Imithetho yokufuduswa ingaba yinto ekhohlisayo kubazali-co-parent. Nangona umzali osisigxina, ukuphuma ngaphandle kwimeko kunokuxhamla ukuba utshintsho luya kunciphisa ixesha labantwana kunye nomnye umzali. Nanku umbuzo oqhelekileyo ukususela kumzali omnye wokukhusela malunga nalo mbandela:
Umbuzo: "Ndingumzali osisigxina sabantwana abathathu. Ndandifumene nomsebenzi oza kufuna ukuba ndiphume kwimeko.
Nangona oku kuya kuthetha ukuthintela abantwana bam kude nobawo obandakanyekayo ebomini babo, ndivakalelwa kukuba isigqibo sam sokuphuma kwimeko yeyona nto inomdla. Enye into, kuya kuba yindleko ebalulekileyo yokuhlawula, kwaye kuya kundivumela ukuba ndibhalise abantwana bam kwizikolo ezingcono. Ndifuna ukwazi, nangona, xa kuziwa ekugcinweni kwesigodlo, ubaba wabo ungandithintela ukuba ndihambe ngaphandle kobuso. Ngaba ndifuna imvume yakhe? "
Ngaba Unokuhamba Ngaphandle KoMvume?
Xa kuziwa ekugcinweni komntwana, ukufudukela kwimiba ekhutshanayo. Ezi ntlobo zemibuzo zicelwa rhoqo ngabazali abaxhasiweyo abafuna ukufudukela kunye nabantwana babo ukuze baqhubekele utshintsho lomsebenzi, babe kunye namalungu entsapho, nokuba baqale ukuqala. Nangona kunjalo, isigqibo sokuphuma ngaphandle kwimeko akufanele sithathwe ngokulula.
Okokuqala, thatha ixesha lokuphinda ufunde ngokuqinileyo umyalelo wakho wokuqhawula umtshato, umyalelo wokugcina umntwana, kunye / okanye icebo lozali ukuba ubone ukuba umcimbi wokufudukela kwiindawo uhambelana ngqo.
Ukuba, umzekelo, amaxwebhu akho athi ukuba ngaba umzali unqwenela ukufuduka, kufuneka anikezele isaziso seentsuku ezingama-60, qiniseka ukuba uyathobela. Ukungaphumeleli ukuthobela izigwebo zenkundla ekhoyo kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwisicelo sakho sangoku.
Okwesibini, kufuneka uqwalasele imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho.
Iphondo ngalinye linemithetho eyahlukileyo yokufuduswa, kwaye amanye amazwe afuna imvume ebhaliweyo evela kumzali ongekho phantsi. Ngoko ke, uya kufuna ukwazi nayiphi na imimiselo ethile kwiimeko zakho ezichaphazela isigqibo sakho. Ukufuna isiluleko segqwetha elifanelekileyo lomthetho losapho liya kukukunceda uqonde impembelelo yesigqibo somzali sokugweba ngaphandle kwimeko.
Okwesithathu, ukuba lakho ex exitshisana nesicelo sakho sokufuduswa kwesigxina, kufuneka ulungele ukujongana nokuhlolwa ngokupheleleyo. Ngokukodwa, zilungele ukubonisa:
- Ingaba ukufuduka kunokubangela umgangatho wobomi kubantwana bakho
- Umlinganiselo okwangoku wakho usebenzise ilungelo lakhe lokuchitha ixesha kunye nabantwana
- Uzimisele ukuvumela ixesha elide, ukutyelela ngokuthe rhoqo ukuba isicelo sakho sokuphuma kwimeko sivunyiwe
- Uya kuxhasa ngenkqubela elolo hlobo kwishedyuli yokutyelela
- Ulungele ukufumana izindleko zokunyuka kweendleko
- Ukuhamba kwakho akusiyo inzame yokunciphisa ukufikelela kwakho kubantwana bakho
Cinga ngempembelelo yabantwana
Cinga ngenyameko impembelelo yokuba le nto iphuma kwilizwe iya kuba nabantwana bakho. Kungangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba iinzuzo zokuhlawula umvuzo, okanye ukusondelelana kwamalungu omndeni osondeleyo, azigqithisi iimfuno abantwana bakho abanalo ngoku ngenxa yoluhlobo oluqhubekayo, oluqhubekayo, noluntu, kunye noyise.
Akunakwenzeka ukunciphisa olo dlelwane ukunyusa iifowuni zeefowuni kunye nohambo olude lwexesha lasehlotyeni ngaphandle kwemiphumo, ekuqinisekileyo ukuba iya kubonakala ekuphatheni kwabantwana kunye neengqondo zabo ngexesha. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokuvulekileyo nabantwana bakho, kunye nangaphandle kwakho, malunga nasiphi na isigqibo sokuphuma ngaphandle kwimeko, ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho nxalenye yokuhamba isenziwa ngokukhawuleza.
Imithombo:
Stahl, uFilip Michael. Imiba enzima kwiiNkcazo zeNtlawulo zabantwana. Amawaka ama-Oaks, CA: i-Sage Publications, ngo-1999.
"Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba umzali onomgcini ufuna ukufudukela kwelinye ilizwe?" American Bar Association. 1 Novemba 2008.