Ngaba ukhathalele ukuba unogqirha wesilisa okanye wesibini?
Xa kuziwa kwingcali yakho ingxoxo yesini ishushu phakathi kwabasetyhini. Ngaba kufuneka ukhethe ugqirha wesilisa okanye wesibini ? Ngaba umntu unelungelo ngaphezu komnye? Abafazi abaninzi bathi ewe, kukho ukungafani okukhulu, kanti abanye bathi akukho; konke kuxhomekeke kubuntu, kungekhona ngesini, ugqirha.
"Ndandifuna umntu onokuqonda into endiyenzayo xa ndikhulelwe.
Ngoko ndatshintshela kwindoda yesigqirha yamadoda rhoqo kwintokazi, kuba wayenabantwana, "utsho u-Andrea okokuqala.
Ngaba ukwazi ukuba ulwaphulo luthanda ukuthatha ugqirha wakho ngugqirha? Mhlawumbi akunakwenzeka, ingakumbi ngokuqwalasela ukuba kukho oogqirha abangabakhange babele okanye abazange banqatshelwe. Oku kunokuba yinto enceda ngovelwano, kodwa kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokukunceda kule nto engenanto yokwenza ngokwabo.
Uthi ugqirha wam wesilisa wayesekho xa ndaya emsebenzini. Umongikazi wandixelela ukuba wayengudokotela wesibini, "kusho uRobin, wokuzalwa kwakhe kokuqala. Ndikhumbula ndicinga, 'Oya kuba kuhle kwaye aqonde.' Kwakungenjalo, wayebuhlungu! Ugqirha wam wesilisa wayenomdla kakhulu. "
Enye into esivame ukuyibala kukuba iinjongo zesini; oogqirha bonke baye baqeqeshwa ngokusemthethweni kwinkqubo efanayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba baninzi kangakanani indlela abahambelana ngayo nezigulane banokulandelwa kwinkqubo yabo yoqeqesho kwaye kungekhona ubulili babo, kungabhekiseli ubuntu obuyisiseko.
Kuya kuba yinto engathethiyo yokuba bonke abantu basabela ngendlela enye kunye nabanye abafazi. Ubomi abusebenzi nje ngaloo ndlela. Sifumene namava ethu adlulileyo, ukuqeqeshwa kwethu, kwaye sinobani nje thina sonke.
Ngaba ingxabano yesini iqhube kwezinye iindawo? Ukubetha kuyenza. Khangela ukunyuka kwindlovu. Abasetyhini bathi bafuna ukunyamekelwa ngabanye bafazi.
Umbelekazi uthetha nomfazi . Oko kwathiwa, kukho abangaphezu kwamancinci angamadoda angaphantsi. Abaninzi babo basemkhosini, kodwa oko kusasazeka kwiindawo ezininzi. Heck, kukho i-doulas yamadoda ngaphandle apho isebenza ngokuvuya kunye ngempumelelo kwilizwe lokuzalwa.
Abanye bayazibuza ukuba oku kuvumelekile. Inyaniso yembandela kukuba abasetyhini bakhetha ukubona abaxhomekeke kwizizathu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo , kubandakanya ubulili kwabanye, kodwa nakwindawo, apho bahlala khona, yintoni i-inshurensi ayithathayo kunye nefilosofi zabo. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo ukuba kutheni ungavumeli amadoda ukuba asebenze umthambo wesiqhelo? Emva kwakho konke, unokhetho lokungahambi nale nkqubo.
Eminye imikhuba iyakhupha yonke into yesini (amadoda okanye amabhinqa) kulabo abakhethayo.
"Ndifuna ngokwenene ugqirha," watsho uCheri, kunye nosana lwakhe lwesibini. "Andizange ndicinge ukuba ndingakwazi ukulawula ukuba ugqirha wayehlala ekhona, kodwa ubuncinci kuzo zonke iintlobo zabasetyhini ndazi ukuba umva wam uya kuba ngumfazi kwaye yiloo nto ndayifuna."
Nangona abafazi abaninzi bekhetha ukhetho ngokwesini kwabo oogqirha okanye ababelethisi, isifundo esenziwe yi-American College ye-OB / GYNs (ACOG) ithi abaninzi abafazi abanalo ukhetho kumntu okanye kumfazi.
Oku kuthethi, kuyaqhubeka kukuba abesetyhini baya kuqhubeka nokukhetha oogqirha kunye nabanye oogqirha ngokusekelwe kwizizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ezi zizathu zobuqu zihlala zizinto ezibalulekileyo kulolu khetho olubaluleke kakhulu.