Ukuba usanda kutshatyalaliswa, awuvumelekanga ukucinga ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokugcinwa kude kube ngoku. Kodwa xa uceba ukuqhawula umtshato okanye ubeke iziqwenga ndawonye emva kokuhlukana, ukhetho olukhoyo kuwe lubaluleke kakhulu. Kuzama ukuhamba kuphela ngenxa yokuba ufanelekile okanye, ukuba uyibeke ngokucacileyo ngenxa yokuba awufanelanga nantoni na eyenziwe yakho kwintsapho yakho.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uhlolisisa iintlobo zokugcinwa kunye nokuvakatyeka okukhoyo kuwe, khumbula ukuba ukuqwalasela okubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana bakho.
Qonda iindidi ezahlukeneyo zokuzimela
Ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo iintlobo zokugcinwa kwabantwana kunye nokuvakasheleka kuwe, kuya kufuneka ukuba uqhelane nesigama esetyenziswe ngugqirha lwezomthetho. Ingakumbi, kufuneka uqonde ukuhlukana phakathi kokugcinwa komthetho kunye nokugcinwa komzimba .
Umthetho
Ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kubhekisela kumagunya omthetho ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu egameni lomntwana wakho. Imizekelo yezigqibo eziphambili ziquka apho umntwana wakho eya esikolweni, luhlobo luni lokukhuliswa ngonqulo (ukuba kukho), kunye nezigqibo zonyango ezingxamisekileyo. Izinketho zokugcinwa komthetho ziquka:
- Umthetho oMthethweni woMthetho : Umzali onokugcinwa kuphela komthetho ngumntu kuphela onalo igunya lomthetho lokwenza izigqibo ezinkulu egameni lomntwana. Ezi ziquka izigqibo malunga nemfundo, inkolo, kunye nonyango.
- I-Custody Legal Joint : Ukugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni kuthetha ukuba bobabini abazali banegunya lomthetho lokwenza izigqibo ezinkulu kumntwana. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba abazali banakho ukwabelana "ngokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni" ngaphandle kokuba "ukugcinwa ngokusemthethweni."
Ukuzimela ngokomzimba
Ukugcinwa komzimba kubhekisela apho abantwana bahlala khona ubuninzi bexesha.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuthiwa "indawo yokuhlala." Iintlobo zokugcina umzimba ziquka:
- I-Sole Physical Custody : Ngelo hlobo lokugcinwa kwengane, umntwana uhlala kwindawo enye. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umzali ongeyena umgcini wonikezelo unikezelwa ngamalungelo okutyelela ngokukhawuleza, kubandakanywa ne-sleepovers.
- I-Custody Physical Custody : Leli fomu lokugcinwa kwabantwana libizwa ngokuba "ukugcinwa ngokubambisene," "ukwabelana ngomzali," okanye "indawo yokuhlala." Kule meko, abantwana bahlala nomzali omnye ngenxalenye yeveki (okanye inxalenye yonyaka) kwaye bahlala nomnye umzali ngexesha elisele. Ukwahlula ixesha elichithwe kwindawo nganye lilingana nelingana.
- I-Bird's Cest Custody : Yilapho abantwana behlala kwindawo enye, kunye nabazali bajikeleza baze baphume kwikhaya labantwana kwixesha eliqhelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, umama angahlala kwikhaya labantwana ngoMvulo ngokuhlwa ngoLwesine, kwaye uTata angahlala khona ukususela ngoLwesine kusihlwa ukuya ngoMsombuluko kusasa. Nangona le ndlela yokugxininisa umntwana inganciphisa ukuguqulwa kwabafundi, kuya kuba neendleko zokugcina ezintathu zokuhlala ezihlukeneyo.
Ukutyelela
Ukutyelelwa kwabazali nabantwana kuvumela abazali abangenalo ukugcinwa kwempilo kubantwana babo rhoqo.
Iintlobo zokutyelela ziquka:
- Ukutyelelwa okungalawulwayo : Olu luhlobo oluqhelekileyo lokutyelela. Abazali abanokuvakatyekwa ngokungaqhelekanga ngokuqhelekileyo bavumelekile ukuba bathathe abantwana babo emakhaya abo okanye banokuyonwabela umntwana ophumayo ngexesha lokuvakashelwa okucwangcisiweyo. Ngezinye izihlandlo, ukunciphisa kuboniswe kwangaphambili. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umama ukhetha ukumncelisa, umzali ongekho phantsi unokucela ukuba ahambele umntwana kwikhaya lomama ade umntwana akwazi ukuthatha ibhotile.
- Ukuhanjelwa okulondoloziweyo : Kwezinye iimeko, iinkundla ziya kuhanjelwa ukutyelelwa okonganyelweyo, oku kuthetha ukuba omnye umntu omdala onoxanduva kufuneka abe khona ngexesha lokutyelela. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko, inkundla inokuvumela umzali ongekho phantsi ukuba akhethe umntu ukuba abe ngumphathi. Umzekelo, unokukhetha umkhulu okanye umhlobo wentsapho. Kwezinye iimeko, umzali nomntwana kufuneka badibanise kwindawo ethile ukuba umntu oqeshwe ngumntu onontlalontle okanye inkundla enikwe umyalelo unakho ukulawula ukusebenzisana.
- Ukutyelela okuqhelekileyo: Ukutyelela okuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ngokusetyenziswa ngekhompyutheni yobugcisa bevidiyo. Nangona kungenakulungileyo njengendlela yokuvakatyeka kuphela, ukutyelela ngokukodwa kunokunika umxholo wokuqhubeka xa abazali nabazali behlala kude okanye ukuvakatyelelwa ngabanye kungekho.