Njengomzali, kunokuba kunzima ukufumanisa ukuba ngaba ufuna ngokwenene ukuqesha abalungileyo, abagwebi abagciniweyo bokugcinwa kwabantwana, ngokukodwa xa indleko yinto. Okubalulekileyo, yintoni omele uyikhumbule ukuba injongo ekugqithiseleyo yokuvalelwa kwengane kukusebenzela umdla ngokubaluleka komntwana ngokuqulunqa ilungiselelo elifanelekileyo lokugcinwa kwabantwana . Kucacile ukuba kukho ininzi xa ifika kubantwana bakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuxelela okulungileyo.
Ukukunceda wenze isilumko esilumkileyo, khangela ukujonga kwizinto ezintathu ezibalulekileyo kufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuqesha ummeli wokugcina umntwana ukuba athathe ityala lakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba Uzuze Abantwana Abameli
- Cinga ngezibonelelo zakho zemali : Xa usenza isigqibo sokuba uqeshe igqwetha lomntwana, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukufumaneka kwezibonelelo zemali. Ukugcinwa kwegqwetha lokugcinwa kwegqwetha lomntwana kungabiza kakhulu, kuxhomekeka kwizinto eziliqela-kuquka neeyure ezithathayo ukulungisa imeko, kunye nelizwe ohlala kuyo. Xa ucinga ukuba uza kuqesha abameli benkundla yokugcina abantwana, cela malunga neendleko ezibhekise phambili. Ukuba ufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba awukwazi ukufumana ummeli wabucala, khumbula ukuba usenokhetho. Unokuba nelungelo lokukhulula uncedo lwezomthetho okanye ukumelwa kweendleko eziphantsi kwintendelezo yentsapho. Kweminye imimandla, inkundla inokusekela ilungelo lakho lokumelwa kwamahhala kwiholo lakho langoku.
- Ukulinganisa ubunzima becala lakho : Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali bayacetyiswa ukuba baqeshe abameli be-custody babantwana xa bejongene nobunzima obunzima. Ngokomzekelo, iimeko zangasese zokugcinwa kwabantwana zivame ukuba ziyinkimbinkimbi. Ukuba ujongene nesoko esinzima sokugcinwa kwaye uziva ungaqiniseki ngokuzimela, kufuneka uqikelele ukuqesha ummeli wengane yomgcini ogxininisekile kwiinkalo zomthetho ezinzima kwaye unamava enkundleni yentsapho. Ukuba unquma ukuzimela ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwengane yakho, ukulungiswa kakuhle kuya kukunika ithuba elihle lokuwongamela umntwana. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala kuphi, qala ngokufunda kwimithetho yokugcina umntwana kwimeko yakho.
- Cinga ngegama lommeli : Abazali abaninzi banquma ukuqesha ummeli womgcini wengane ngokusekelwe kwigama lommeli ngokufumana amanqaku okugcina abantwana . Khangela ukuqesha igqwetha lokugcinwa kwengane kunye namava aphatha amacala afanayo. Yaye ungaba neentloni ngokucela iimferensi! Oku kuyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu oza kujamelana nayo ebomini bakho, kwaye unelungelo lokuphanda idumela lommeli ngaphambi kokuba usayine kumgca ophantsi. Ukuba unelungelo lokumelwa kweendleko eziphantsi okanye okumele ukhululeke, khathazeka ngokuphathelele igama lommeli lokulondoloza ukugcinwa kwabantwana , ngokukodwa amacala athathweyo afuna ukumela enkundleni. qi niseka ukuba ubuze nawuphi na ummeli wengane yomntwana malunga necebo lakhe lokuphumelela iimeko zokugcina abantwana, nazo. (Oku akubiyo-oko kuthatha ukuphumelela!)
Ukuze uthole ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nokuqesha ummeli wengingqi yomntwana wengingqi, tyelela umbutho webra yomgangatho wakho, njengoko kuya kubakho ukugcina uluhlu olusebenzayo lwamagqwetha okugcina abantwana. Ngaphandle koko, cela ukuhanjiswa kwabahlobo nabanentsapho abathembekileyo abasebenza kunye negqwetha lokugcinwa komntwana esikhathini esidlulileyo.