Ukuba ngumdlalo omhle umzali unjengomzali wesikolo esihle. Ukuze uqinisekise ukuba abantwana bakho bafumana uninzi lwabo inxaxheba, kufuneka uthabathe inxaxheba. Ukubandakanya, ngendlela efanelekileyo, kuthetha ukuba unika isikhuthazo, inkxaso kunye noluncedo oluncedo.
Uyazivolontiya (ukuba unako) kwaye uphakamisa izigqibo kunye nezifundo zomqeqeshi (okanye utitshala). Udala indawo apho umntwana wakho angaphumelela khona, uze uhambe uye umvumele enze umsebenzi onzima.
Ngamafutshane, ungumdlali weqela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yimidlalo.
Yiba ngumzali omninzi wezemidlalo ngokubonisa inkxaso
Umntwana wakho akakwazi ukudlala ngaphandle kokuxhaswa kwakho okusebenzayo-oko kuthetha ukuba imali, ukulungelelanisa, kunye nemvakalelo. Ukuba nezingane ezibandakanyekayo kwimidlalo yolutsha zinokunyanzelisa ishedyuli yentsapho yakho kunye nekhredithi yakho, ngoko oku kunzima.
Akukho mfuneko yokufihla inyaniso (ukuba le nto ikhuni ngamanye amaxesha) ukusuka kumntwana wakho, ngakumbi ukuba uneminyaka edala ngokwaneleyo ukuqonda i-trade-offs echaphazelekayo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyayisekela imizamo yakhe kwaye uyaziqhayisa, nokuba awuyivuyo ukuvuka ngo-5 ekuseni ukuba umqhube.
Ukuxhaswa akufanele kuthathe ukuba ubukele yonke into eyenziwa (ingakumbi ngaloo ntsasa!). Akuthethi ukuba uhambela yonke imidlalo okanye udibana nayo. Oku akunakwenzeka ukuba unamaqela angaphezu kweyodwa. Kodwa, kunentsingiselo yokwenza ixesha lokubukela umntwana wakho adlala ukhuphiswano xa unako.
Yaye khumbula, ukuba ufikelele ngokugcwele kuthetha ukugcina ifowuni yakho epokothini okanye esikhwameni.
Ukubonelela ngenkxaso enamandla kunokukhusela umntwana wakho ekutshiseni , ukuba kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo. Injongo kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba uyamthanda kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni-kungeyonto imenze enze uxinzelelo ukuba enze ukukholisa.
Oku kuyandileyo, kodwa akusoloko kulula ukwenza. Abanye abantwana bafuna ukuba upelazele izinto ngokuqinisekileyo: "Ndiyaziqhayisa nangona uwa. Ndiyakuthanda ukubukela udlala." Abanye abantwana banikela kwaye bamkele uthando ngezinye iindlela. Uyayazi oko kusebenza kakuhle kumntanakho.
Yaziswe kwaye ube yinyani
Xa uyayazi ngakumbi ngomdlalo wakho umntwana amthandayo, unokulandela isenzo kwaye unike uncedo olungakumbi. Unokuyonwabela ixesha lakho kwi-bleachers ngaphezulu!
Funda phezulu kwimidlalo uze uthethe nabazali bezilwanyana. Bangakunceda ngeendlela ezisemgangathweni, imibuzo yezinto zokusebenza, iqela kunye neendlela zokuqeqesha, kunye nokunye. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukwazi imigaqo yeqela, ilungu, ukuvocavoca, njl. Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uwalandela. Akukho phantse ngaphezu komzali ocinga ukuba imithetho ayisebenzisi kumntwana wakhe.
Ababelethi bezemidlalo ezilungileyo bayazibona ngokucacileyo malunga noko abantwana babo abanokukwenza ngezemidlalo. Akunjalo wonke umdlali wezemidlalo kumdlali onokuhamba, onokufumana i-college scholarship, okanye abe yinto efanelekileyo kwiqela. Ukuba nesimo esifanelekileyo akufanele sichaze ukuba singenangqiqo. Ukulindela okuya ngaphaya kwe-overboard kunokubeka uxinzelelo olungenakunyangeka kwintsana yakho.
Yazi ukuba uya kufumana inxaxheba enkulu ekuthatheni kwakhe inxaxheba, nokuba akayithathi i-trophy.
Mhlawumbi ngakumbi ngakumbi ukuba akayi.
Ukubonelela ngempendulo
Uyakwandisa ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kwaye uncede amkele izakhono ezintsha xa unika iingcebiso ezilungileyo. Impendulo enemveliso kakhulu kunazo zonke zichanekileyo kwaye zichanekile. Zama iingxelo ezifana:
- "Wandiphindela emva kwebhola namhlanje."
- "Kwakuyimpumelelo enkulu ukuya kwiCandelo lesithathu."
- "Ndaqaphela indlela ozama ngayo ukugcina imilenze yakho iqonde njengokuba umqeqeshi wakho uphakamisa."
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuba unganikeli ezi mpendulo ngokukhawuleza emva komdlalo. Akuyena wonke umdlalo oya kuvuya xa ehlaziya ukusebenza kwakhe ngoko nangoko, ngakumbi ukuba wayekho kwicala elilahlekileyo.
Sekunjalo kunokuba luncedo kumdlali wakho ukuba abe nebhodi lokulila ukuze akwazi ukuxoxa ngeziganeko xa ekulungele. Oku kungathi kamva ngaloo mini okanye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo. Landela ukukhokela komntwana wakho. Ukuphulaphula phakathi kwemizila kunokukunceda uqonde iingxaki onokuzama ukukunceda ngazo, njengokuxhalaba, ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukulimala okungafunyanwa.
Xa izinto zihamba ngokungahambi kakuhle, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintlekele, ukubiza okubi, okanye ukudlala okubi kakhulu, inxaxheba yakho kukunceda umntwana wakho adibane nokudumala- kodwa ufunde naye. Uvelwano lwakho, kunye nokunceda umntwana wakho afumane kwaye enze utshintsho oluhle, wakha ukuzinza. Yaye yile ngqiqo umntwanakho angayisebenzisa kwaye akhuphe intsimi yokudlala, iminyaka emininzi ezayo.
Yiba Umzekelo Owumzekelo
Abadlali bakho abancinci bafuna ukugcina imizimba yabo ngendlela efanelekileyo ukwenza kakuhle nokunciphisa ingozi yokulimala. Ngamazwi nangezenzo, unokubanceda ukwenza oku: Yidla ukutya okunempilo kwaye ubakhonze kwintsapho yakho (kunye neqela lezame ezi zi -snacks ). Ukuzivocavoca rhoqo kwaye uthethe ngendlela eyenza uzive unamandla kwaye unamandla. Unokwenza uphinde usebenze kunye kunye, bancede baqhelise, okanye bafundise ezinye zezinto abazifundileyo ngemidlalo yabo ekhethiweyo.
Unokuba ngumzekelo kubo abanye abazali. Uyazi abazali bezemidlalo abahlazileyo esiva kakhulu? Njengomdlalo omhle womzali, unokunceda ukukhuthaza umdlalo wezemidlalo ukusuka kwiindawo ezikude kunye nakwiindawo.
Hlonipha umntwana wakho; abadlali beqela lakhe, umqeqeshi kunye nabachasi; a magosa; kunye nomdlalo ngokwawo, imigaqo yayo kunye nezithethe. Unokukunceda ukukhokela iingxoxo ezinokusinceda silungise imidlalo yezemidlalo kwaye senze ngcono abantwana bethu.