Abazali abaninzi banomuzwa wokuthi abantwana babo bangabikho kolawulo ngexesha elinye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, loo nto ivakalelwa ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abazali, ngaphandle kokulawulwa kwezingane baye baba yinto evamile. Abantwana babo benqaba ukuphulaphula, ukuphula imithetho, kwaye abanakukhathalela ngemiphumo.
Ukuba uvakalelwa njengabantwana bakho bangaphathi kolawulo, thatha amanyathelo okubuyisela amandla akho kwakhona.
Ukugcina igunya lakho kubalulekile kubomi bakho-kwaye kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho yemvakalelo.
Ukuseka iMithetho kuyimfuneko
Yikholwa okanye cha, abantwana bafana nemithetho kunye nemida. Izingane ziziva zikhuselekile xa zithemba abazali bazo ziinkokheli ezilungileyo ezinokumisela nokunyanzelisa imigaqo. Xa abantwana bengathembi ukuba abazali babo bangakwazi ukugcina umyalelo, bafumana ubunzima obukhulu. Kwaye ukuxinzezeleka kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha.
Izindlela Zokufumana Izingane Zakho Ukuphulaphula
Ukuba unzima ukufumana abantwana bakho ukuphulaphula, ezi zicwangciso zinokukunceda:
- Ukuseka imithetho yasekhaya . Ukunciphisa intshutshiso ngokudala uludwe olucacileyo lwemithetho. Gxininisa kwimigaqo ephambili efana ne "Sebenzisa amagama anomusa," kwaye "Buza ngaphambi kokuboleka izinto." Imithetho ingaqwalaselwa ngokulula xa ibhaliwe kwaye ixoxwa njengentsapho.
- Yakha isakhiwo kumhla wabantwana bakho . Yenza intsapho ngokwendlela ngokufaka isakhiwo esithile kwimini yomntwana wakho. Yenza ixesha lomsebenzi wesikolo, imisebenzi, isidlo, imisebenzi yentsapho kunye nokudlala. Emva koko, zama ukunamathela kwishedyuli kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngeentsuku zeveki.
- Nika imisebenzi . Ingaba abantwana bakho bane-4 okanye 14, kubalulekile ukunika imisebenzi efanelekileyo yeminyaka. Fumana abantwana bakho basebenzise ukugxina ukuze bakwazi ukuzenza amalungu enoxanduva kulentsapho.
- Sebenzisa ulawulo lomkhulu loqeqesho . Gxininisa oko abantwana bakho abakwenzayo, kunokuba bangenako . Ngoko endaweni yokuthi, "Akukho TVT ude uhlambulule igumbi lakho," tshela, "Ungabukela iTV ngokukhawuleza ukuba igumbi lakho licocekile." Nika izigqibo ezilungileyo eziza kunika umntwana wakho ulawulo oluncinane.
- Nika imiyalelo efanelekileyo . Indlela ohambisa ngayo imiba. Qiniseka kwaye uqonde kwaye unikeze umyalelo omnye ngexesha. Sebenzisa ilizwi elizolileyo uze uqinisekise ukuba unengqalelo yomntwana wakho phambi kokuba uthethe.
Ukubonelela ngemiphumo yokuziphatha kakubi
Yenza imiphumo ecacileyo yokuphula imithetho. Kubalulekile ukuhambelana nemiphumo. Xa abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba ukuphulwa komthetho ngamnye kuya kubangela umphumo osheshayo, abayi kuba lula ukungaziphathi kakuhle.
Ukuqwalasela ngenyameko zeziphi zeziphumo ziyakwazi ukusebenza kakuhle kumntwana ngamnye:
- Ixesha lokuphuma : Imisebenzi yokuhamba ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka yobudala engama-8. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqabe ukuphuma ngexesha, okanye akayi kuhlala ephumeni, musa ukumnyanzela. Kunoko, thatha ilungelo.
- Thatha ilungelo : Thatha i-elektroniki, ithoyiyithandi oyintandokazi, okanye umsebenzi ovela kumntanakho. Qinisekisa ukuba awuthathe loo malungelo kude kube kude kakhulu. Umntwana wakho unokuyeka okanye angenza kakubi xa uthatha amalungelo amaninzi okanye uyasusa iintsuku okanye iiveki ngexesha.
- Ukubuyiselwa : Ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana wakho kumchaphazela omnye umntu, ukubuyisela kungenziwa ngokufanelekileyo. Mxelele ukuba enze umsebenzi owenzakeleyo okanye umbolekisile ithoyizi ayithandayo kwixhoba.
- Imiphumo engqiqo : Nika umntwana wakho ithuba lokuthatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe. Ukuba ubala ngemibala, yenza ukuba ahlambe. Ukuba uyaphula into ethile, yenza ukuba ahlawule ukuze alungise.
Musa ukuphazamiseka ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kubonakala kukubi kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba kulunge. Xa uqala ukunikela ngemiphumo, umntwana okhuphe ngaphandle oya kuphelisa. Xa ekubona ukuba uzimisele ngokulandela imiphumo, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuya kuzinza.
Nika Abantwana Bakho Abakhuthazayo Ukukwenza Kulungile
Ukuba umntwana wakho akashukunyiswa ukuba alandele imithetho, unokufuna ezinye izikhuthazo ezongezelelweyo zokumgcina endleleni.
Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo ukumkhuthaza ukuba alandele imigaqo.
Nazi ezinye izikhuthazo ezinokuphucula ukuziphatha komntwana wakho:
- Ukunikezela indumiso : Gcina umntwana wakho entle. Yithi izinto ezinje, "Ndiyayixabisa ukuba ubeka isidlo sakho kwisitya," okanye "Siyabonga ngokudlala ngokucace xa ndisefowuni." Ukuqwalasela okulungileyo kunokuhamba ixesha elide ekukhuthazeni abantwana ukuba baqhubeke nomsebenzi omhle.
- Ukuvuza umgangatho wokuziphatha kakuhle : Ingaba udala isatidi esitikiti ejolise ekuziphatheni komntu othile okanye wenze ishadi lokuziphatha eligcina ukuziphatha kweendlela ezininzi kwiveki, imivuzo ebonakalayo ingakhokelela ekuguquleni ukuziphatha. Gcinani engqondweni zikhona iintlawulo ezininzi zamahhala kunye nezindleko eziphantsi ezisebenza njengezikhuthazi ezilungileyo. Enye ingcamango ehle kakhulu kukuba uye kwivenkile yakho yasekuhlaleni yeedola kwaye ulayishe kwizinto ozozikhetha kumntwana wakho.
- Ukuseka inkqubo yecandelo loqoqosho : Bonisa umntwana wakho amalungelo, njengokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo okanye ukuya epakini, kufuneka ufumane. Misela inkqubo yecandelo loqoqosho elivumela ukuba umntwana wakho abe nemali kwiimpawu zakhe zamalungelo.
Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Ukuba izicwangciso zakho zokuziphatha azisebenzi, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe . Qala ngokuthetha nomntwana wengane yakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Ugqirha unokukwazi ukukuthumela kwiingcali ezifanelekileyo zenkonzo kwindawo yakho.
Ingcali ingakwazi ukunika wena nabantwana bakho ngeendlela zokungenelela, izakhono kunye nenkxaso eyokukunceda ukuba uphinde ulawule umzi. Abaqeqeshi babazali kunye namaqela enkxaso yabazali banokuba nezixhobo ezixabisekileyo.
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