Iingcebiso kubazali abangabodwa abangena kwi-battle custody battle
Inkqubela yokugcina umntwana ingase ibe yinto enokukhathazeka kakhulu umzali onokuyinyamezela, ngakumbi xa ungazi kakuhle into omele ulindele. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukucwangcisa imeko yakho kwaye ukwandise amathuba okuba uza kuphumeza umphumo omuhle:
I-Child Custody Battle Basics
Nangona ukuba awunabo owenza 'imfazwe,' kufuneka ungene enkundleni ngesicwangciso esicacileyo sokwenza.
Oku kuthetha ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo, ukuqesha ummeli wegqeba lomntu onamava kunye nolwazileyo, kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuqonda imithetho yokugcina umntwana kwimeko yakho. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, musa ukuthatha ngokungathinteli ukuba ijaji iyakubona ityala lakho kwindawo yakho yokujonga. Injongo yodwa yenkundla kukuba wenze okulungileyo kumntanakho, kwaye ubonise ukuba ubelana ngolu hlobo lugxotha ixesha elide ekuncedeni ityala lakho.
Gwema i-Battle Custody Battle if You Can
Ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwixesha elide lokukhupha umntwana, zibuze ukuba ingazikhusela. Abazali abanomdla ekufumaneni i-sole okanye 'ukugcwala' ngokugqithiseleyo baya kugcina enkundleni, bafumana inzima yokukhusela abantwana ngenxa yokuba akukho nxaxheba ekulungele ukudibanisa ukufikelela kwisivumelwano. Kwiimeko ezinje, inkundla iya kugqiba ekugqibeleni ngubani oza kunqoba umntwana-kwaye iziphumo ziyamangalisa. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba kukho ukunganyaniseki nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano oluhlanganyelweyo luya kuba luncedo kumntanakho.
Ukuba, emva kokuqwalasela ngokucophelela, usenokwenene ukuba ukugcinwa kokugcinwa kwedwa kuphela kukukhetha okanye kukukhetha kuphela, kuya kufuneka ulungiselele oko kuza kwenzeka.
Izinto eziqwalaselwe ekuphumeleleni i-Child Custody Battle
Abazali abanomdla ekuphumeleleni imfazwe yokugcina abantwana kufuneka balungele kakuhle ukuvalelwa kwengane.
Ngexesha lokuvalelwa, inkundla iya kuqwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Umgangatho ongcono lomzali - Abazali ababandakanyekayo ekukhuselweni kwengane kufuneka baqonde ukuba into eyenza umzali omnye 'ngcono emehlweni enkundla ayinakulinganiswa nembono yakho.
- Amaphepha - ngamnye umzali unethuba lokuba nenkundla nayiphi na amaxwebhu afanelekileyo aqokelelelwe.
- I-etiquette efanelekileyo yeenkundla - Oku kungabonakala kungenangqiqo, kodwa inkundla iya kubhekisela ekubonakala komzali ngamnye enkundleni. Oku kuquka indlela ogqoka ngayo ukubonakala kwenkundla yakho, kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kunye nesimo sengqondo ngexesha lokuva.
- Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali - Ukuba ufuna ukunqoba umntwana wakho enkundleni enkundleni, bonisa umgwebi ukuba uzimisele ukuhambelana nomnye umzali womntwana wakho.
- Iminqweno engcono yomntwana - Ekugqibeleni, inkundla iya kumisela ngubani oza kuphumelela ulondolozo lomntwana ngokulwa neminqweno yomntwana. Oku kuthetha ukwenza okulungileyo kumntwana, ngokuchasene nento efanelekileyo kakhulu kubazali.
Ukutyelela ngexesha loLuntu lweeMfazwe
Abazali abangakhange banikezwe ukugcinwa kweprayimari ngexesha lokugcinwa kwengane kubamnyama baya kuba nelungelo lokufumana amalungelo okutyelela.
Ngokubanzi iinkundla zikholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nabazali bobabini benza into enomdla kumntwana. Ngako oko, kuya kuba ngumdla wokuba uhlale ubandakanyeka ebomini bomntwana wakho kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi ingxabano yomntwana wakho. Abazali abaninzi banokufumanisa ukuba kunceda ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso esisemthethweni somzali ukuze umzali ngamnye azi oko alindele.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.