Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuba zonke iintsana ziyingelosi ezigqibeleleyo, ezingakwazi ukulimaza komnye nomnye, kodwa into engonwabileyo kukuba, ikhona. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba uya kufumana umntu oneminyaka emithathu ubudala ebeka umlingana naye eklasbby, ngokudabukisayo, ukuxhatshazwa kwezilwanyana zasesikolweni zinyani kwaye zineendlela ezininzi zokulimaza ngokomzimba nangokwenyama kubalingane babo beklasini.
Ukuhlekisa , ukuhlekisa, ukukhutshwa kunye nokubetha , ukukhaba kunye nezinye iindlela zokulimala komzimba, ngoxa kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka kwigumbi lokufundela esikolweni elizaliswe ngabantwana abancinci, ngokuqinisekileyo likhona. Kwaye ukuba incinci yakho ixhoba le-bully school, kunzima ukuhlala uxolo kwaye ugxininise ngenkxaso yokuxhasa umntwana. Kodwa kufuneka. Nantsi indlela.
Yazi Iimpawu
Nangona abanye abantwana beza kuphuma baze bathethe ukuba umntu uyabahlekisa okanye abaphatha kakubi, abanye bangatsho nto nantoni na, ingakumbi ukuba ingxaki engapheliyo. Impawu ezinokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa ziquka ukungafuni ukuya esikolweni emva kokuba uyayithanda, ukukhononda ngokugula okanye ukugula ngesisu ngaphambi kokuya esikolweni, ungaphenduli imibuzo malunga nokuba isikolo sinjani okanye utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwisimo sakhe-mhlawumbi uyadabuka okanye uphelelwe ngumsindo. Unokukunika ezinye iinkcukacha-ukuxelela ukuba umntwana othile uyamkhathaza okanye engamthandi umntu eklasini.
Ukuba ukrokreza ukuba umntwana wakho ujoliswe ngumxhaphazi, khuluma naye. Buza imibuzo ethile malunga nento eyenzekayo ngathi, "Ngaba uSally wakubetha?" "Yintoni eyenziwa nguBobby oku kukucaphukisa?" Kubalulekile ukugxotha ukuba ngaba ukuziphatha kakubi kuyenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo okanye ukuba kuyisiganeko esingaqhelekanga apho umntwana wakho wayenokubandakanyeka kwi-toy yokudlala okanye ukuvula indawo yokudlala.
Xoxa Ngezinye Kwabadala
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa, okokuqala kufuneka uxoxe nomfundisi weklasini okanye umboneleli wezinsuku. Fumana ukuba uyazi imeko. Ukuba akayena (ongeyinto engaqhelekanga, abaninzi abanokuxhaphaza benza okusemandleni abo ngasese), bhengeza izinto ezixhalabisa kwaye uthethe naye malunga noko ucinga ukuba kwenzeke. Bona ukuba uluphi uhlobo lwengqondo kunye neengcebiso asinikezayo. Ukumxwayisa nje into eyenzekayo kunokunyamekela ingxaki njengoko uya kubeka ingqalelo ngakumbi imeko. Ukuba emva kokuthetha notitshala unomuvo wokuba akukho nto isisombululo, qhubeka kuyo, uthethe kumlawuli womncedisi wesikolo okanye umhla.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unako ukuhlala uxolo, cinga ukuthetha nomzali womnye umntwana. Le nto ingaba yimihlaba yamashishini, ngoko kufuneka unyathele ngokucophelela. Ungamangaleli omnye umntwana nantoni na, khankanya ukuba umntwana wakho uthe akahambisani no-Sally omncinane kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni. Khangela oko akutshoyo kwaye athathe kuwo. Musa ukuguqula ingxoxo ibe yintsebenziswano kwaye ungakhathazeki xa engayifumani imeko.
Nika Umntwana Wakho Inkolelo Yakho
Isinyathelo inamba enye ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba ajongane nomxhaphazi? Mnike umnxeba aze amqinisekise ukuba ukhona ukunceda.
Ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba akuyonto into ayimele ayisebenze ngayo ngokwayo uya kwenza izimangaliso ngokuziphatha kwakhe nokuhlonipha.
Mfundise Indlela Yokusingatha
Nangona utitshala wesikolo sokufunda uya kuba ngumlingane onamandla kunomntwana eklasini, into yokuba incinci yakho ayiyi kuxhatshazwa xa iilwindla zijikeleze, ngoko kufuneka uyancede ukuba enze into ekufuneka yenze ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ukuba omnye umntwana uyamkhathaza. Ukuba akuyikukhathaza kakhulu umntwana wakho, unokwenza udlala indima eyahlukeneyo, umqeqeshe ukuba wenze ntoni rhoqo.
Ezinye iziphakamiso ziquka:
- Ukunyaniseka Ukuba umntwana wakho utyhola, ngezinye ikhondo elifanelekileyo liyakwenza nantoni na ukuhamba. Uninzi lwabaxhaphazi ngenxa yokufuna ingqalelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umxhaphazi uyabulala okanye umonakalisa umzimba wakho emzimbeni wakho, myalela ukuba athethe utitshala ngokukhawuleza.
- Yiba nesibindi Xa umxhaphazi eqala ukukhetha umntwana wakho, mcebise ukuba azimelele yena (kodwa ungalwa). Izwi elikhulu "Ndiyeke!" unokwenza izinto ezimangalisayo.
- Tshela u titshala Ukuba umntwana wakho akanakukhathazeka, ngoko ke ngeendlela zonke, mxelele utitshala. Abanye abantwana banenkxalabo yokuba baya kuthiwa yi- tattletale , kodwa mqinisekise ukuba lo ngumzekelo apho kufuneka bafune uncedo lwabadala.
Injongo apha kukukwakha ukuzithemba kwakhe ngelixa emnika isifundo kwintlalo. Yaye ngelixa ucinga ukuba le yodwa ixesha eliza kutyhatshazwa ngumntwana wakho, inyaniso yinto efana nabantu abadala, kufuneka sijongane nabantu abangenakulungele. Ngokumnika ezi zakhono ngoku, uya kumnceda ebomini bakhe.
Ekugqibeleni, ukuba imeko imbi ngokwaneleyo kwaye unomuvo wokuthi akunakwenziwa okwenziwe unokwenza isigqibo sokuba kufuneka utshintshe izikolo okanye amagumbi okufundela. Ndiyathemba, akuyi kufika kuloo nto. Kodwa njengabazali, singabantwana bethu abafanelekileyo. Impendulo yenza into ebhetele kumntwana wethu.