Ukuhanjelwa kokunyamekwa xa umzali evumelekile ukuba ahambele umntwana wakhe phantsi kolawulo lomnye umntu, njengelungu lentsapho okanye onontlalontle. Ukutyelelwa okunokuthi kwenzeke kwikhaya lomzali okanye kwiziko lokutyelela elikhethiweyo, njengeziko lokunakekela abantwana. Abagwebi bahlela ukuhanjelwa okunyanyisiweyo xa umzali ovakatyelayo enombuzo, njengokwimeko yokusela utywala okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, okanye ukuba kukho izigxeko zokusetyenziswa gadalala okanye ubundlobongela basekhaya.
Injongo yohanjiso olugadiweyo kukuba kuqinisekiswe ukuba abazali banethuba lokugcina uqhagamshelwano nabantwana babo kwindawo ehleliweyo ekhuselekileyo kwaye ikhululekile kumntwana.
Indlela yoTyelelo oluSebenzayo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umzali othe tye uya kufuna ukubika kwiziko lokuvakasha elikhethiweyo ukutyelela nomntwana, okanye ijaji iya kulungiselela ukuba umntwana ahanjiswe kwikhaya lomzali. Kuzo zombini iimeko, ijaji iya kucacisa ngubani oza kujongana neeseshoni. Amaninzi amaninzi, umcebisi okanye unontlalontle uxanduva loqhagamshelwano kwaye uyaqinisekisa ukuba umzali uhambela umntwana kwindawo elawulwayo.
Ixesha elide lihanjelwe kwiiTyelelo eziqhelekileyo?
Ijaji inokuyalela ukuhanjelwa okumiselweyo kwesikhashana okanye ngokungapheliyo. Ukuba kukho izigwebo zokusetyenziswa gadalala okanye ubundlobongela basekhaya, ijaji inokuyalela ukuba ukuhanjelwa kumzali otshutshiswa kuhlolwe kuze kubekho uphando oluphandle ngokupheleleyo.
Abagwebi bathabatha izigxeko zokusetyenziswa gadalala okanye ubundlobongela ngokukodwa kwaye baya kuphanda ngezi zilingo ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba ijaji sele izimisele ukuba umzali akafanelekanga ukugcinwa, ijaji inokuvumela ukuvakashelwa ngokuqhubekayo, kodwa kufuneka ukuba ukutyelelwa kuhlolwe kwisimo esilawulwayo.
Kule meko, ukuhanjelwa kuza kuhlala kugqityiwe kude kube umzali angabonisa ukuba kukho utshintsho kwiimeko, ezifana nokuya kwiprogram yokuvuselela iziyobisi, echaphazela ukufaneleka komzali.
Ngaba Abazali Baya Kubuyela eNkundleni Ukutshintsha Umyalelo okanye Ngaba Kuphela?
Emva kokuba ijaji inqume ukugcinwa kunye nokuhanjelwa kwimiyalelo yenkundla, umyalelo uhleli kude kube ngumzali onokubonisa ukuba kukho utshintsho kwiimeko. Utshintsho kwiimeko ziba ngumzali omnye wokuthatha isigqibo, ukuphumelela komzali ukuzaliswa kokuvuselelwa okanye ukucebisa, okanye ezinye iinguqu ezichaphazela ukufaneleka komzali. Umzali ofuna ukutshintsha umyalelo wenkundla kufuneka abuyele enkundleni aze acele ukuba isivumelwano sihlaziywe ukubonisa utshintsho kwiimeko.
Yintoni Enye Abazali Abaya Kuyazi?
Abazali bafanele baqonde ukuba ukutyelelwa okonganyelweyo kwenzelwe ukukhusela ukhuseleko lwabantwana, ngelixa uvumela abazali ukuba bahlale beqhagamshelana nabantwana babo. Ukuba ungumzali ogqithiselwe ukuhanjelwa, qwalasela indlela onokubonisa ngayo amandla akho kumgwebi. Ukuba omnye umzali utyhola kakubi ulwaphulo-mthetho okanye ubundlobongela basekhaya, kufuneka usebenzisane nayo nayiphi na uphando olwalulwe ngumgwebi.
Ukongezelela, ukuba ungumzali oxhalabele ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho phambi komnye umzali, kufuneka uxelele umgwebi wale nangoko.