"Nika uMkhulu kunye noTatomkhulu ukuba bahambe ngokukhawuleza!" Le ngxelo ishiwo rhoqo kwiintsapho ezininzi zentsapho. Kodwa kukho isizathu esilungileyo ongasifuni ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba agxume okanye amanga umntu-kuquka izihlobo.
Ingxaki ngokugxininisa kwi-Hugs kunye ne-Kisses
Xa unikeza umyalelo wakho wabantwana , njengaye, "Thatha amathoyizi," uchaza ukuba kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi xa engayithobeli.
Unomtshilo kumntwana wakho ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani, kubalulekile ukwenza oko utshoyo.
Ngoko ke xa uthi "nikezele kunye nokuwanga," ucinga ukuba kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi xa engenzi oko utshoyo. Kufana nokuthi, "Andikhathali ukuba ukhululekile nalo okanye awukho, bonise uthando nantoni na."
Xa umntwana eziva eyanyanzelekile ukuba abonise uthando, ufumana umyalezo ongalawulwa ngumzimba wakhe. Kwaye umyalezo oyingozi kubantwana ukufumana.
Abantwana abacinga ukuba kufuneka bahambisane nezicelo zomntu omdala zothando, banokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo.
Ukuba umntwana uxelelwa ngumbusi ukuba enze into engakwazi ukuyenza, unokuziva enyanzelekile ukuthobela. Kodwa, umntwana oye wafundiswa, "Umzimba wakho kwaye utsho u-cha kwizinto ongazifuni ukuzenza," kunokwenzeka ukuba akwazi ukuthi hayi xa umntu emcela ukuba enze into engakhululekile ukwenza .
Thumela umyalezo ococekileyo ngeBhunga lomntwana wakho
Xa ufundisa umntwana unelungelo lokukhetha ukuba ufuna ukuba umntu amkhawuleze, okanye ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kumkhwa womntu, umbonisa ukuba unako ukwenza ezo zigqibo ngokusekelwe kwinqanaba lakhe lokuthuthuzela.
Yakha umthetho wekhaya othi akukho mntu ufanele adibanise nomntu nabani-kuquka nezihlobo-ukuba abafuni.
Yenza kucace kumntwana wakho ukuba akadingeki ukuba abonise uthando lomzimba ukukholisa umntu. Kungenxa yokuba umntu uzama ukugweba umntwana ukuba anike ukumbamba, hleze athetha ukuba kufuneka akwenze.
Ngoko ukuba uTatom uthi, "Ndikunike isipho namhlanje ngoku uyeza undibambe ngokumnandi uzondibonisa ukuba ungakuthandi kangakanani!" okanye umalume uthi, "andiyi kukuvumela ukuba ube necookie ngaphandle kokuba unginike inkunzi yokuqala," ungene uze ukhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba akayi kuyenza.
Fundisa umntwana wakho, "Uphethe umzimba wakho kwaye uyayichukumisa." Lo ngumyalezo obalulekileyo umyalezo wabantwana ukuba baphathe nabo ubomi babo bonke.
Umntwana wakho uya kulungeleka ngakumbi ukulwa nokunyuka kwesondo emva koko ebomini xa enqaba ukuvumela abanye ukuba bamthobele ekubeni ngumnxeba. Akukho mfuneko yokubonisa uthando nje ngokuba umntu uthi, "Kuya kuphazamisa umvakalelo wam ukuba ungenjalo," okanye "Imilinganiselo enhle yokumanga abantu abadala abacela ukumanga."
Ukubonga kunye neZahlulo
Abazali abaninzi banenkxalabo yokuba kungabikho umntu okhuphayo oza kubonwa njengento ekhohlakeleyo. Ngenxa yoko, bathetha izinto ezinje, "Kodwa u-tunt uTrudy uhambela kanye ngonyaka. Okuncinci ongakwenzayo kumnika umququzelelo! "Kodwa ngokwenene, abantwana abahlala bengaboni kangcono umntu, impilo yabo ibe yinto enhle ukuba bangabi nantoni kunye nomzimba wabo.
Zama ukuthetha into enjengale, "Ungathanda ukunika uMalume uBilly isikhala ngaphambi kokushiya?" Ukuba umntwana wakho unqabile, ungawuxinzezeli.
Unokubuza into enye, "Ungathanda ukumnika indawo ephakamileyo ezintlanu?" Kodwa yenza ukuba kucace ukuba kulungile ukuhla.
Ukuba isihlobo sisithi, "Ndiphe i-hug!" Kunye nomntwana wakho akanakunomdla, angenelele ngokuthi, "Ngaba unqwenela ukunika ingqungquthela okanye ukhetha ukutshintsha nje?" Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufundise bakho abahlobo, amalungu omndeni kunye nezinye iindwendwe ukuba awuyikunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba abe nomzimba.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukuxhaphaza izandla kukukhetha xa uhlangana nabantu abatsha.
Thetha malunga nokuba kulungele njani ukuxhaphaza izandla xa udibana nootitshala abatsha be-piano okanye xa ubingelela umkhokeli omtsha we-scout.
Chaza ukuba ukuphakama okuphezulu njengendlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisana nabaqeqeshi okanye ootitshala nabo. Kodwa cacisa ukuba akayi kuhlwayelwa ngokukhetha ukungabandakanyeki kunye nabanye.
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