I-Dos and Don'tts of Creating Your Family Parenting Schedule
Ukuphuhlisa ishedyuli yabazali kunye neyokuqala ibinyathelo ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni abantwana bakho ukuba balungele ubomi bakho obutsha . Kwaye ngoxa kubaluleke kakhulu ngokuchasana nokunyamekela abantwana, kuxhomekeke ekuboniseni abantwana bakho ukuba uzimisele ukusebenzisana ndawonye. Faka isicelo se-dos elandelayo kunye ne-dont njengoko uhlakulela ishedyuli yokuqala yozali:
Iingcebiso zokudala iShedyuli yoBzali osebenza kwiNtsapho yakho
Xa kuziwa ekuqulunqeni ishedyuli yentsapho yakho yomzali:
- Zibeke ezicathulweni zezingane zakho. Ukuhamba emva nasemva phakathi kwamakhaya amabini akulula. Kodwa akukho ukulungelelanisa ukuba ungaphinde uhlale kunye nabazali bobabini xa kukuphela kwendlela yokuphila abantwana bakho abaye bayayazi. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo malunga neshedyuli yakho yomzali, zibeke ezicathulweni zezingane zakho uze ucinge ukuba ubomi bemihla ngemihla buya kuba njani kubo. Baza kuzuza ntoni? Baya kuphelelwa phi?
- Qwalasela izinto zokusebenza. Ukuba uya kuba nesabelo esivulekileyo sesikhathi sokubeletha, kubalulekile ukuba bobabini niphile ngokukhawuleza omnye komnye ukuze wenze izinto zokuthutha zilawulwe kuwo wonke umntu. Kwaye nokuba ngaba abantwana bakho baqale isikolo okanye baya kuba ngabadala esikolweni kwiminyaka embalwa, musa ukulibala ukuqwalasela izinto ezikhethiweyo kunye nakubomi bobabini. Enye ingqwalasela yokuqwalasela ukufumaneka kwabanikezeli benkonzo yabantwana abanamathemba. Ukuba unabantwana abancinci abesele bejwayele ukufumana umntwana, unokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba ishedyuli yakho yomzali iya kuvumela ukuba olo dlelwane luqhubeke, ukuze unciphise inani lokutshintsha kwezingane zakho kanye kanye.
- Qwalasela iikharityhulam zesikolo kunye neeshedyuli. Ukuba abantwana bakho bahlala emva kwesikolo ubusuku bobabini ngeveki kwimisebenzi yecandelo elongezelelweyo, gcina loo nto ingqondweni xa uceba ishedyuli yakho yomzali. Khumbula kwakhona, ukuba kubekho umgangatho wonyaka kwiinkqubo zakho zesikolo kunye neeshedyuli zomsebenzi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyazi iiklasi zeekarate zomntwana okwangoku zikhona kwi-hiatus kodwa ziya kuphinda ziqale ngeLwesibini ubusuku kwiinyanga ezimbini, ngoko ke into ebalulekileyo kwishedyuli yakho yomzali.
- Cinga ukuba ngaba uquka abantwana. Ukuba unabantwana abancinci, ukucela ukuba igalelo zabo akunakwenzeka. Ngaloo ndlela, kukuthi wena kunye no-ex usebenze kunye ukudala isicwangciso sobuzali kwaye unqume oko kubhetele kubantwana bakho ngeli nqanaba ebomini babo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba abantwana bakho bebekhulile, cinga ngokuxoxa ngeshedyuli yakho yomzali ngokucacileyo njengentsapho kwaye ubuze abantwana bakho ukuba banakho na ukukhetha. Nangona ukuba uyaphumelela ngokubhekiselele kwizinto ezithile, kubalulekile ukuba banike ithuba lokuva. Ukubandakanya kwabo kwinkqubo akumele ukubayike, nokuba kunjalo. Khumbula ukuba ukukhetha kwabo malunga neentsuku ezithile zeveki akuyinto efanayo ukuvumela abantwana abaselula benze isigqibo apho baya kuhlala khona.
- Qwalasela nayiphi na imfuno ekhethekileyo abantwana bakho abanakho. Njengabazali bakho abantwana, uyazi kakuhle ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zabo. Yaye ukuba ngaba nabantwana bakho baneemfuno ezizodwa, uyazi ngakumbi kunoba ngubani na ukuba imingeni yabo ekhethekileyo ithintela njani ukusebenzisana kwansuku zonke, indlela oya kuyo yokuziphatha , kunye nolwalamano lwakho nosapho. Njengoko uvavanya ilungiselelo elifanelekileyo lokugcina abantwana abaneemfuno zabo ezizodwa, gcinani engqondweni yonke into oyaziyo malunga noko kukunceda umntwana wakho aphumelele.
Oko Akufanele Uyenze Xa Udala Ishedyuli Yakho Yokuzali
Ngelo xesha, uya kufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba wena:
- Musa ukwenza lula umnqweno wakho. Isilingo sokwemvelo kukudala ishedyuli yomzali efanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba injongo yeshedyuli yakho yobazali kukuxhasa ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo bakho nabantwana bobabini kubazali - kwaye kuya kufuna umthamo ophilileyo wokunciphisa. Ezinye izigqibo zeshedyuli zentsapho zentsapho ziya kulungelelanisa nento ekulungeleyo kuwe, kwaye abanye abanye bangabonakali kakuhle. Ukuya kwinkqubo elindele ukuzincama kunokukunceda uzive ukhululekile endleleni.
- Musa ukugxila ekuphumeleleni okanye ekulahlekelweni. Esinye isilingo kukugcina umxholo wemiba emininzi oyenzayo xa uthelekisa yakho yangaphambili. Kodwa khumbula: kungoku ukwenza okulungileyo kubantwana bakho, kungekhona malunga na maxesha amaninzi okufuneka uzinikele kuyo. Nokuba kunjalo kukuba nonke niya kwenza imibingelelo, kwaye ningaze niyazi njalo xa ex isicelo esimenza ukuba ahlele enye into emsebenzini okanye ekhaya.
- Ungasebenzisi ishedyuli yomzali ukubuyela emva kwakho. Isicwangciso sobuzali bentsapho yakho asinethuba lokuchitha impilo yakho yomntu okanye umsebenzi wakhe ngokucwangcisa 'ukungqubuzana' okwenza iindleko ezibalulekileyo. Endaweni yoko, gxininisa oko abantwana bakho abakudinga kwaye bebekele bucala ama-ajenda akho. Le akusiyo ixesha lokwenza 'ukuhlawula' kwakho ukukhethwa kwakhe kwangaphambili kunye nentlungu oye kwafuneka uyenze.
- Musa ukucinga ukuba ungumzali omelekileyo kuphela kwintsapho. Unokuba nolwazi oluninzi olujongene nemingeni ethile, njengemigangatho yokulala, ukukhusela ukutshatyalaliswa nokuqinisekisa ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo sakho sekhaya usenziwa ngexesha. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba u-ex wakho akakwazi ukufunda izakhono ezifanayo xa unikezwa ithuba lokunyuka kwi-plate. Khumbula kwakhona ukuba ukulungelelanisa iindlela zakho zokuba umzali ohlukeneyo unokuba nesifundo sokuphila esilungileyo kubantwana bakho.
- Musa ukucinga ukuba iimeko ziya kudibana nomgwaqo. Yivuma uvuma ukwabelana ngomzali ngokuqonda ukuba i-ex yakho iya kuthuthela kwisithili sakho sesikolo ngaphambi kokuba wakho uneminyaka engama-2 ubudala ubudala angena esikolweni. Enyanisweni, ukuba oko kwenzeka ngokwenene kuxhomekeke kwimibandela yezinto eziphuma ekulawuleni kwakho, njengokungathi indlu yakhe iyathengisa nokuba ingaba izindlu ezinokuthi zifumaneke ngelo xesha kwisikolo sakho sesithili. Ngako oko, kungcono ukuba ungazibopheli kwishedyuli yomzali oya kuphelisa imimiselo ethile iya kudibana nakumhla wokugqibela.
Vavanya iShedyuli Yakho yoNzala yoLutsha
Emva kokuba usuqalile ishedyuli yomzali oyisisiseko kunye ne-ex yakho, zama ukunamathela kwisicwangciso sokuqala ixesha elaneleyo ukuba wonke umntu abe nomsebenzi wento osebenzayo noko kungenjalo. Unako ukwenza njalo utshintsho kwindlela, kodwa ukunamathela kwisicwangciso sakho sokuqala kwiiveki ezi-2-4, ekuqaleni, kuya kukunceda ukuhlukanisa iikinks ezilindeleke ukuba zize zilungelelanise naziphi na izilungelo zokuphila ezivela kwimicimbi efanelekileyo yokucwangcisa kufuneka ulungiswe ngokusemthethweni kwisicwangciso sakho sokuzalwa somzali.
Nini ukuvumela iiNkundla ziCwangcise iShedyuli yoBalo bakho
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba ukusebenza kwishedyuli yomzali kunye neyokuqala ngokuthe ngqo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Ikuvumela ukuba bobabini babe nenqaku elilinganayo kwinkqubo kwaye ubonise abantwana bakho ukuba uzimisele ukusebenzisana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uvumelane ngeshedyuli yomzali kunye neyokuqala, ngoko uya kufuneka uqwalasele ukuya enkundleni ukuze ijaji inokugqiba isigqibo. Umzali angenza esi sicelo. Ukuba ukhetha ukuhamba ngale ndlela, kufuneka uqikelele ukuqasha ummeli wezomthetho weentsapho ukuba akumele enkundleni. Hlalani nikhumbule, nokuba, ukuba umphumo uya kuba phantsi ngokupheleleyo kwezandla zakho, kwaye unokuphelisa ixesha elingaphantsi lokubeletha elide lakho elikulo ngoku likulungele ukukunika.