Ukuzala umntwana onenkinga yokuchasana nengxaki yinto enzima. Abantwana abanenkinga yokuchasana neengxaki ezichasayo, bayakukhanyela ukulandela izikhombisi-ndlela kwaye bafumane uvuyo ngokucaphukisa abanye ngenjongo.
Ngaphandle kwezi ngxaki zendlela yokuziphatha, abantwana abaneengxaki zokuchasana nezichasayo bangabulumko, baqulunqe kwaye banakekele. Kwaye ngoncedo lokuncedisa abazali, ukuziphatha kwabo kunokuphucula ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ukuzala umntwana onenkcaso yokuchasana nokungafaniyo kuyahluke. Kudinga indlela eyahlukileyo yokuqeqeshwa.
Ukubonelela ngokufanelekileyo
Abantwana abanenkinga yokuchasana nabo bahlala bexhamla kwiimbilini zabantu. Ngenxa yoko, amaninzi ekusebenzisaneni kwabo nabantu abadala ababi. Bafumana imiyalelo emininzi, ukulungiswa kunye nemiphumo kunabanye abantwana.
Ukunyuka kweengxaki zemihla ngemihla kunokubangela ukuba iingxaki zokuziphatha zithintele. Dlala imidlalo kunye, ugijime ngaphandle, okanye wenze iphrojekthi kunye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho uziphathe njani ngaloo mini, mnike ingqwalaselo engabonakaliyo imizuzu engama-15.
Ukunika ingqalelo kwengqondo yomntwana kuya kunciphisa iinzame zakhe zokubamba ingqalelo ngokuziphatha kakubi. Ngoko qwalasela ixesha lakho lomgangatho utyalo-mali ekunciphiseni iingxaki zokuziphatha ngaphezu kwexesha elide.
Ukuseka iMigaqo ecacileyo
Abantwana abanengxaki yokuchasana neengxaki bayathanda ukuphikisana ngemithetho.
Bakhangele iinqununu kwaye bakhathazeke xa izinto zingabonakali.
Ukunciphisa ezinye iingxabano ngokubeka imithetho ecacileyo yasekhaya . Thumela imithetho kwifriji okanye kwenye indawo evelele endlwini.
Emva koko, bhekisa kuluhlu njengoko kufuneka. Xa umntwana wakho athi, "Andifuni ukwenza umsebenzi wam ekhaya ngoku," khankanya, "Imithetho ithi umsebenzi wesikolo uqala ngo-4: 00."
Gcina imithetho elula kwaye musa ukwenza uluhlu lude kakhulu. Faka iinkqubo ezisisiseko malunga nemiba enjengomsebenzi wasekhaya, imisebenzi, ixesha lokulala, kunye nentlonipho.
Yenza Isicwangciso Sendlela
Yakha isicwangciso sokuziphatha ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha komntwana wakho ezinjengobundlobongela, ukuthetha emva, ukwenqaba ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo okanye ukuthukuthela.
Ukuchonga umphumo wakho umntwana uya kufumana xa ephula imithetho. Chaza imiphumo yakhe ngaphambi kwexesha.
Ukongezelela, xubusha nayiphi imiphumo emihle aya kuzuza xa ebonisa ukuziphatha okuhle. Iinkqubo zemivuzo , ngokukodwa iinkqubo zoqoqosho lweengcebiso , zingabakho izixhobo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kubantwana abaneenkcaso ezichasayo.
Hlangana neMiphumo
Abantwana abaneengxaki ezichasayo zifuna imiphumo emibi yokuziphatha kakubi. Ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe ngokuphula imithetho ngokuthe ngandlela, akayi kufunda.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho ikhefu elilodwa ithuba lokuba uya kuphuka uze unike xa ephikisa, uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufanele ukudubula. Yaye uya kuba ngxabano ngaphezulu kwexesha.
Gwema amandla oMbane
Abantwana abanenkinga yokuchasana neengxaki ezilungileyo bayabakhokelela ekukhuliseni abantu abadala kwiingxoxo ezide. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela ukulwa kwamandla ngenxa yokuba ayincedisi okanye ivelise.
Ukuba uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe kwaye uxabana nawe, xhathisa ukuphikisana. Xa sele egcina wena kwingxabano, ixesha elide ulibale ukucoca igumbi lakhe. Kunoko, mnike imiyalelo ecacileyo kwaye unikezele umphumo ukuba ukhetha ukungayilandeli.
Musa ukunyanzelisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze into ethile. Awukwazi ukumhlambulula igumbi lakhe. Awukwazi ukumphoqa ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo. Ukuphikisana, ukugaya, kunye nokukhala akusebenzi.
Noko ke, unokwenza ukuba akubi emehlweni akhe ukuba ukhetha ukwenza okuthethile ngokumnika iziphumo. Ukuba akayi kwenza oko umxelele, mnike isilumkiso esisodwa esichaza ngokucacileyo oko kuya kwenzeka xa engenzi oko utshoyo.
Yithi, "Ukuba awuyi kuphuma kwi khomputha okwangoku, uya kulahlekelwa ngamalungelo akho ekhompyutheni kwiiyure ezingama-24 ezilandelayo." Ukuba akahambelani emva kwemizuzwana embalwa, landela umphumo.
Fumana inkxaso
Ukuba umntwana wakho akafumani uncedo lwezakhono ngokuqhubekayo, unokufuna ukuyiqwalasela. Uqeqesho lwabazali kaninzi luyinxalenye enkulu yonyango kwaye umcebisi weengcali unokukunceda ngeendlela zokuguqula ukuziphatha ekhaya.
Amaqela enkxaso anokunceda. Ukukhulisa umntwana ngokuchasene nengxaki yokuxhatshazwa kunokunyanzela nokuthetha nabanye abazali abaziqondayo kubalulekile.
Zihlolisise ngokwakho njengoko unako malunga nokuchasana nengxaki yokuchasana. Ukuyiqonda kuyinto ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni umntwana ukuba afunde izakhono ezintsha zokulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe.
Imithombo
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