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Kukho izicwangciso zendlela zokuziphatha ezinokubangela ukuba iingxaki zokuziphatha zabantwana zibe zibi nakakhulu. Nangona zihlala zisetyenziselwa iinjongo ezilungileyo, ezi zixhobo zendlela yokuziphatha ziyakwazi ukubuyela.
1. Ukumema
Kukho mhlawumbi akukho umzali kwiplanethi engazange aphakamise izwi lakhe kumntwana ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukugcoba ngokungapheliyo kubantwana akuncedi.
Kubangela ukuba abantwana baxoxe nabazali ngaphandle, oku kuthetha ukuba abanako ukulandela izikhokelo.
Abantwana banqwenela ukukhala ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uyabetha rhoqo, ilahlekelwa yimpembelelo efunwayo kwaye ingabangela ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukulwa nayo. Ngenxa yoko, abayi kuphulaphula umyalezo ozama ukuwathumela kwaye banokuphinda baphinde baphinde baziphathe.
2. Ukudibana
Ukuzibandakanya kufundisa abantwana abangenayo ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Xa abantwana bayazi ukuba akudingeki bakhumbule oko bafanele bakwenze namhlanje ngenxa yokuba umzali uya kubagxotha ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abafaki nayiphi na umzamo wokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukuzibandakanya kungakhokelela kubantwana ukuba banike "I-know!" Impendulo. Ikhuthaza abantwana ukuba baphikisane okanye bathembisa ukukwenza emva koko, endaweni yokuthatha inyathelo ngoku. Yenza indawo yokuguqa kunye nokuba ... ke isitatimenti kwaye uya kufumana iziphumo ezingcono.
3. Ukusongelwa kwakhona
Ukuba unika abantwana iintsongelo eziphindaphindiweyo ngaphandle kokulandela, baya kufunda ngokukhawuleza ukuba awunzima kakhulu ngamaxesha ambalwa othethayo into ethile.
Emva kwakho konke, kutheni umntwana ephulaphule ukuba uyazi ukuba awuyi kuthatha loo ndlu ukuya ku-Grandma indlu ngeveki?
Kuphela kusongela ukuthatha amalungelo okanye ukunika umphumo ombi , xa ulungele ukulandela. Uqeqesho olungqinelanayo luyimfuneko ukuba ufuna ukuziphatha komntwana ukutshintsha.
4. Izifundo
Andizange ndive ngomntwana ebona impazamo yezindlela zakhe emva kwintetho ende. Enyanisweni, iintetho ezimide zibangela ukuba abantwana baphucule abazali. Esikhundleni sokuphulaphula umyalezo wakho, umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba ungathandi kangakanani ukuphulaphula xa uthetha inkulumo ende.
Gcina iingcaciso zakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho ngokufutshane. Chaza isizathu sokuba ufuna ukuziphatha ukutshintsha nokuchaza ulindelo lwakho ngekamva. Esikhundleni sokuphindaphinda uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba wenze ukhetho olubi, sebenzisa ithuba lokufundisa izakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki ngokubuza umntwana wakho oko angakwenza ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha elizayo.
5. Ukuhlekisa
Ukuhlazisa umntwana wakho ngokumnika isohlwayo esenzelwe ukuhlazisa ngaye akunakunceda. Nangona abazali abaninzi bexinzeleleke bazama nantoni na xa bebantwana bengenakulawulwa, ukuhlazeka kunokukwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu.
Izigwebo ezihlazo zibandakanya izinto ezifana nokunyanzela umntwana ukuba ahlale ngaphandle egqoke uphawu oluthi, "Ndiba kwaye ndicinga ukuba kuyamangalisa." Ukuxhomekeka komntwana ekuhlaziseni kunokunyusa umsindo wengane kwaye kwenza ukuba iziphatho zibe nzima nakakhulu. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenze ntoni malunga neengxaki zokuziphatha komntwana wakho , funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe kunokuba uzame ukumhlazisa.
6. Iziphumo ezingahambelaniyo
Ukunika umntwana umphumo ongahambelani ngokupheleleyo nokungaziphathi kakubi kunokudideka. Ukuba umntwana uxabela umntakwabo kunye nabazali bakhe benze ukuba abhale ngokuphindwe ngama-100, "andiyi kukubetha umntakwethu," ayifundisi indlela yokulungisa ingxabano ngokuthula. Kunoko, mhlawumbi kunokumthiya ukuzonda ukubhala.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokufundisa abantwana inemiphumo enengqiqo . Imiphumo yengqiqo inceda abantwana bakhumbule ukuba kutheni bafumana umphumo kwaye umvimbela umntwana ukuba angaphinda ukuziphatha kakubi kwixesha elizayo.
7. I sohlwayo
Abazali abaninzi baye basongela umphumo wokugqwetha, njengokuthi, "Unomxholo wonyaka!" Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhoma umntwana ngomnyaka kungenakwenzeka ukuba kube yimpumelelo .
Ukuba umntwana wakho ulahlekelwa ngamalungelo akhe onke, okanye ulahlekelwe lilungelo ixesha elide, uya kulahlekelwa yimpembelelo yokuziphatha.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banokuyeka xa beziva belahlekelwe yinto yonke. Ndibonile abazali bekhipha yonke into ngaphandle kwendawo yokulala ngaphandle kombhede. Nangona kunjalo, phantse ihlala ibuyela ngenxa yokuba abantwana babala ukuba abazali abakwazi ukuthatha nantoni na into kwaye kusenza kube nzima ukunika nayiphi imiphumo emitsha .
Imiphumo emibi kufuneka ibe yinkathalo ngexesha. Abantwana bafanele baqonde oko bangakwenza ukuze baphinde baphinde bafumane amalungelo abo abalahlekelwe ngonaphakade.
8. Ukutshiza
Nangona kukho ukuphikisana okuninzi okujikelezayo, ukubetha umntwana ngokuqinisekileyo kwimizekelo yobudlova. Ukuba uthe wachaza umntwanakho ngenxa yokubetha umntakwabo, unika umntwana wakho umyalezo odibeneyo. Abantwana baya kufunda ukuba ukubetha kuyamkeleka xa ubetha.
Abantwana ababethelwa ngenyanga enyangeni yokugqibela banakho ukuziphatha ngokugqithisileyo, ngokuphathelele uphando olwenziwa ngo-2010 olupapashwe kwi-Pediatrics. I-American Academy ye-Pediatrics idikibala nayiphi na indlela yokusetyenziswa kwesilwanyana ; Nangona kunjalo, isifundo sifunde ukuba abaninzi abazali baqhubeka behlamba abantwana babo.
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