Fumana indlela abaxhatshazwayo bakhetha ngayo iithagethi zabo
Kukho izizathu ezibangela ukuba umntu ahlaselwe. Ziquka zonke izinto ukusuka kumbambano wobuntu ukuya kwindawo engafanelekanga ngexesha elingafanelekanga. Ngaphezu koko, nabani na onokuba yinjongo yokuxhatshazwa, enamandla, yezemidlalo kunye nezingane ezidumile.
Ukuxhatshazwa malunga nokukhetha okungalunganga oko kwenza umxhaphazi, kungekhona isiphoso esicatshulwa kuso. Uxanduva lokuxhatshazwa rhoqo luwela kumagxa omxhaphazi, kungekhona ixhoba .
Nangona kunjalo, kukho inani leentlobo zezingane ezihlala zijoliswe kubaxhasi.
Okulungileyo kwizinto abazenzayo
Amaninzi amaxesha abantwana baya kuxhatshazwa kuba bafumana ingqwalasela eninzi kwiontanga zabo nakubantu abadala. Le ngqalelo ingaba yinto yonke ukusuka ekugqweseni kwimidlalo , ukwenza i-squerleading squad, okanye ukufumana isikhundla somhleli kwiphephandaba lesikolo.
Abaxhasi bajolise kuba bafundi kuba baziva bephantsi okanye baxhalaba ukuba amandla abo aphezu kwamakhono. Ngenxa yoko, baxhaphaza la bantwana bafuna ukubenza bazive bekhuselekile kunye nokwenza abanye bangathandabuzeki.
Unengqiqo, Uzimisele kwaye UCwangciso
Esikolweni, aba bafundi bahamba kuloo mizuzu eyongezelelweyo emsebenzini wesikolo. Okanye bafunda ngokukhawuleza kwaye baphumelele ngeeprojekthi kunye nezabelo ngokukhawuleza kunabanye abafundi. Ngokomzekelo, abafundi abanesakhono bahlala bejoliswe ekuphumeleleni esikolweni. Abaxhatshazi bahlala bexhala ngenxa yokuba banomona ngale ngqalelo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu
Abantwana abangeniswayo, abaxhalabileyo, okanye abazithobelayo banokuxhatshazwa kakhulu kunabantwana abaye baxhomekeka kwaye baxhomekeke. Enyanisweni, abanye abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba abantwana abangenakuzithemba banokubethwa abantwana abakhohlisayo . Ngaphezu koko, abantwana ababandakanyekayo kubantu abathandekayo bahlala bejoliswe ngabaxhatshazwayo kuba kulula ukuyisebenzisa.
Ekugqibeleni, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abaneengxaki zokuxinezeleka okanye iimeko ezinxulumene noxinzelelo zingaphinda zixhatshazwe, nto leyo eyenza imeko leyo ibe nzima. Abaxhatshazi bakhetha ukhethe ezi ntwana kuba zilula kwaye zingenakukwazi ukulwa. Uninzi lwabantu abaxhatshazelayo bafuna ukuziva banamandla, ngoko bahlala bekhetha abantwana ababuthathaka kunabo.
Bambalwa okanye abahlobo
Amaxhoba amaninzi okuxhatshazwayo athetha ukuba nabahlobo abancinane kunabantwana abangenakuxhatshazwa. Basenokuthi banqatshelwe ngontanga yabo, bengabandakanywa kwiimicimbi zentlalo , kwaye banokuchitha ixesha lasemini baze bahlale bodwa.
Abazali kunye nootitshala banokuthintela ukuxhaphazwa kwabafundi abangabodwa ngokubancedisa ukuba bahlakulele ubuhlobo . Abaxhasi banokuxhasa aba bafundi ngokuzibandakanya nabo.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukuba umntwana unomngane omnye, amathuba akhe okuxhatshazwa atyhola kakhulu. Ngaphandle komhlobo wokubakhokelela, la bantwana banokuthi bajoliswe ngabaxhatshazwayo kuba akufanele bakhathazeke ngomntu oza kumncedisi wexhoba.
Eyaziwayo okanye Ethandwayo
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa kubhekiselele kubantwana abathandwayo okanye abathandwa kakhulu ngenxa yengozi abayifumanayo. Kuthetha ukuba amantombazana akhangeleke intombazana esongela ukuthandwa kwakhe okanye ukuhlala kwayo.
Uninzi lobudlova obusondeleyo luxhunyene ngqo nomzamo wokunyuka kwinqanaba lentlalo. Abantwana baza kusasaza amahemuhemu, baxhomeke ekubizeni amagama, baze batyelele kwi- cyberbullying ngenzame yokutshabalalisa ukuthandwa kwabo. Xa ezi zikolo zijoliswe kuyo, umxhaphazi ukhangele ukuhlambalaza amaxhoba aze abenze abe ngabathandekayo.
Iimpawu Zomzimba Ezikhawulelayo
Phantse nawuphi na uhlobo lwesimo somzimba ohlukileyo okanye oyingqungquthela unokutsala ingqalelo kubaxhatshazwayo. Kungenzeka ukuba ixhoba lifutshane, elide, elincinci, okanye eligqithiseleyo. Bokuba banxibe iilazi okanye babe ne-acne, impumlo enkulu, okanye iindlebe ezithatha ngaphandle.
Akunandaba nokuba yintoni, umxhaphazi uya kukhetha into kwaye ayiphambuke ekujoliswe kuyo.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, olu hlobo lokuxhatshazwa lubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye lunonakalisa ukuzithemba komntu omncinane. Uninzi lwabangqineli olujolise la bantwana bafumana ukuzonwabisa xa behlekisa abanye. Amanye amaxesha, bafuna ukuhleka kweendleko zomnye umntu.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokulwa nomxhaphazi ojolise kulolu hlobo lomntu, kukuthatha abaphulaphuli bakhe.
Ukugula okanye ukukhubazeka
Abaxhaphazi bahlala bejolisa abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa . Oku kunokubandakanya abantwana abane-Asperger, autism, ADHD, i-dyslexia, okanye nayiphi na imeko ebenza bahlukane. Abantwana abaneemeko ezinjengezilwanyana zokutya, i-asthma, I-Down syndrome, kunye nezinye iimeko nazo zijoliswe ngabaxhatshazwayo. Xa oku kwenzeka, abaxhatshazi babonisa ukungabi nangovelwano okanye benza amahlaya kwindleko yomnye umntu.
Kubalulekile ukuba ootitshala nabazali baqinisekise ukuba la bantwana bafumana iqela lokuxhasa kunye nabo ukuze bancede ukukhusela ukuxhatshazwa. Kwakhona kunceda ukuba ngaba abafundi abaqhelekileyo baxhamla kule ndlela yokuxhatshazwa ngokukodwa. Ukuba abaxhatshazi bayayazi le nto, abanako ukuyenza.
Ukwaziswa ngezesondo
Ngokuqhelekileyo kuninzi, abantwana baxhatshazwa ngokuba ngabayintombazana. Enyanisweni, ezinye zeziganeko ezinobundlobongela obuxhatshazelisayo zibandakanye abantwana abaxhatshazwa ngokwesondo sabo. Ukuba ukushiywa kungacatshungulwa, ukuxhatshazwa kwintlupheko , kunokubangelwa ulwaphulaphulo olunzulu lwenzondo. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba abafundi be-LGBT banikwe inethiwekhi yenkxaso enamandla ukuze bahlale bekhuselekile.
Iinkolo Zenkolo okanye Iinkcubeko
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantwana baxhatshazwe iinkolelo zabo zonqulo. Omnye umzekelo wohlobo loxhatshazo lubandakanya ukunyangwa kwabafundi abangamaSilamsi emva kwentlekele ye-9/11. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na umfundi unokuxhatshazwa ngeenkolelo zonqulo. Bobabini abafundi abangamaKristu nabafundi bamaYuda badla ngokuhlekwa ngenxa yeenkolelo nezenzo zabo.
Ukuxhatshazwa okusekelwe kwiinkolelo zonqulo ezahlukeneyo ngokuqhelekileyo kubangelwa ukungabikho kokuqonda kunye nokungabikho kokunyamezela ukukholelwa into eyahlukileyo.
Uhlanga
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baya kunxungupha abanye ngenxa yokuba bahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, abafundi abamhlophe banokuqhawula abafundi abamnyama baze baxhaphaze. Okanye abafundi abamnyama bangabhaqa abafundi abamhlophe baze baxhaphaze.
Kwenzeka kuzo zonke iintlanga nakuzo zonke izikhokelo. Akukho mzabalazo ongenakuxhatshazwa, kwaye akukho luhlanga olungenako ukuxhatshazwa. Njengokuxhatshazwa kwezenkolo, aba bafundi baqeshwe ngaphandle kwesinye isizathu kunokuthi bahluke.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Nangona nganye yezi zimpawu zingaxhatshazwa ngabaxhatshazwayo, akukho ndlela iphosakela ukuba amaxhoba kufuneka atshintshe. Khumbula, ukuxhatshazwa kukuxhatshazwayo okwenza ukhetho olubi. Kubalulekile ukuba le nkcazelo iyaziswa kumaxhoba okuxhatshazwa. Bamele bakhunjuzwe ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kubo kwaye abayikusola ityala.
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