Phantse zonke iinqununu ezisisigxina zokugcinwa kwezilwanyana kwizigqibo ezifanelekileyo kwimilinganiselo yomntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba ijaji iya kugqiba ilungiselelo lokugcinwa elifanelekileyo elifanelekileyo kwiimfuno zomntwana, ngokusekelwe kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Imiba ejongwa yijaji iya kuhluka ngoxhomekeke kwimeko apho ityala lifakwe khona, kuba wonke urhulumente ulawula amacandelo okugcina abantwana ngokungafaniyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, imiba ijaji iya kuqwalasela xa kuqikelelwa umdla omhle womntwana kubandakanya:
- Ubu bungqina bokwenza umzali . Iinkundla zifuna ubungqina bokuba umzali ocela imvume uyakwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomzimba neemvakalelo zomntwana. Oku kubandakanya ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, izambatho, kunye nokunakekelwa kwezonyango, kunye nemfundo, inkxaso enothando, kunye nokukhokelwa kwabazali jikelele. IiNkundla ziqwalasela nabazali ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo xa begqiba ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwezinto eziza kuba ngumdla kumntwana.
- Ukubambisana . Iinkundla ngokubanzi zikhetha ukugcina iinkqubo zezingane zihambelana. Oku kubandakanya amalungiselelo okuphila, iinkqubo zesikolo okanye ukunakekelwa kwabantwana, kunye nokufikelela kwamalungu entsapho awandisiweyo. Abagwebi beenkundla zentsapho bakhetha ukungaziphazamisi inkqubo yomntwana xa kunokwenzeka.
- Ubudala bomntwana . Abantwana abancinci ngokubanzi badinga ukunakekelwa kwezandla ezingakumbi kunabantwana abadala. IiNkundla zijongene nobudlelwane phakathi komntwana nomzali xa kuhlolwa iindlela zokugcina abantwana kunye nokuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuba yiyiphi into ebaluleke kakhulu kumntwana. Ukongezelela, xa abantwana bebancinci, abagwebi bahlala besichazela umzali obengumlondolozi oyintloko ebomini bomntwana. Ezinye iinkundla ziyakuqwalasela iimfuno zomntwana, kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yazo.
- Khu seleko . Lo mbandela usoloko uphambili kwengqondo kwinkundla yentsapho, kwaye abagwebi baya kukhanyela ukugcinwa kwamagunya kwiimeko apho bakholelwa ukuba ukhuseleko lomntwana luya kuphazamiseka.
- Impembelelo yokutshintsha inkqubo ekhoyo . Xa uqwalasela utshintsho, iinkundla zizama kwakhona ukujonga indlela utshintsho oluya kumchaphazela ngayo umntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abagwebi bazama ukunciphisa utshintsho oluya kuba nefuthe elibi.
Bonisa iNkundla yokuba Unentshisekelo Yomntwana Wakho Eyona ntliziyo
Unokubonisa ijaji ukuba unomdla wakho entliziyweni ngokubonisa ukuba uye wabandakanyeka ebomini bakhe kwaye wanikela ngononophelo kunye nokunakekelwa ngothando. Unokubonisa oku ngokubonisa ukuba ubhalise umntwana wakho esikolweni, ubandakanyeka kwimfundo yakhe nasekukhuliseni, uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yechungechunge, kwaye wenze ezinye izigqibo zokuzali ezibonisa umdla ekukhuliseni umntwana wakho. Kwiimeko apho bobabini abazali bachaphazelekayo, ijaji inokuqwalasela ukuba ngaba umzali omnye ufuna ukunyusa ubudlelwane obunothando nomnye umzali, ngoko ke ukusebenzela ukuvuselela ithemba kunye nexesha lakho langaphambili kunokukunceda ekuboniseni iinjongo zakho.
Iimeko ngokuqhelekileyo ziqwalaselwe kungekhona kwiMithwalo enomdla kakhulu yabantwana
Abagwebi banqwenela kakhulu ukugcina umntwana kwilungiselelo olwaziyo umntwana, njengokuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlale kwisikolo okanye kwindawo. Ngaloo nto, abagwebi ngokubanzi abayithandi ilungiselelo lokuba umzali omnye unqatshelwe ukufikelela kumntwana okanye apho ukuvakasha kuya kuba nzima. Kwimeko apho umzali omnye anikwe imvume yokugcina, omnye umzali unelungelo lokutyelela.
Oku kungenxa yokuba imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana ininzi iyakwenza amalungiselelo okugcinwa okuvumela ukuba bobabini abazali bahlale belamano olusondeleyo nothando nomntwana wabo.
Xa Uhamba Kwiminqweno Eyona Ntle Yomntwana?
Ukufuduka kunokuthi mhlawumbi kungabikho kwimpumelelo yakho yomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ijaji iya kukhanyela isicelo sokuhambisa ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umzali wenza isicelo sizama ukukhanyela okanye ukunciphisa ukufikelela komnye umzali. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhamba kusenokuba yinto enomdla ukuba ukuhamba kuvumela umntwana ukuba aye esikolweni esingcono, unikezela ukufumana ukunakekelwa kwabantwana okanye inkqubo yenkxaso, okanye uya kuncedisa umntwana ngenye indlela engaboniswa enkundleni.
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba inkundla ikhangele umntwana wakho ngokubanzi. Abaqapheli nje ukuba ungumzali ofanelekileyo. Xa kugqiba ukugcinwa kweso sigxina, nabo banenjongo yokugcina zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntwana ziqhubekayo ngenkqubela ukuqinisekisa ukuba bobabini abazali banethuba elisebenzayo lobomi bomntwana.