Ukuphononongwa kweNdalo yabantwana kunye nokuzimelela kuqala
Ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo, izimvo ezingenayo kunye nokuziphatha kakubi ngabantwana kuyisikhalazo esifanayo phakathi kwabazali, kwaye kunokubangela iingxaki ezithile kwiintsapho ukuba ukuziphatha akuvunyelwanga. Yintoni abazali nabazononophelo babantwana abangayenza ukuba bayeke ukuziphatha okungeke kwamkelekileyo? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:
Qaphela ukuba uluphi ulwimi olusetyenziswa KuMntwana wakho
Luhlobo luni lwentetho eyenzeka malunga nomntwana wakho?
Ulwaphulo olunjani, ukulwa nolwimi olungafanelekanga? Abantwana abalingisa abazali babo kwaye ukuba ubonisa iimpawu ezingathandekiyo, ngoko umntwana wakho uyaziphindaphinda. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ikhaya lakho alikho indawo umntwana wakho ekhetha ngayo izi ziphatha, qwa lasela ezinye iindawo ezikuyo, njengendlela ababonelela ngayo abantwana abanxibelelana nabantwana, kunye nokuba izihlobo zithetha njani. Ukuba uqaphela enye yengingqi yomntwana wakho apho ukuziphatha okubi kuvela khona, unokufuneka uguqule imo .
Phawula Iimvakalelo Zomntwana Wakho
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa umntwana ephendula, ubonisa ukuba ngumsindo, ukukhungatheka, ukwesaba okanye ukulimaza. Ukubuyisela emuva kuqinisekisa ukuba uya kuthobela ingqalelo, kwaye ingqwalasela engeyiyo ingcono kunokuba akukho. Ukuthetha emva nangeminye imiba yokuziphatha ixhaphake kakhulu ngexesha leenguqulelo, njengotsha olutsha endlini, utshintshe kwishedyuli yomsebenzi womzali okanye into eyenzeka esikolweni.
Umntwana wakho unokuziva enganyanzelwanga okanye eshiywe kwaye aphendulele intetho emva kokukufumana ukuba uqaphele.
Ukunyamekela Ukuzihlonela Kwamana Wakho, Ukuqonda Okungenamandla kunye neNqanaba leNduduzo
Ngaba lo mfana unomuzwa ongenamandla okanye akaphulaphuli? Ngaba ubonakala engenakho ukulawula? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba inkulumo-ntloko iyenzeka ngenxa yokuba umntwana ufumene ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokufumana umntu omdala ukumphulaphula nokufumana oko akufunayo?
Kwakhona, ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ukujongana nale miba kuqala kunokusombulula ingxaki.
Ukuseka ukuziphatha okulindelekileyo kwaye unikele ngezinye iindlela
Fundisa abantwana ukuba ukuthetha malunga nalo akuvumelekanga kwaye banike ezinye iindlela zokuthi zithini ilizwi. Yithi nje: "Ukuthetha ngale ndlela akuvunyelwe" kwaye unike umzekelo ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuthetha le nkcazo. Hlala uqinile kwaye ulandelelanise kwaye ulungelelanise oku kulindeleke kubo bonke abanonophelo. Ukubambisana kukubalulekileyo ekuguquleni ukuziphatha. Nika umntwana ngenye indlela, efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa ulwimi.
Iziphumo ezifundisa
Esi sifundo esibalulekileyo kufuneka siqondwe ngumntwana othethayo emva. Abantu abadala banokuthi: "andiyi kuthetha nawe okanye ndiphulaphule ngelixa unetoni nam. Emva kokuba utshintshe indlela othetha ngayo nam, ndiya kuvuya ukuphulaphula." Abazali kunye nabanakekeli mabahlale belandela ngokuphulaphula nokunyamekela ingqalelo xa umntwana eguqula ithoni yakhe.
Iindlela zokuQhagamshelana ezifanelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana akayazi ngokwenene ukucela izinto okanye ukuthetha. Kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo kunye nexesha (kwaye kungekhona xa umntwana sele ecela umngeni umntu omdala ngencoko ye-back-talk), uchaze ngokucacileyo umfana indlela yokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo . Ukuvuza umntwanakho amandla okuhlala kuluntu ngokuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba bayaqonda ukuba ukucela ngokuhlonipha kodwa akuthethi ukuba baya kufezekisa isiphumo abacelayo. Dumisani ukuziphatha komntwana wakho. Ungathi "Ndiyathanda indlela othe wabuza ngayo imizuzu emibini kwiPad kodwa lixesha lokutya."
Fundisa umntwana wakho Indlela yokusingatha ukuphazamiseka nokungafezeki
Amaxesha amaninzi athetha ngokubuya evela kumntwana oziva edidekile okanye enomsindo. Fundisa iindlela zakho zomntwana zokuhlangabezana nalo okanye ukudideka ilizwi okanye ukungabi namnandi ngaphandle kokuthetha nomntu omdala. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba akhulume uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo zokudabuka kwaye ungabhenkceli le mvakalelo emva koko uqhubeke ngesimo sengqondo.
Iimidlalo zoMdlalo
Qinisekisa ukuba iimpendulo ezingalunganga / iimpawu kufuneka zilandelwe rhoqo ukuxolisa kunye nokuzama ukuphinda kuthungathelanise umnxibelelwano kwi-ithoni ye "non-sassy". Ukudlala umdlalo kunye nomntwana wakho iindlela zokuthetha ngeemeko ezithile uze wenze kube mnandi kwaye uceke. Abantwana bathambekele ekuthatheni inxaxheba kwimidlalo engekho nto kwaye baya kukhumbula imidlalo xa ixesha lokuthetha kakuhle.