandakanya ukususa okwesikhashana i-Facebook okanye amalungelo okuqhuba, ukuhambisa ixesha lakho lokufika kwexesha elivisayo, kunye nokunciphisa inkululeko abayifumene kweli nqanaba. Kuphela kufuneka ukhethe ngokulandelelana ngexesha lokuba liphumelele. Kwiimeko apho umntwana wakho engabonakali ukuba ufumanisa le ngongoma, kunokunceda ukubhala isivumelwano esichaza iintlobo zemiphumo engayilindela kwizonyango ezahlukeneyo.
I-Power of Positive Reinforcement
Ukuseka isethi yemiphumo efanelekileyo akuyi kuyenza inkohliso ngaphandle kokuba uvumele abantwana bakho bazi ukuba benza ntoni. Ngoko qiniseka ukuba unomnqweno wokusebenzisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukugubha iziphathamandla ofuna ukuba izingane zakho ziphinda emva kosuku. Kholelwa ukuba ngokwenene bafuna imvume yakho, nangona bengabonakali, kwaye babukeka bephezulu kwaye bephantsi kwezinto onokuzidumisa kwaye uzivume ngokwenene.