Yintoni onokuyilindela njengoko umntwana wakho esondela kwi-Adolescence
Njengoko abantwana befikelela kwiminyaka eyi-10, abaninzi baya kuqala ukuzicingela njengabafana beselula. Kodwa, akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngelixa abanye baqala ukukhangela nokwenza ngokuvuthileyo, abanye baya kuhlala bebanomntwana, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
Ukuba ngu-10 kukho konke utshintsho. Lixesha lokutshintsha elinokunikela iingxaki kwaye livuya njengoko abantwana beqala ukuthobela indlela yobutsha.
Uphuhliso Lwenyama
Abantwana abaninzi baya kuqala ukufumana ukukhula okuphambili kwithuba elifikelela kwibanga lesihlanu. Amantombazana athambekele ekukhuleni ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza azifumanisa ngokugqithiseleyo kumakhwenkwe athile.
Ngokwahlukileyo, abafana abaninzi abaneminyaka eyi-10 banokuqala nje ukubonisa iimpawu zokubaluleka , ngelixa abanye baya kufuneka balinde baze babe ngo-11, 12, okanye ngo-12. Ukungafani nokukhula kunokubangela ukungazinzi kubantwana abaninzi, nokuba kuba zikhula ngokukhawuleza okanye zingasheshi ngokwaneleyo.
Kukho iindlela onokukunceda umntwana wakho anqobe oku:
- Thetha ngo kuzalwa. Oku kuyinyani xa umntwana wakho ekhula ngokukhawuleza okanye ephuzayo kunabanye. Qaphela imiba yomzimba enokuvela njengoko abantwana beqala ukuziqhathanisa nabanye.
- Khuthaza ukutya okunempilo kunye nokuzilolonga. Ukwenza njalo ngoku unokunceda umntwana wakho ugweme ukunyameka kwaye afunde imikhwa engakwazi ukuyenza kwisikolo esiphakathi . Nge-10, abantwana banokukwazi ukubona izibonelelo zale ndlela yokuziphatha, zombini ngendlela abajonga ngayo kwaye bazive ngayo.
- Ukuseka imikhuba yokulala enempilo. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abaneminyaka eyi-10 basebenzisa amandla amaninzi, bafuna phakathi kweeyure ezi-9 ukuya kwi-10 zokulala ubusuku bonke. Musa ukuzikhohlisa ekucingeni ukuba zifuna ngaphantsi.
Phuhliso loLuntu
Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokudlala indima enkulu kulwalamano loluntu lwabaneminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Kule minyaka, abantwana baya kuba banqwenela ukungenelela ngokugqoka iimpahla ezifanelekileyo, ukuphulaphula umculo ofanelekileyo, okanye ukuthanda nokudibanisa izinto ezifanayo.
Kubalulekile ukufaka emntwaneni wakho ingqiqo eqinileyo yokuzibhokoxa ngokubhetele ekujonganeni neengcinezelo kunye neempembelelo esikolweni kunye nabahlobo. Nangona abantwana beli minyaka banokwenza konke ukujonga njengabantu abadala, basenokuba nobuthathaka obuya kubabeka kwingozi.
Njengomzali, kukho izinto ezithile onokuzenza:
- Gcina imisebenzi yakho ye-intanethi. Oku kubandakanya imidiya yoluntu kunye nophando lwe-intanethi. Sebenzisa ulawulo lwabazali kuzo zonke izixhobo kwakunye nokulandelwa kwe-GPS kwiifowuni.
- Vumela umntwana wakho ubumfihlo kunye nabahlobo bakhe . Ngoku yisikhathi sokuqala ukuvuma nokuhlonela ukuzimela komntwana wakho. Misela imithetho kodwa vumela umntwana wakho igumbi ukuba abonise ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
- Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukufumana izicombululo. Kunokuba uxelele umntwana wakho oko kufuneka akwenze, zinikela izinto zokukhetha ukwenzela ukuba akwazi ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo nolwazileyo . Ukuba umntwana wenza ukhetho olubi, xubusha imiphumo yokukhetha kunokugxeka okanye ukubetha umntwana.
- Gxi ninisa kwixabiso. Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo xa ubhekana nokukhetha okunzima. Ngokugxininisa ukubaluleka kobubele, ukunyaniseka, ukulingana nokuzixabisa, umntwana unokukwazi ukufika kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
- Khuthaza ukukhula komntu. Ngoku lixesha lokunceda umntwana wakho ahlole iimfuno ezintsha kwaye afumene iitalente ezintsha. Ukufunda ezi zakhono kubalulekile ekwakheni ukuzithemba. Oku kuquka ukukhuthaza imisebenzi yeqela ukunceda umntwana wakho afumane izakhono ezibalulekileyo zoluntu.
Uphuhliso Lomoya
Nangona abaninzi abaneminyaka eyi-10 baya kuzuza ubunzima abathile phezu kwemizwa yabo, abanye bangase basuke emva kweemeko. Kubalulekile ukuba novelwano kwaye ungafaki ukulindela okungenangqiqweni apho umntwana wakho akufanele okanye akufanele abe khona.
Ngokubonakalisa uvelwano, ungafaka ezininzi iimpawu ezifanayo kumntwana wakho. Nangona eziphatha ngokungenangqiqo okanye esebenza ngobuntwana, ngokugxila kwiimvakalelo, unokuguqula nesiganeko esibi kumathuba okufunda.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ongayenza ukuxhasa ukukhula komntwana wakho:
- Iimpawu zelayibhile. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ubhale njani ukuba uvakalelwa njani . Umntwana onokuthi, "Ndiyathukuthela," kuya kuba nzima ukuba enze ngokugqithisileyo.
- Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Ukwamkela intlungu akuxeleli nje ukuba umntwana uphulaphule, kunceda umntwana aqonde ukuba oko akuvakalelwayo akulungile.
- Fundisa i zakhono. Kubaluleke ngokufanayo kumntwana oneminyaka eli-10 ukufunda indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka ngendlela ephilileyo. Ngoko, kunokuba uzame ukunyamezela umntwana, ncedisa unyana okanye intombi yakho ukuba afumane amacebo okuvuma nokulungisa izi mvakalelo.
- Nika iimbopheleleko. Xa uneminyaka eyi-10, umntwana wakho uya kukwazi ukuphatha uluhlu olubanzi lwazo zokusebenza kunye noxanduva. Ukubonelela ngesikhokelo, kodwa ungadli okanye unxuse. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, sebenzisa uqeqesho olunexesha elide ukulungisa ukuziphatha nokukhuthaza uxanduva.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukuba ukhathazekile kukuba umntwana wakho akaphuhlanga njengoko kufuneka, qalisa ngokuzikhumbuza ukuba ngoku lixesha lokuguqula umnyaka oneminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Akukho ndawo ekhoyo malunga nokuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ibe yintoni. Ngelixa abanye beza kukhanda kunye nezemidlalo, abanye banokuzonwabisa ngokuzonwabisa baza kwenza iidonki okanye bafunde iincwadi zoonwabo. Bobabini bahle kwaye baphile kakuhle.
Ukuba ukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho uyalahla, thetha nomntwana wakho. Unako ukufaneleka ngokufanelekileyo ukuvavanya uphuhliso lwakho lomntwana kwaye akudlulisele kwingcali efanelekileyo ukuba kuyimfuneko.
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