Kuthatyathelwe ngodliwano-ndlebe eqhutywe noDkt John Demartini:
"Ixabiso leTeknoloji": Ngaba kukho ingongoma xa iteknoloji eninzi inokumisela umntwana onokukhubazeka kokufunda kwaye isuka ekuncedeni ukunika umntwana ithuba?
I-teknoloji ayilungile okanye ayibi. Akungathathi hlangothi kwaye isiphumo sayo kuxhomekeke ekusebenziseni nasekuboneni. I-teknoloji yavela ukuze isincede ngokuzaliseka kwexabiso lethu eliphezulu, "ukuphela kwengqondo," okanye "i-telos" yethu.
I-teknoloji yethu yavela ukuza kusinceda sigcwalise i-teleology. Kwaba yindlela yokuphela kwaye ixabiso lethu eliphezulu okanye i-telos yaphela ekugqibeleni. Ukuba sibona ukuba iteknoloji ethile isekela ixabiso lethu eliphakamileyo, sibhala ukuba lilungile. Ukuba sibona ukuba iteknoloji ethile inselele ixabiso lethu elona liphezulu, siyibhala into embi. Olunye ubuchwephesha luvumela abantwana bethu ukuba bangabandakanyi kwizinto ezincinci eziphambili ukwenzela ukuba bahlale bendalo kwaye banokubonelela ngeenzuzo. Olunye ubuchwephesha lunokuphazamisa abantwana bethu ekuqondeni ubomi babo. Kodwa ezi zigqibo nazo zixabiseke kwaye ngamnye ngamnye uya kuba nembono othe ngqo kwizinto ezibonakalayo kunye neengxaki zeteknoloji nganye. Ngoko, ekugqibeleni ubuchwepheshe bubuhle okanye bububi de sikhetha ukukwenza.
Omnye umama wamgweba unyana wakhe ngenxa yokuchitha ixesha lakhe kwiikhompyutheni ze-friggen kunye nemidlalo yevidiyo yonke imini "ngelixa eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, iminyaka eyisixhenxe kamva xa ebenomsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kakhulu we-IBM IT okwenza imali ngaphezu kwakhe, wabuyisela umgwebo wakhe kwaye wandisa umbono wakhe wexabiso lezinto ayekade ezigxeka kwaye wazisa imizamo yakhe yonyana.
Kubulumko ukubeka phambili iintshukumo zethu ngalunye suku ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwethu nokuzifezekisa ngokuthe ngempumelelo ixabiso lethu eliphezulu. I-teknoloji ilapha ukuhlala. Kuko bulumko ukuba sonke siyiqonde injongo yayo kwaye siyisebenzise ngokulinganisela nangokuhlakanipha.
Ukuphila ubomi obungavamile yinto umntu ayenqwenelayo, kodwa kuba ngumsebenzi onzima kubazali abaninzi abakhulisa abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa. Abazali bavame ukuxhaswa ngokunyamekela kwintsuku yabantwana abakhubazekileyo kwaye bazinike ingqwalasela kunye namandla abo kubantwana babo, ngelixa bejongene nokuphila kwabo. Yiziphi iingcebiso oza kubanika abazali abazama ukufumana ukulinganisela ebomini babo kunye nentlalo yabo, ngelixa bekhathalele iimfuno zabo zomntwana?
Abantwana bethu bayakwazi ukuxelela xa sithe sangcwatywa ingqondo kunye nokukhungatheka okanye xa sizinikela kwaye siqala ukuyikhathalela. Kuqikelele ukwenza uluhlu lwezinto zonke esizenzayo kwiimfuno zethu ezizodwa kwaye siqinisekise ukuba ngokwenene senza into ebaluleke kakhulu, ivelise kwaye ekuhambeni kokunyamekela. Ukubanjiswa kwimisebenzi ephambili ephambili okanye uxanduva olubhekiselele kubantwana bethu alububi. Ukubafundisa indlela yokubeka phambili phambili ubomi babo ngokuba ngumzekelo wokuphila ngokufanelekileyo kubulumko. Ukunikezela oko kunokuthunyelwa kunye nokubamba abantwana bethu ngokuziphendulela okuninzi kangangoko kunokhathalela ixesha elide. Ukuba unako ukuvelisa ngaphezulu ngokusebenza, ngaphezu kweendleko zokwenza izinto ezincinci eziphambili ekhaya, ngoko kulungele ukusebenza kwaye unikezele ezi zenzo. Oku kuvumela ixesha elihle lomgangatho wabazali kunye nomntwana. Ukubamba umntwana wakho ogqwesileyo kwizinto kunye nokuvuza okuncinci kweeveki kungakhuphula isantya sokuzimela kwabo. Akusilumko kumntwana wamandla kunye nempumelelo abakwazi ngayo. Ukuvutha ngaphandle kwezenzo eziphambili ezisebenzayo kubambisana nabazali kunye nomntwana. Ukunyaniseka njengomzali onokulindela kunokuthintela ukutshiswa kunye nentlungu okanye ukuzisola.
Yiziphi iingcebiso oza kunika abantwana abaneemfuno zokufunda abakhubazekileyo kwimfundo baze balahlekelwe yimpembelelo yokuphumelela? Bangayitshintsha njani imilinganiselo yabo / ukuqonda kwabo kunye nokufezekisa ukuzaliseka kwabo ubomi babo?
Nantoni na into abangaboniyo abantwana ekubancedeni ukuzalisekisa ixabiso labo eliphezulu baya kukhishwa kwi-ADD. Kodwa nantoni na ayibona njengayo "endleleni" kwaye "kungekho" baya kwamkela kwaye bafunde ngenhliziyo yonke (ASO). Ngokuqhagamshela nantoni na abantwana ukuba bafunde kwizinto zabo eziphezulu eziphezulu, sinokuvusa ukubandakanya kwabo. Bayazibuza bona, "Ukufunda ngokuthe ngqo esi sihloko esithile, iklasi okanye into ibancedise ukuzalisekisa iinqununu zabo ezintathu eziphezulu kakhulu okanye nayiphi na into ebaluleke kakhulu." Ininzi enkulu iimpendulo okanye iinqununu ezithe zafunyanwa kwaye zibhalwa, enkulu inxaxheba kunye ukuthatha inxaxheba ekufundeni okanye eklasini.
Ngaphezulu nawuphi na umxholo uqhagamshelwe ngokubaluleka kwexabiso eliphezulu lomntwanakho, ngakumbi baya kuthatha, balondoloze kwaye basebenzise oko bakufundileyo.
Abantwana bahlanganyele ngokupheleleyo ekufundeni oko kubaluleke kakhulu kubo. Bathanda ukujongana nomdlalo wevidiyo weengxaki ezilandelayo xa uhlasela i-market xa beyithanda imidlalo yevidiyo. Ngoko ke, qhagamshela yonke into abayifunayo ukuze bafunde kwixabiso labo eliphezulu kwaye babukele ingqondo yabo ngokukhawuleza ivela. Ezinye zexabiso lamabantwana ethu ziyaqhubeka ngexesha. Iminyaka elishumi ngamashumi amabini amaxabiso abantwana bethu ashintsha. Eminye inzuzo esiyifumanayo okanye yokuxhuma ngokuphathelele kwelinye lamanani athile, iphakamileyo iya kuphakama kwiindawo zabo zokuziphatha. Izinto ezingathintekiyo esizibandakanyayo okanye ezithintekayo ngokubhekiselele kwelinye lezithethe zazo, ezantsi ziya kuwa phantsi kobukhulu bemigangatho yazo. Ngokubuza imibuzo malunga neenzuzo okanye ukuphazamiseka kwanoma yiyiphi ixabiso esinokulibuyisela kuyo kwi-values yabo yokuziphatha. Kubulumko ukuba senze into esiyithandayo ngokunikezela izenzo ezincinci okanye ukuthanda oko senza ngokudibanisa nokutshintsha ixabiso ukuze sifane nento esiyathanda ukuyenza, okanye ukufunda.
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