Ingcamango yomntwana ohamba kwiminyaka ingenza ukuba nabazali bezolile bebe neentloni. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuvumela intombazana yakho inkululeko encinane yokuzama ukutshata ngelixa esaphila phantsi kwephahla lakho.
Yenza izikhokelo ezicacileyo malunga nokulindela kwakho ukunceda umntwana wakho aqonde ukubaluleka kobudlelwane obuhle kunye nobungozi obunxulumene nomsebenzi wesondo.
Naliphina imigaqo oyikhethayo yokudala kufuneka ixhomekeke kumgangatho womntwana wakho wokukhula. Nangona abanye abatsha banokusingatha iintsuku zamaqela abaneminyaka eyi-14, abanye abavuthiwe ngokwaneleyo ukuphatha ukuthandana baze badala.
Nazi ezinye izinto oza kuziqwalasela xa udala imithetho yakho yeselula:
1. Yazi Nawuphi na Umntwana Wakho Ofuna Ukuqalisa
Ukuba umhla wakho weveki uyakhupha uze uhloniphe uphondo ukusuka kwindlela yokuya endaweni yokuza kukudibana nawe, cacisa ukuba umntwana wakho akasayi kumhla. Unokuhlala uqala ngokudibana nomhla kwikhaya lakho ngamaxesha ambalwa ngokutya ngaphambi kokuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba aphume ngosuku olulodwa.
Yenza izikhokelo ezicacileyo malunga nokuthandana kwe-intanethi . Abaninzi abaselula bathetha nabantu ngabanye kwi-intanethi baze bavelise ingqiqo yobuhlobo. Ngenxa yoko, banako ukudibana nabantu abaye baxoxisana nabo ngomhla kuba bengaboni njengabasemzini.
2. Yazi Ngubani, Yiyiphi, Kuphi, Nini
Qinisekisa ukuba uhamba ngendlela ecacileyo yosuku lwakho lomntwana.
Kwabancinci abaselula, ukumema ukuba nomdla kwintando kwindlu ingaba ubukhulu bokuthandana okuyimfuneko. Okanye unokuqhuba umntanakho kunye nomhla kwiifikrini okanye kwindawo kawonkewonke.
Kodwa abatsha abadala banokufuna ukuphuma ngemini edolophini ngaphandle komqhubi.
Yenza kucacile ukuba kufuneka ukwazi iinkcukacha zokuba ngubani oya kubantwana bakho, apho baya kuhamba khona, kwaye ngubani oza kuba khona.
Ukuseka i-curfew ecacileyo ngokunjalo. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba yintoni umntanakho ayenayo xa ephuma kumhla.
3. Misela umda wobudala
Kwamanye amazwe, intsha inokubambisana nabani na abayifunayo xa befikelela kuma-16, kodwa kwezinye iimeko bathi abanalo olo khetho de bafike kwi-18. Kodwa, ngaphandle kwemiba esemthethweni, misela imigaqo malunga nobudala bomda wokuthandana.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukuma omkhulu kumgangatho wokukhula phakathi komntwana oneminyaka eli-14 kunye ne-18 ubudala. Kukho ubuncipheko obuninzi bokulala ngesondo okanye umntu oneminyaka eli-14 ubudala unokuba nzima ukunyanzela usuku oludala. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asondele nabantu abasondeleyo.
4. Gcina iVolo lokuGumbana livulekile
Ukuba umntwana wakho umemeza umhla ekhaya, yenza umthetho othi umnyango kufuneka uhlale uvulekile. Abaselula abanikezelwa bucala bodwa bodwa banokulingwa ukulingwa ukuba bahlanganyele kwimisebenzi yesondo.
Misela ukulindela okucacileyo malunga nokubaluleka kokuthetha kunye nokwenza imisebenzi ndawonye engabandakanyi umsebenzi wesondo.
5. Yazi Ngubani na iKhaya kwiNdlu yomnye umntu
Ukuba umntwana wakho oya kwindlu yosuku, fumana ukuba ngubani oya kuba ekhaya. Ncokola nabazali bomhla ukuba bathethe ngemithetho yabo.
Ezinye iindwendwe zingenayo nayiphi na imigaqo ebekiwe okanye ingaboni isidingo sokubonelela nayiphi na uhlobo lolawulo.
Ngoko, kubalulekile ukubuza ngendlela ehloniphekileyo kodwa ngokuchanekileyo yintoni na imigaqo yenkqubo kunye nolawulo oluza kunikwa.
6. Xoxa ngeeTheknoloji
I-teknoloji ingabangela ingxaki kubaselula ababandakanyekayo ubudlelwane bomtshato ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha, abafana bayalingeka ukuba bahambisane nesicelo somhla wokuthumela iifoto ezingabonakaliyo . Ngelishwa, ezi zithombe zinokuthi zikarhulumente ngokukhawuleza kunye nabaselula abangenakulindela banokuthi bahlaziye ngokukhawuleza.
Ukucela kunye nokudlula iifoto zabantwana abasebancinci abanamakhwenkwe banakho nemiphumo yomthetho. Ukuba inkwenkwe ifumana umfanekiso weentombi zakhe kwaye idlulisela kunye nabahlobo bakhe, unokufumana iirhafu zokusasaza iinthombe zoononophala.
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali baxoxe ngeengozi zokwabelana ngeengxoxo zesondo nezithombe nge-intanethi.