Umzekelo wakho unokusasazela ukuba bafuna ukuba udibane nomgcini-mvume womntwana kwaye ungazi ukuba wenzeni.
Okokuqala, kunceda ukuba ube nolwazi olucacileyo malunga noluphi ulwalamano kunye nento enokuyenza ngayo. Ulwalamano lubhekisela kwinkqubo yokusombulula iingxabano zomthetho ngoncedo lomlamli onguchwepheshe osebenza njengomntu ongathathi hlangothi kunye noququzelele ingxoxo.
Abalamli bamalungu omtshato, ngokukodwa, banceda abazali basebenze ngamalungiselelo okugcinwa kwabantwana, ixesha lokubeletha kunye nokuvakatyekwa, ukuxhasa abantwana, kunye nokunye. Iintlawulo zokusebenzisana nomgcini-mbambano wokugcina umntwana zibandakanya ukuzimisela okwenyukayo-ngabazali bobabini-ukulandela ilungiselelo elivunyelweneyo kunye nokugcina imali (xa kuthelekiswa nemfazwe yenkundla ephikisanayo).
Cinga ngesicelo
Qala ngokuqwalasela ukuba unqwenela ukuzama ukudibanisa kunye nawe. Ngaphandle kokuba unikwe umgwebi ukuba ube khona kwiseshoni yokudibanisa, ukhululekile ukugqiba ukuba ngaba ufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba okanye cha. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukudibanisa kunokukunceda wena kunye nomsebenzi wakho wokusebenza kunye ukuze ufikelele kwisivumelwano, ngoko unokufuna ukuzama.
Phendula ngo kubhala
Emva kokuba wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba uzame ukudibanisa, kufuneka uxelele wakho umyalelo malunga nesigqibo ngokubhaliweyo. Ngale ndlela, ukuba uzimisele ukuxolelana kwaye emva koko ugqibe enkundleni, ungabonisa ijaji ukuba uzimisele ukusebenzisana xa wakho umbuzo ekucela ukuba unikezele ukulamla.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba unqabile ukudibanisa, cacisa ukucinga kwakho kwimpendulo yakho. Ngethuba nje unesizathu esivakalayo sokunciphisa ukungqinelana, awuyi kubonwa njengento engabandakanyekanga kwimeko apho uya kugcina enkundleni.
Amanye amazwe avumela abazali ukuba bafake isicelo sabo sokuqala sokuxolelana ngeenkundla.
Ukuba ngaba kunjalo apho uhlala khona, kufuneka udibanise nenkundla ukuphendula kwisicelo ngqo.
Yazi i-Ramifications yokwenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba
Kwimeko apho ijaji ikuyalele ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kumlamli, kufuneka ube khona kwiseshoni-ubuncinci-kwaye ubonise ukuzimisela ukwenza umsebenzi wokudibanisa. Ukungaphumeleli ukwenza oku okuninzi kunokubangela ukuba ijaji ikugxeke. Ukongezelela, ukwenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwinkundla-eyalelwe ukuxolelana kunokwenzeka ukuba ijaji elinikezelwe yimeko enomsindo, enokuthi isebenze lula kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuzange ulandelwe yinkantolo ukuba uzame ukudibanisa, ngoko akukho ngokwenene ukuba akukho mithetho ecacileyo yomthetho ukwenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba. Ukuba omnye umzali kamva uza kukuzisa enkundleni, unokuzama ukuvelisa ukwenqaba ukuthetha naye kumgwebi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxolelana ngento into yokuba abazali bobabini bayavumelana nayo; Umzali omnye akanako ukunyanzelisa omnye ukuba athathe inxaxheba kumlamlo.
Yazi Yintoni onokuyilindela ekuHlanganeni
Iiseshoni zokudibanisa zigcina iiyure ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-3. Iseshoni ngokuqhelekileyo iqala ngomlamli ukwenza izethulo nokuchaza indima yakhe. Uya kucela wena kunye ne-ex yakho ukuba nizisile ngokufutshane, nibe necala lakho kwibali, nize nichaze ngokufutshane isizathu sokuba nifuna ukudibanisa.
Unokucelwa ukuba wenze uludwe lwemiba ephambili efuna ukujongana nayo. Kule ngongoma, umlamli uya kunceda iingxoxo malunga nale micimbi kwaye uzame ukukunceda ufikelele kwisivumelwano. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba wena kunye nomntu wakho ongaphambili unako ukufikelela kwisivumelwano nangayiphi na imiba ozama ukuyisebenzisa, kwaye unqwenela ukudala isivumelwano esibhaliweyo esibhalisiweyo, umlamli uya kunceda ukwenza oku.