Izifundo zibonisa ukuba abazali abahle ngabo bahlala bexhasa abantwana babo . Ukongezelela, ngabazali abalungileyo baya kuvuma ukuba ukukhulisa abantwana abafaka isandla kwiindawo zabo kwaye bavelisa kakuhle, bahlengahlengiswa kwaye bakhula baba ngabantu abadala abanembeza. Kuthetha ntoni, ukuba "ukuxhasa"? Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokuxhasa, abazali abahle.
Bakhuthaza Abantwana Babo Ukuzivakalisa
Abazali abalungileyo bavumela abantwana ukuba babe ngoobani ngokwenene, kungakhathaliseki ukuba oko kubonakalisa njani kubazali. Le nkululeko yokuzibonakalisa iyakhokelela ekuziphatheni okuphakamileyo kunye nokuphuhliswa komntu onamandla. Ukuzithetha ngokubaluleka kubaluleke ngokukhethekileyo ngexesha leminyaka emibini xa umntwana efuna ukuba ngubani owona mntu . Ukuba u-pakati akavumelekanga ukuba ahlolisise amaninzi amaninzi, unokuthi enze into yokuba abazali bakhe okanye abanye abantu abaneempembelelo bafuna kuye, oko kungabangela ukuba kubonakale imiba yesazisi.
Abazali Abalungileyo Benza Zifumaneke
Kwilizwe lethu elixakekileyo, akukho mntu unokufumaneka kubantwana babo 24-7, nangayiphi na indlela. Kunoko, abazali abalungileyo benza ixesha ngalinye ngosuku ukuba bajolise kuphela kubantwana babo, ngaphandle kweziphazamiso kumabonwakude, kwiikhomputha okanye kwiifowuni. Ixesha lomgangatho ozinikezele livula imizila yoqhagamshelwano, nto ibaluleke ngakumbi xa kubhekana nemiba enzima enokubandezela, ukuxhalabisa kunye nokuguquka kwemizwelo .
Baphula ngokukhawuleza
Abazali abalungileyo baqala ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza, apho baphinda baphinde babuye babuye babuye bathetha ntoni umntwana wabo nangomvakalelo. Ukwenza oko kwenza umntwana azive eve Abazali abancedisayo bakhuthaza abantwana babo ukuba baxubushe iimvakalelo zabo ngokubuza imibuzo enjengaleyo, "Yintoni eyakwenza ukuba uzive?" Ekugqibeleni, abazali abafanelekileyo banqanda ukunika iingcebiso ngaphandle kokuba baceliwe ngokucacileyo kwaye bayeke ukuxubusha iingxoxo zabo kwiingxoxo.
Ukuphulaphula kuthetha ukuphulaphula, kungekhona ukuthetha.
Bakhombisa Ukufudumala
Umqondiso wesitayela esihle somzali, obizwa ngokuba ngumzali onamandla, kubandakanya ukubonisa ukufudumala. Ukufudumala kuboniswa ngokubonakalisa ubuso obuhle, izenzo zesigulane kunye nentetho enothando. Ukufudumala akuthethi ukuba uvumelane nayo yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho okanye ithi. Kunoko, kuthetha ukuthatha rhoqo ukubonisa uthando lomntwana kumntu njengomntu nangona xa eyala ngezenzo ezingalunganga.
Abazali Abalungileyo Beka Imida Ecacileyo
Ngelixa kunokuba lunzima ukuba ngumhlobo nomntwana wakho wokuqala, abazali abafanelekileyo bahlonela ukuba kukho ulawulo lomntwana womntwana. Abantwana baphumelela xa kukho isakhiwo ebomini babo, kwaye ilawula ukunceda ukudala eso sakhiwo. Ngoko ke, abazali abancedisayo babeka imithetho ecacileyo kunye nemiphumo baze balandele ngokuqeqesha xa imida iwela. Ukwenza oko kunceda abantwana bafunde uxanduva . Ngexesha leminyaka ephakathi , abazali abahle bavame ukuvumela abantwana ukuba babe yingxenye yenkqubo yokwenza isigqibo malunga nokuba yiyiphi imithetho efanelekileyo kunye nezohlwayo.
Umthombo:
Chaplin, Lan Nguyen noJohn, uDeborah Roedder. Impembelelo yabalingani kwizinto eziphathekayo eziphathekayo ezibonakalayo ezisebuntwaneni: Ukujonga okutsha kwiNtloko yabazali kunye noontanga. Umbhalo woBomi beMveliso. 2010. 20: 176-184.