Ubuchule Bentsha Yakho

Ukuphila Ubomi beNjongo

Ngokubhekiselele ekuphuhlisweni komntu, injongo ibhekiselele ekukwazi ukwenza izinto ngenjongo. Ngamanye amagama, injongo ichaza ukuziphatha ngokujoliswe kwinjongo kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo okuzikhethela ukufikelela kuloo njongo. Umntu onomnqweno ufuna ukwenza umehluko kwimo engqongileyo kwindlela ethile, ukuma okanye ifom kwaye unokuzithiba ukuthatha inyathelo eliqhubekayo kuloo mnqweno.

Ukuphuhlisa ubuchule

Ubulungisa buya kuqala ngaphambi kweminyaka emibini, kodwa ezinye i-12 zihlala kwinkqubo yokuphuhlisa injongo kunye nokuzithiba . Ukuze kuphuhliswe injongo, umntu kufuneka akholelwe ngokwamandla akhe, anokunyuswa ngokuxhasa abazali . Ngokuma eceleni komntwana wakho, kunokuba ubenzele izinto, ungabafundisa indlela yokusingatha iinjongo zabo kunye nokunyamekela ngaphandle kokugqithisa. Nazi iindlela ezi-5 zokuhlakulela injongo phakathi kwakho:

1. Banike ixesha elilodwa kwaye musa ukubaxelela ukuba benzani ngelo xesha. Abantwana badinga ixesha lokuzikhupha ngaphandle kweengcinga zabo ngaphandle kwegalelo labanye. Vumela ukuba kubekho ixesha elihle okanye elikhululekile usuku ngalunye ukuze basebenze konke ngaphandle kweentloko zabo.
2. Beka ulindelwe kunye nemida, uphendule ngemiphumo xa umda uphukile, kwaye uvuza xa kulindeleke ukuba kulindeleke.
3. Vumela ukuba bangaphumeleli. Umntwana wakho kufuneka aqonde indlela yokuzilungisa kwaye indlela yodwa enokuyenza ngayo kukuba uyaphumela emsebenzini. Ngokuphinda uqondise amandla akhe ukugqiba umsebenzi ngendlela echanekileyo, i-middle yakho ifunda ukunyamezela nokunyamezela-uku-iveness.
4. Khuthaza ukuthetha okulungileyo. Umntwana wakho angeke akwazi ukulawula iingcamango zakhe, kodwa njengoko uzifundisa ngokukhuthaza kwakho unokubanceda bathethe iingcamango ezingalunganga ngezinto ezintle. Oku kudala ukunyamezela kwaye kuvumela ukuba phakathi kungabikho phantsi.
5. Yiba khona. Musa ukuthetha into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho ngaphambili kudlulileyo kunokuba uthetha oko umntwana wakho anqwenela ukukwenza kwixesha elizayo. Yazisa umzuzu kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukwenza okufanayo. Ngokungajongi emva kobubungqina bokukwazi kwakhe, bangakwazi ukuhamba phambili ngaphandle kokungabaza.

Ubulungisa nokuFunda Indlela yokuFunda

Ubulungisa bubhekwa njengenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo zokwazi ukufunda; Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kwimfundo . Ngaphandle kokukwazi ukusekela iinjongo, ukukhawulela ixesha, nokuphuhlisa ukuqeqeshwa ukuze ubone imisebenzi ukuya ekupheleni kungakhathaliseki ukuba nzima kangakanani ukuba yinto ebalulekileyo yokufunda. Ngokusebenzisa injongo yokufundisa, ufundisa noomashishini nokuzithemba. Ezi zakhono ziguqulela ukuvumela umntwana wakho okanye umntwana ukuba asebenzise amandla akhe okufunda amandla akhe okudala. Ngokugxininisa kumsebenzi, uhlangothi lwakho luyakwazi ukucacisa nokuqokelela iingcamango zakhe ezithandayo. Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuba nezoshishino kunye nokuphumelela kwezobugcisa-misebenzi yinjongo, ukuxoxisana kunye nokulandelelana. Zonke ezi zintathu zakhiwa ngokuzifunela.

Amagama afanayo : Ukuzimela

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_{Goleman, uDaniel. Intelligence Intelligence: Kutheni Kungabaluleke ngaphezu kwe-IQ. 2006. eNew York: iBantam.}