Yaye Indlela Echaphazela Ngayo Abantwana Abakhuthazayo
Kwizikolo nakwikhaya, isijeziso somntu (CP) xa umzali, umgcini wezomthetho, okanye umlawuli wezemfundo ezama ukuyeka ukuziphatha okungafunekiyo ngokubangela umntwana ukuba azive engathandeki ngokomzimba okanye intlungu. Ijeziso esilunxwemayo siquka ukubetha , ukubetha umntwana, ukubetha ngesandla esivulekile, isibalo, okanye into enjengebhanti, utshintshi, intambo, i-paddle, ibhodi okanye i-fly fly.
Nangona iNkundla ePhakamileyo yaseUnited States yayigweba ngo-1977 ukuba isohlwayo semimango sisona sisimo semvume esivumelekileyo kwizikolo, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba sigxothwe ekutyeni okanye ekutshintsheni, umthetho wendawo uvumelekile ukuba ungaphezulu kwesi sizathu.
Ekhaya, nangona kunjalo, xa ukhetha isigqibo sokuthi uqeqesho olufanelekileyo kumntwana ophantsi kokunyamekela umntwana, imigaqo elawula ukuba yeyiphi iindidi zesigwebo sokuziphatha kakubi njengento yokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana ihluka ngolawulo lwengingqi kunye noluntu. Ijeziso esithintekayo siquka ukuguquka kweendlebe, ukubeka isuphu eshushu kumlonyeni wengane, ukuvalela umntwana egumbini, ukudibanisa umntwana phantsi, nokucela umntwana ukuba asebenze ngokuzivocavoca okanye angavumeli umntwana ukuba aye ngasese.
Ukuguqulwa kokuQondwa kweNtlalo yeCP
Ukususela kwisigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo se-1977, amaninzi karhulumente kunye nee-arhente zendawo ziye zaqalisa imithetho emitsha elawula oko kwaye ayibonakali njengokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana xa kuvela ekukhutshweni kwamanyathelo okuthotyelwa kumntwana ongenakulungiswa.
Amazwe angama-31 kuphela, kunye ne-DC kunye nePuerto Rico, baye baqalisa ukukhutshwa kwesihlwayo esikolweni, nakwezinye iingu-19 ezithi zivumele ukuba ziqhubeke, kuphela i-Alabama, Arkansas, kunye ne-Mississippi zisasebenzisa le ndlela yokuthotyelwa rhoqo.
IGeorgia, eLouisana, eMissouri, eKorea, eTennessee naseTexas, ngokukodwa kwiidolophana ezincinci, ezisemaphandleni, zisasebenzisa le ndlela yohlwayiso ngokuqhelekileyo kodwa ngezinga eliphantsi.
I-Canada, iKenya, uMzantsi Afrika, iNew Zealand, kunye nabo bonke abaseYurophu baye banqanda lo msebenzi.
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, i-arhente yamalungelo oluntu ngamazwe sele eqhubezela imithetho engqongqo emhlabeni jikelele ukukhusela abantwana ukuba bangaba yintlupheko engekho nto, nangaluphi na uhlobo.
Ngaphaya kowe-1989 kwiNkomfa yamaLungelo eMntwana kwiZizwe eziManyeneyo, amazwe ngamazwe ahlanganisene ukuba "athathe zonke iindlela ezifanelekileyo zomthetho, ezokuphatha, ezentlalo kunye nemfundo ukukhusela umntwana kuzo zonke iintlobo zobundlobongela ngokomzimba okanye ngokwengqondo, ukulimala okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi, ukunganakwa okanye ukunyanzelwa unyango, ukuphathwa kakubi okanye ukuxhaphazwa. "
Funda indlela yokuqeqesha abantwana bakho ngaphandle kokugxeka .
Ukuhlawulwa kweNkohlakalo akufanelekanga kubaNtwana abaNtliziyo
Ukusetyenziswa kwesilwanyana esingasesikweni akufanelekanga kubantwana abakwinkathalo yabantwana, ngokukodwa kuba abantwana abaninzi abamkelweyo baye baxhatshazwa kakubi kunye nokungahoywa kwimizi yabo yokuzalwa.
Ukuphathwa kakubi ngamanye amaxesha kumshiya umntwana enoxinzelelo oluphezulu ngenxa yentlungu. Umnakekeli okhungathekileyo unokuqala ngokutywina umntwana, kodwa xa bengayifumani impendulo abayifunayo kumntwana, qala ukutshatyalaza kunzima. Ukongezelela, isohlwayo sonyango singabangela iingcamango ezimbi zokusetyenziswa kakubi kwexesha elidlulileyo okanye ukukhusela umntwana ekwakheni isinamathiselo kumzali okanye kumzali owamkelayo.
Uninzi lwezengqondo zengqondo zengqondo zabantwana zikholelwa ukuba ukufundwa kwezinto zokuphila akufundiswa xa isiyalo sithukuthele kwaye sibuhlungu, kwaye isijeziso esithile siza kushiya umntwana ngokuxhalabisa kwaye sikwazi ukuthembela kumanani omzali.
Kwabaninzi abantwana abatsha okanye abazali abavayo, abangavunyelwa ukuba bathe umntwana kunzima ukuqonda njengoko baninzi bethu bakhuliswa ngabazali ababetha. Ewe, ininzi lethu "yenzeke kakuhle," kwaye sinethemba lokuba, iingongoma ezingentla zikunceda ekuqondeni ukuba kutheni okanye ezinye iindidi zesigwebo somzimba azikho kumdla ophathwa kakubi okanye ukunyanzeliswa ngumntwana okanye umnqweno ongcono kunentsapho okanye umntwana owamkelayo uzama ukunamathela kumntwana.
Noko ke, kukho ezinye iinketho ezininzi xa kuziwa ekuqeqesheni abazali abancinci nabazali abathandayo.