Kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba abantwana bazalwe ngabazali abangatshatanga kodwa inkqubo yethu yomthetho isekelwe kakhulu kunye nokucinga ukuba abantwana abangabantwana bayatshata ngokomthetho. Oku kunokuphakamisa imibuzo emininzi yomama ongatshatanga ukuba abantwana abangabathandi ukuba babe yingxenye yobomi bomntwana. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni umfazi angakhetha ukuba angabhalisi uyise kwisitifiketi sokuzalwa komntwana kodwa ngaba oku kungabangela ingxaki kwixesha elizayo?
Xa kungekho ntata efakwe kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa, imibuzo eninzi ivela malunga nokugcinwa kwabantwana. Ngaba umama kufuneka afake i-custody? Okanye kucingelwa ukuba ekubeni umntwana ehlala naye, kwaye uyise akayijikelezi, akukho mfuneko yokwenene ngokufayile? Abanye abamama kule ngxaki bazibuza nokuba ukufakela ngokusemthethweni ukugcinwa kwabantwana kungabasebenzi, kubangele ukuba ubaba engekhoyo ukuba aphinde avele 'ngaphandle kwokhuni' kwaye afune ukugcinwa kunye okanye ukuvakashelwa rhoqo. Makhe sihlolisise lo mbuzo ngakumbi:
Xa kungekho Tata kwiSatifikethi sokuzalwa
Umfundi uyabuza : Andizange nditshatile kum, kwaye ngoku ndiyazi ukuba kufuneka ndifake ifowuni yokugcina umntwana. Ulutsha lwam ngoku luyiminyaka emibini ubudala, kwaye akukho ntata kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa. Enyanisweni, wayengekho ngeenxa zonke ngexesha lokuzalwa kwentombi yam, ngokunjalo kuquka naye kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa sasingenakukhetha. Ndacinga ngethuba lokuba ndiza kugcina umntwana, kodwa ndivile ukuba ndimele ndifake iifayile kuphela xa ndivela kwakhona. Yintoni na? Ekubeni kungekho ntata kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa, ngaba ndinokucinga ukuba ndinegunya lokugcina kuphela? Okanye ngaba ngokwenene ndifuna ukufaka ifowuni nangona intombi yam ihlala kunye nam kwaye i-ex yangu ingekho?
Impendulo : Kuxhomekeke apho uhlala khona. Kwamanye amazwe, njenge-Oklahoma, kucatshangelwa ukuba unina unelungelo lokugcinwa kwimeko apho abazali bengatshatanga ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana kwaye akukho ntata esesisatifikethi sokuzalwa.
Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iindawo, njengeMichigan, kucingwa ukuba umama ongatshatanga kuphela unalo ilungelo lokugcina, ngokuchasene nokugcinwa kwedwa, nangona xa uyise engekho kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa kwaye akazange asayine imvume yokumisela umzali.
Kufuneka uqaphele, ngokunjalo, ukuba abaninzi bathi bangenzi nantoni yokugcinwa kweso sigxina ngokubhekiselele ekubeni ngaba uyise ufikelele kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa okanye ukugcinwa kweso sigxina kunye nakwiimeko apho abazali babengatshatanga.
Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufunde kwiimimiselo nemithetho yokugcina abantwana kwimeko yakho. Ngokuxhomekeka apho uhlala khona, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka ufake ifom yefowuni, nangona umntwana wakho sele ehlala nawe.
Imithetho yokuThengisa abantwana ekujongeni kuRhulumente wakho
- Iimimiselo malunga 'nabazali abangatshatanga' okanye abantwana 'abazalwa ngaphandle komtshato' (ewe, yilona ulwimi olwabona kumthetho wangempela)
- Indlela yokuseka ubume kwilizwe lakho
- ImiGaqo malunga nokufakela ukuxhasa abantwana
- Ukusekwa kokutyelelwa kunye nokugcinwa kwabantwana
- Izikhokelo zokuseka isicwangciso sobuzali