Iimpawu ze-Nest Syndrome engenanto

Iimpawu Umzali wamaMeyi wamava emva kokuba abantwana bahambe kwiNdlu

Kubonakala ngathi nje izolo, wambamba umntwana wakho ezandleni zakho esibhedlele waza wathembisa ukunyamekela nokumthanda ngonaphakade. Ngoku, umntwana wakho wokugqibela ushiya isidleke , kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzani nawe.

Ingqondo eqhelekileyo-kwaye kukho igama eliqhelekileyo: i- nest syndrome engenanto . Ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwaye uhlungu kakhulu ngumntwana wakho ekuphumeni ekhaya, unokuthi ube nesifo se-nest esingenalutho. Nazi ezinye iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ezihlanu eziqhelekileyo ze-nest syndrome.

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Ukulahlekelwa Injongo

Iintsuku zakho zazaliswa ngokuzenzele ibhola yebhola, izifundo zepiyano, iintetho zee-parent-teacher, i-playdates, i-carpool kunye nemikhosi yokuzalwa. Ngoku, ngaphandle kwayo yonke into eqhutyayo, ungenakuqiniseka ukuba uza kwenza ntoni nawe.

Nangona bakho abahlobo, intsapho, umsebenzi, kunye neminye imisebenzi, iintsuku zakho zisenokuvakalelwa nje.

Loo mvakalelo uqobo kubazali babo abantwana abasandula ukushiya isidleke. Ukhe wachazwa ngendima yakho njengomzali, kodwa oko akusisona sigxininiso sakho.

Emva kwexesha, unokwazi ukubona ukuba ungayifumana phi injongo ebomini bakho, ingakumbi ukuba usebenzisa ixesha elide oye wafumana ukuzithatha umdlalo omtsha okanye ukujongana nomngeni omtsha.

Okwangoku, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive uvakalelwa kukuba uya kuhamba kunye nesahluko sobomi bakho.

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Ukukhungatheka Ngokungabikho kolawulo

Kwiminyaka neminyaka, unolwazi oluninzi lokucwangcisa ubomi bakho kubantwana-kodwa akusekho. Awuyi kuqonda into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho.

Ukungabikho kokulawula xa umntwana wakho ehamba eklasini, ukuya emsebenzini, ukuhamba nomhla, okanye ukuxhoma kunye nabahlobo kunokukhathazeka. Usenokuvakalelwa kukuba ushiyekile xa ungayazi malunga neshedyuli yosuku lwakho lomntwana.

Gwema ukuba ngumzali we- helicopter kwaye ungasebenzisi ukunyanzela uluntu kumntwana ukuba amqinisekise ukuba ube negalelo elikhulu ebomini bakhe. Oko kuya kuphelela kuphela ekupheleni. Kunoko, gxininisa ekujonganeni nokungahambi kakuhle kwiindlela eziphilileyo.

Ngexesha, oku kungenza kube lula. Uza kufakwa kumntwana wakho ophethe ubomi bakhe kwaye unokuqala ukuphuhlisa umxholo omtsha oqhelekileyo ebomini bakho.

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Ukuxinzezeleka Kwengqondo

Ukuba uchitha iinyembezi malunga neentengiso ze-sappy okanye xa uqhuba umgwaqo, ungagqithwanga ngokupheleleyo. Ubomi bakho bunemvakalelo emangalisayo kwangoku, kwaye xa kunjalo, iziganeko okanye abantu oya kuthi ubenqunyulwe ngokuqhelekileyo ube yinto enkulu kakhulu.

Ukuba ngumsila ongenalutho kunokushukumisa iindidi ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi udidekile ukuba umntwana wakho ukhulile, uzikhwaza ngenxa yokungabi ekhaya ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukwesaba ukuba ukhula, kwaye uxhalabile ukuba awukho apho ucinga ngako kwesi sigaba ebomini bakho.

Nantoni na oziva ulungile. Ukuzama ukukhanyela intlungu okanye ukuphelisa intlungu yakho akuyi kuyenza. Vumela ukuba uvakalelwe nayiphi na imvakalelo. Ukujongana neentlungu ezingenakukhuseleka kwi-head-on kungabancedisa ukuba baphume ngokukhawuleza kunokubakhupha.

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Uxinzelelo lomtshato

Kwinkqubo yokukhulisa umntwana, izibini ezininzi zibeka bucala ubuhlobo babo kwaye zenze intsapho ijikeleze abantwana. Ukuba uchithe iminyaka engayihoyi umtshato wakho, unokufumana ulwalamano lwakho ludinga umsebenzi xa abantwana bephela.

Usenokungazi ukuba uzenze ntoni njengesiqabane ukuba imisebenzi yakho ihlala ijikeleze imidlalo yebhola kunye neepayano. Ukwazi omnye nomnye unokuziva ngathi kunzima.

Ezinye izibini zifumanisa ukuba zenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo ukuba zibe nesterters ezingenanto. Ukuba omnye wenu ulungelelanisa ubomi obungcono okanye obuxabisayo ngaphandle kwezingane kwikhaya ngaphezu kweminye, unokufumana uxinzelelo oluthe xaxa kulwalamano.

Yenza kube ngumnqopho wokuba uphinde uphinde ube nobomi obubini. Khangela ngeli xesha njengethuba lokubuyisela kwakhona kwaye ufumane kwakhona oko kukukhokelela ekuthandeni kwindawo yokuqala.

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Ukukhathazeka Ngezingane Zakho

Ingaba umntwana wakho uye kwikholeji okanye uhambele endaweni yakhe, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukukhathazeka malunga nendlela ehamba ngayo emva kokuba eshiye isidleke. Oko akuqhelekanga, nangona kunjalo, kukuba uzive uxhalabile malunga nokuba umntwana wakho ufumana njani.

Ukuhlolisisa ngamaxesha amaninzi ngemini okanye ukutyalwa kweeyure ukujonga i-akhawunti yabantwana bezentlalo zentlalo akuyi kuba luncedo kuye nawuphi na.

Le akusiyo ixesha lokubiza kunye nokumbuza ukuba uyakhumbula ukutshitshisa okanye ukumbambisa ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo. Lo ngumntwana wakho ithuba lokusasaza amaphiko akhe kunye nokusebenzisa zonke ezo zakhono owamfundisa xa ehlala ekhaya.

Ukulinganisela umnqweno wokungena ngaphakathi kunye nemfuno yomntwana wakho wobumfihlo . Yakha icebo malunga nendlela oza kuhlala udibene ngayo. Unokuseta umnxeba wefowuni, qhagamshelana ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngetekisi okanye nge-imeyile okanye, ukuba uhlala kufuphi, ube nomhla wokutya ngeveki.

Igama elivela kwi-Verywell

Xa uneminyaka engama-18 okanye ngaphezulu ngaphantsi kwebhanti yakho njengomzali onendlu ezele abantwana, oku kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo kunye nengqondo ebomini bakho. Qinisekisa ukuba, iimvakalelo ozifumanayo ngoku ziya kutshabalala njengoko uhlala ujwayele indlu ekhulileyo kwaye ubomi bujolise ngakumbi kwiminqweno yakho.

Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubomi bakho asinalo intsingiselo okanye ucinga ukuba uxinzelelo lwakho okanye ukuxhalabisa kunokube kubi ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo, cinga ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe.

Ukuzibandakanya nabantu abaziyo ukuvakalelwa-nokuba ngaba iqela lokuxhasa okanye abahlobo nje abahamba kwinkqubo efanayo-banokukunceda ukuba ufumane le ngxaki.

Uyenze umsebenzi wakho njengomzali, kwaye ngoku lixesha lokuzonwabisa ubomi njengomzali wabantwana abadala, kunye nenkululeko kunye namathuba anokubonelela.

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