Ukuba uxelela umntwana wakho akakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle kwaye adlale ngenxa yokuba ibanda kakhulu, okanye ungatsho xa ucela ukuba ahambe endlwini yomhlobo ngaphambi kokugqiba umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, ukuva igama elithi 'ayi' kanye ngexesha elifanelekileyo linokuba luhle bantwana. Ibeka umda ocacileyo kwaye xa isetyenziswe ngokufanelekileyo, ibonisa ukuba uyanyamekela.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuxelela umntwana, kodwa awona onke asebenzayo.
Ukuba uthe u-no kumntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukubonisa ukuba uthetha oko.
Nika impendulo engqiqweni
Ukuva izinto ezifana, "Hayi, siya kubona ..." okanye "mhlawumbi akunjalo," kunokukhathaza abantwana. Kwaye baya kuthandaza, bavule, bacele ukuba bajike i-wishy-didhy no-yeah.
Xa uthetha cha, yenza impendulo yakho iqonde. Yithi, "Hayi, awukwazi ukwenza oko namhlanje," okanye "Hayi, asiyi kuhamba khona." Yitsho ngendlela eqinile, enegunya lokubonisa ukuba uthetha ishishini.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokubakho amaxesha apho impendulo 'mhlawumbi.' Kuloo matyala, yenza ukungaqiniseki kwakho ngokucacileyo ngokucacisa ukuba kutheni kunokungaqiniseki. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Andiqinisekanga ukuba siya kukwazi ukuya elunxwemeni. Siza kufuneka silinde size sibone indlela imozulu ijonge ngayo isidlo sasemini. "
Ukunikezela Inkcazo emfutshane
Intsingiselo emfutshane malunga nokuba kutheni ungatsho ukuthi akukho nto inokutshintsha ukukhanyela kwakho kumava okufunda. Ukuthi, "Hayi awukwazi ukuxhuma echibini ngaphandle kwengubo yakho yobomi," ngaphandle kwengcaciso akusizi.
Umntwana wakho unokucinga, "Andikwazi ukwenza oko kuba umama unentsingiselo," ngaphandle kokuqonda ingozi ekhoyo.
Zama ukuthetha into enje, "Hayi awukwazi ukuxhuma echibini ngaphandle kwebhokisi lakho lobomi ngenxa yokuba ungeyomelele ngokuzibhukuda ukuba udide yonke indlela ukuya kwelinye ekupheleni kwedama ngaphandle kwebhokisi lobomi." Xa umntwana wakho uyayiqonda isizathu esiphendule impendulo yakho angenako ukubeka ingozi xa ungekho khona ukumxelela.
Yenze iCacile Awuyi KuCanda
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukucwina , ukucela , okanye ukuncenga umntwana wakho, awuyi kunika. Ukutshintsha u-o wakho kwi-ewe kuya kuqinisa kuphela umntwana wakho ukuba awuthethi ukuba uthetha ntoni.
Nokuba uva izinto ezinje, "Kodwa wonke umntu uyenza loo nto!" Okanye, "Unyanisekileyo. Ndiya kuthiya! "Musa ukubuyela kwigama lakho. Khumbuza umntwana wakho, "Ndiyakuthanda kwaye ngumthetho wam," kwaye unqande ingxoxo.
Ukungaxolisi kunye nokugwema ukuphikisana malunga nempendulo yakho. Ungavumi ukubandakanya kwingxoxo enomsindo kwaye ungangeni kuyo nayiphi na imizabalazo yamandla .
Landela NgeZiphumo Xa Kuyimfuneko
Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kukuphazamisayo, landela ngokulandela. Ukumemeza, ukumemeza kunye nokuqhubeka nokuphazamiseka okuqhubekayo kunokusabela ngokugqithiseleyo kwixesha elifutshane .
Nika isilumkiso esisodwa xa kuyimfuneko. Yithi, "Ukuba ungayeki ukundincenga, ke uya kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza." Imiphumo engumngcipheko nayo yindlela efanelekileyo yokomeleza kumntwana wakho ukuba utsho ukuba akukho.
Ukujongana Neemvakalelo Zakho ngendlela ephilileyo
Nangona abanye abazali bengakuthandi ukuthi hayi ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukuthetha, abanye banokuziva benetyala lokuba umntwana wabo uphazamisekile. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo xa uthi u-no kunjalo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela ephilileyo kunye nefuthe.
Khumbuza ukuba kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho abe nemvakalelo engenakukhathazeka , njengentlungu nokudumala . Enyanisweni, ukuthetha ngokungafuni kwizicelo zomntwana kumnika ithuba lokuzibandakanya iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu .
Qiniseka ukuba utsho uEwe kaninzi
Ukuthi cha kuzo zonke izicelo zomntwana wakho kungonakalisa. Izingane zidinga ithuba lokuhlola indawo ezahlukeneyo kwaye uzame izinto ezintsha. Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba unike umntwana wakho imvume yokwenza izinto ezilungileyo ekuphuhliseni kwakhe.
Xa uzibamba uthi akukho nto, zibuze ukuba kutheni. Ngaba ukhathele?
Ngaba ukhathazeka ukuba uya kwenza umonakalo? Nangona kulungile ukuthi hayi ngezinye izihlandlo ngenxa yokuba awufuni ukwenza into ethile, musa ukuzikhusela ngokugqithiseleyo kumkhwa.