Ukulungisa Umntwana Wakho Ukusebenzisa Ukungayithobeli
Ukungayithobeli kunokuba nzima ukukhupha, kodwa kunokusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo. Kukho amaxesha apho ukuqwalasela ukuziphatha okungafunekiyo kunempembelelo yokwenza kube nzima. Okokuqala kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka uqonde oko kukungahoyiyo kunye noko akunjalo kwaye ufunde xa kulungile kwaye xa kungenjalo.
Umama waphinda wathi kum (emva kokuba ndicebisa ukusebenzisa le ndlela) ukuba akaze aphinde amkhanye umntwana wakhe kwaye wacinga ukuba unenkohlakalo.
Ndamchazela ukuba andizange ngethuba elithile ndibonisa ukuba uyamnyelisa umntanana wakhe. Enyanisweni, le ndlela idinga ukunyaniseka-kodwa ukuqwalasela ngokuqhubekayo ukuze kusebenze. Oko ufuna ukuyihoxisa ukuziphatha komntwana wakho. Kwaye akunjalo nje ukuziphatha, nokuba kunjalo. Yiyo kuphela into yokuziphatha eyenziwa yimbi ngakumbi ngqalelo yakho, eyomelezwa yinto okanye eyenziwe ngenjongo yodwa yokufumana impendulo evela kuwe.
Ukujongana neentlobo eziphathekayo kunye ne-"Toddler See, umntwana osemncane"
Ngokomzekelo, ubambe inzwane yakho uze uthi, "Yizame." Umncinci wakho uyaphinda ngokuphinda akuphinda. Ukuba ukufunga komntwana wakho akusiyo into eqhelekileyo, vumela ukuba uyeke. Mhlawumbi akusayi kuphinda kwenzeke ngaphandle kokuba wenze into enkulu malunga nayo (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, usebenzisa njalo lolu hlobo lolwimi phambi komntwana wakho ongumzekelo ohlukileyo ngokupheleleyo). Abanye abazali bafumana impumelelo kwiminyaka emancinci yokunyaniseka ukuziphatha oku njengawo onke, ngelixa abanye befumanisa ukuba ixesha lifika xa la mazwi engenzi izenzo ezingenacala, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuphinda.
Emva koko kufuneka bangene kwaye bacacise ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwamagama akuvunyelwanga kuwe.
Ukusingatha iingxabano phakathi kwabazalwana
Omnye umzekelo xa abantakwabo bephikisana kodwa akukho mntu utyhafile kwaye ngaphezu kwento encinci. Kufuneka umelane nesibongo sokubandakanyeka nje kuphela xa beza kuza kubetha.
Maye bawusebenze baze bafumane ezinye iindlela zabo nezakhono zabo zokuhlalisana neengxaki. Ngamehlo abo, awunakuchengeza oko kwenzekayo, ngoko banokuwusebenza ngokuzimeleyo kwaye kusekelwe kwimigaqo yokuba abantakwabo basebenzise ngokwabo. Kodwa ngokwenene, kufuneka uhlawule ngokuthe ngqo kwizinto eziqhubekayo (ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo) ukuze ungenele ukuba izinto ziphuma ngaphandle.
Ukujongana neTantrums Temper
Enye yezona ndawo ezifanelekileyo zokusebenzisa le ndlela ngethuba lomntwana onomsindo. Ezi zinto ziya kuphelisa ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana wakho efumana ukuba awunayo ingqalelo okanye uzama ukungena kwingxoxo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ohlala kwindawo ephephile apho ukudabuka kwakhe kungayi kubaphazamisa abanamacala abamsulwa, makamvumele ukuba abe nomsindo (kwaye ke, bonise iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu) kodwa ungazibandakanyi.
Ngokuxhomekeka kwesizathu sokudabuka, unokunika amagama ambalwa ukucacisa umgangatho wakho: "Ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ukugqoka i-flip-flops, kodwa ikhethi ngaphandle ngaphandle kufuneka ube nambathole izicathulo ezifudumele. Yiza undibone xa uziva bhetele kwaye ukulungele ukugqoka, "okanye" Ndiyazi ukuba awuyithandi xa kufuneka uguquke, kodwa ukwabelana ngamathoyizi nomntakwenu kuyinto enhle ukuyenza kuye. " Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda ukunika umntwana omncinane amagama athile afane nento avakalelwa ngayo, kodwa unganikeli kakhulu.
Gcina mfutshane uze uhambe nge shishini lakho ngokungathi ungayikhokheli nayiphi na ingqalelo. Ungaqhubeki ukumqanda kumbe okanye inkulumo. Vumela ukuba kuhambe. Ukungabandakanyekanga kwakho, ukukhawuleza ukukhawuleza kuya kudlula. Cinga ngengqwalasela yakho eqhubekayo njengokuba ungeze umbane kumlilo oqhawuleyo.
Ukuphazamiseka ngamazwi angenangqondo okanye igama elibizayo
Kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa abancinci bethetha izinto ngaphandle komsindo okanye ukukhungatheka okwenziwe ngokukhawuleza. "Ndiyakukuthiya, Mama," okanye "Uyiziphukuphuku," umzekelo, unokufumana njengamazwi amnandi. Enye enye yeemeko apho ndiza kukhetha ukungazihoxisi ukuziphatha.
Abantwana abasenayo iifayile ezifanayo ukuba abantwana abadala (kwaye andincomo indlela efanayo kubantwana abadala). Izinto ziphuma emilonyeni yazo phambi kokuba ubuchopho babo benethuba lokumisa.
Ngokunganiki umntanakho ukuba aphendule okanye asebenze kwi-squabble, uqiniseke kakhulu ukuba eli qhinga liya kuhlala liphuma kwinqanaba lomntwana wakho. Emva koko, akuzange kumsebenzele. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ungena kwi-huff uze ulungele into enjengokuthi, "Ewe, unokungena ekamelweni lakho uze undizonde," okanye "Ndicinga ukuba unobhantshi," ngoko kuya kusasa encinci yakho ukuba yintoni eyenayo impendulo enkulu kwaye yinto enokuyizama kwakhona ngemini ngemiphumo efanayo.
Yazi Ixesha Lokusebenzisa Ukunyanzelisa Nexesha Lokungasebenzisi
Kunzima ukuhlala unemotional kwaye ubaleke ukufumana ilungelo phezu kwayo yonke into engathandekiyo yokubonakalisa imifanekiso yabantwana abaselula. Kubalulekile ukuba sikwenze oko, nangona kunjalo, ukuze abantwana bethu baqonde oko kubalulekile kuthi kwaye xa bekufuneka balandele imiyalelo ngaphandle kombuzo. Ukuba uphatha yonke imigaqo yengqeqesho ngokuqwalasela kwakho ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuvakalelwa kwengqondo, kuya kuba nzima kumntwana wakho ukuba afunde oko kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukungahoywa yilezo ziphatho eziwela phantsi kwinqanaba lokubaluleka (kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ziphakame kwizinga lokukhuza). Gcina amandla akho kwizinto eziphambili zokuziphatha ongazifanelekanga njengezihamba esitalatweni, ukubeka izinto zangaphandle emlonyeni kunye nokulimaza izilwanyana, ipropati okanye abantu.
Njengokuba kukho imeko ezininzi zokuba ngumzali, akukho nto ifanayo-ifanayo-yonke indlela yokuziphatha komncinci. Uqeqesho olungakumbi oluluncedo lwakho oluluncedo. Abazali banokufumanisa ukuba ngaphezu koko baxhomekeke kwindlela enye, indlela engasebenzi ngayo. Xa usebenzisa ukungahoyi, khawujonge ingqalelo kwimpendulo yomntwana wakho. Yiba ngokulinganayo njengoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa qhubeka uguquguquka xa ufumanisa ukuba ukungahoywa akusebenzi. Unokufuna ukuzama enye yalezi zixhobo zobuncinane bokuqeqesha .