Impembelelo yokukhulumisana kwabazali nabantwana kunye nendlela yokuziphepha
Xa kuziwa ekuthetha nabantwana, kukho "i-dos" ecacileyo kwaye "musa" ukuqwalasela. Ukwenza unxibelelwano lomzali nomntwana ube nolwazi oluqhelekileyo , olulula, nolunempumelelo ekhaya lakho, thintela ezi mpazamo eziqhelekileyo.
Oko Kufuneka Uphephe Ukukwenza
1. Unganikeli ingqalelo ngokupheleleyo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uxoxa ngento ebalulekileyo okanye ebalulekileyo kwaye ungagcini nje ngosuku lwakho.
Vala iifowuni, iTV, kunye nezinye izixhobo. (Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba abantwana bayazi ukuba abazali bahlala bebagatya kwaye bagxininise kwiifowuni zabo nakwezinye iifowuni.) Musa ukuthetha nabantakwabo ngexesha elifanayo, ukuphelisa ingxolo yangemuva, kwaye ufumane indawo yokuthula noxolo.
2. Ukungaqwalasela ngokupheleleyo xa uthetha. Qinisekisa ukuba amehlo akho axhumene nomntwana wakho kwaye ukuba nonke nikela ingqalelo ngokupheleleyo phambi kokuba nithethe intetho yakho.
3. Akuyi kubuza imibuzo ethile. Ukubuza umntwana, "Kwakusesikolweni njani?" mhlawumbi unokunika impendulo njengokuthi, "Kuhle." Kodwa ukuba uyambuza, "Yintoni eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu eyenzeka esikolweni namhlanje?" okanye "Yintoni eyona nto eyona nto uyenayo namhlanje?" unokufumana iimpendulo ezingaphezulu.
4. Gwema, ungayihoyi, uze unyuke. Sonke senze oko - vumela into ehambayo eyisikhathazayo okanye isitshintshe ingxaki ngenxa yokuba sininzi kakhulu.
Ingxaki kukuba ukuphepha into ethile kunokukwenza into embi ngakumbi. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba thina ngabazali singabantu nje, sinokuvuthela umntwana ngomkhuhlane. Ukuze ugweme imeko engavumelekanga, qiniseka ukulungisa ingxaki xa uqala ukuzola kwaye uqokelele kwaye unokuxoxa ngezicwangciso ezinokuthi ucingisise.
5. Ukufunda, kuthetha kakhulu okanye ngaphaya-uchaze. Gcina izinto zilula kwaye zifutshane, ngakumbi xa uthetha nabantwana abancinci.
6. Ukuxhamla abantwana. Xa ugxile emzimbeni wakho kumntwana wakho, udala ukungalingani okukhulu okwenkqisayo, ngakumbi xa udidekile, ucaphukile, okanye umsindo. Yehla kwinqanaba kwaye uthethe naye ngokuzolile nangona kunjalo, nangona ungonwabanga ngento ethile akwenzileyo kwaye uyala umntwana wakho.
7. Ukubambisana. Abantwana banakho amathuba okuphulaphula kwaye bayamkela xa uxoxa ngembambano okanye ingxaki "masikubonise kunye" nendlela yokuthetha kunye neetoni kunokuba yindlela enobudlova okanye esongelayo.
8. Ukugxeka okanye ukuthuka. Gcina ulwimi lwakho oluhle. Ukuba ubonisa umsindo okanye ukuthuka umntwana wakho, akayi kufuna ukwabelana nantoni na ngexesha elizayo, nokuba ingxaki okanye into evuyayo. Khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uvakalise izimvo zakho ngendlela ehloniphekileyo, nangona ungavumelani, nokuba umntwana wakho unengcamango okanye uluvo ocinga ukuba luyinyumba okanye into ongavumelaniyo nayo.
9. Yela kwaye ulahlekelwe ukupholisa kwakho. Fumana iimvakalelo zakho ngaphantsi kokulawula intetho yakho. Ukuba unomsindo ngento ethile, qiniseka ukuba uhlalise ngokupheleleyo phambi kokuba uthathe incoko nomntwana wakho.
Ukumemezela akugcini nje ukungahloneli kwaye ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ulwaphulo lulungile, kodwa lulahlekelwa ngempumelelo kwithuba.
10. Ukungavumeli abantwana ukuba bachaze okanye bagqibe oko bathethayo. Awufuni ukuba umntu akuphazamise ukuba uzama ukuchazela into okanye ukubonisa uluvo lwakho. Bonisa umntanakho inceba efanayo kunye nentlonipho oyifunayo. Mfundise indlela yokuba ngumphulaphuli omhle ngokumnika ixesha ekufuneka akuxelele oko akucinga nokuvakalelwa.
11. Angabongi abantwana ngokuhlanganyela. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bave ngathi ukuvula into enhle. Khumbula ukubonga ngokuthetha nawe malunga nento ethile, ingakumbi ukuba kunzima ukuba baxoxe.