Amagama ebantwana abaluleke kakhulu kwiintsapho ezininzi. Igama olikhethile kulutsha lwakho luya kuba ligama elithatha ixesha elidlulileyo lokuphila, ekunqandeni ukulungiswa komthetho egameni labo kamva ebomini. Uya kufuna ukufumana igama eliya kubafanisa njengengane, umntwana okhulayo, omdala osemtsha, kwaye ekugqibeleni, nangona ubudala. Uvavanyo lwexesha luvavanyo lokugqibela lwegama, nangona abaninzi abantu bevakala beza ngokuvumelana namagama abengazange bawuthande ngakuqala ngaphambi kokuba balele.
Ukongezelela ubunzima obubi bokubiza omnye umntu, wena (ngokuqhelekileyo) kufuneka uyenze ngombono womntu-ngamanye amaxesha, nangaphezulu komnye umntu. Oku kwenza umsebenzi wokumisela umntwana unzima kakhulu. Ukukunceda ukuba ufumanise into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele kunye nendlela yokuhamba kakuhle malunga nenkqubo, sinezinto ezithile ozicingayo xa ukhangele amagama omntwana.
Kuphi Ukufumana Amagama Amantombazana
Xa uhamba egameni lakho umntwana, usenokuba sele uluhlu olude lwegama lamantombazana, amagama enkwenkwe , kunye namagama angathathi hlangothi sele sele eqalisiwe, nangona oku akusoloko kuyinyaniso kuyo yonke intsapho. Abantu abaninzi bathabathe igama lomntwana ophefumlelweyo ukusuka kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo. Kwabaninzi, oku kuquka:
- Igama lebantwana
- Izikhokelo ze-intanethi kunye nezixhobo zokubiza amagama
- Amagama omndeni
- Inkcubeko yasePapa (abadlali, abalingiswa be-movie, abaculi)
- Amanani omlando
Uza kuchitha ubuncinci ixesha lokulungiselela igama lomntwana wakho. Ukuqwalasela uluhlu lweelfabhethi lwamagama lungakuvumela ukuba uhlalutye amagama ongazithandayo kwaye ugcine umkhondo wamagama owenzayo.
Kungenzeka ukhethe ukukhetha igama elilodwa olilifunayo kwaye ufumene abanye abavakalayo okanye bajonge efanayo, nokwakha uluhlu lwakho oluvela apho.
Izinto Omele Uziqwalasele Xa Ubiza Umntwana
Kungase kuzwakala kulula ukukhetha igama kwaye usebenze nalo. Unokwenza oko, kunjalo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqwalasela izinto ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze igosa:
- AbaQalayo: Unokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba awunikanga abantwana bakho bokuqala ababethetha into ekhohlakeleyo okanye engaqhelekanga. Cinga uAron Simon Samuels okanye uClarie Octavia Wilson.
- Amagama omnxeba : Hink ngokusebenzisa ama-nicknam magama anokunika umntu wakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba awufani nabo nje kuphela, kodwa ukuba uzive kakuhle malunga nendlela abahambelana ngayo negama lakho lokugqibela.
- Wabiza ntoni abazalwana ? Unokuba ufuna ukucinga ngokunika abantwana bakho amagama athi "hambani kunye," njengoko beza kuthiwa baphethwe ngumoya ofanayo. Ngaphezu koko, kunokuba kunzima ukuchazela abantwana bakho isizathu sokuba umntu unelinye igama elikhethekileyo (uthi, uZaphod) xa igama lomntakwabo nguBob.
- Ngaba inentsingiselo embi? Amanye amazwe kwaye amazwe ngokwenene anemithetho eyakuthintela ukubiza igama lomntwana nantoni na into ebonwa njengeengxaki zembali, njengoAdolf Hitler, uSathana, njl.
Ukuphikisana nomlingani Ngegama lamantombazana
Unokufumana ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ningaboni iso xa lifika kumagama omntwana . Sungcangcazela. Oku kuqhelekileyo. Kwakhona sizathu esikhulu sokuqala ukuthetha ngamagama omntwana ekuqaleni. Ngexesha elide ufanele uxoxe ngalo, unxinzelelo olungaphantsi uza kuziva.
Enye indlela esebenza kakuhle ukuba unomlingani ohlala enqaba amagama ukuwacela uluhlu lwegama leentombazana nentombazana.
Ezi zinto zibandakanya zingafakwa kwiindlela naziphi azinqwenelayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyanciphisa ukhetho lwakho, kodwa lunokuthintela inkxalabo eninzi xa ungenalo into yokuba bayicinga "igama elihle."
Oku kuya kuba yindawo yokuqala. Umzekelo, masithi umlingane wakho uthi Paula ligama eluhlu lwabo. Mhlawumbi awuyithandanga loo gama, kodwa ucinga ukuba uPaulina ligama elihle, okanye ukuba uPawulos uya kwamkeleka kuluhlu lwegama lomfana.
Ngamanye amaxesha iingxabano ziyafudumala. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza isigqibo malunga negama kunye, cinga indlela yokubiza umntwana oya kuvunywa kubo bobabini. Ngokomzekelo, ezinye iintsapho zivumela unina ukuba akhethe amagama amantombazana kunye noyise ukuba akhethe amagama amakhwenkwe.
Unokuvuma ukuba neqela lesithathu, ngokuqhelekileyo ilungu lentsapho, khetha igama. Umzekelo uza kuba ugogo uya kufaka igama kwaye uza kuthatha isigqibo njengentsapho umyalelo wokubeka amagama. Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba umntwana obizwa ngokuba ngumntu akaqhelekanga ngoku.
Iingoma Zentsapho Kwigama Lamabantwana
Izithethe zentsapho zinokudlala indima enkulu yokuba ukhetha ukubiza umntwana wakho. Unokuba nomlando omde wokusebenzisa iphethini yokubhala igama. Umzekelo: Inkwenkwe yokuqala isoloko ifumana igama eliphambili lomkhulukazi kayise, kwaye inkwenkwe yesibini ifumana igama eliphakathi lomkhulu womama. Unako ukwenza okufanayo kunye neentombi kunye nogogo. Lo ngumnye wemizekelo emininzi.
Ukusetyenziswa kwendibano ebalulekileyo yokuqamba igama kunokuba yinto eyakuthandayo. Ezinye iindwendwe zinemizila emide kakhulu yamanqaku amancinane, aqala, ngokuqhelekileyo emva kokugqibela, ngamanani aseRoma. Ukuba usapho lwakho aluzange lwenze oko ngaphambili, yindlela enhle yokwenza isithethe sentsapho. Nangona kubonakala kubonakala kwindoda yamalungu entsapho, amabhinqa anokukwenza oko.
Unokufisa nokuqwalasela izithethe ezingabandakanya:
- Ukuhlonela izihlobo ezifile
- Ukugcina i-brand of initials (okufanayo kunye nabo bonke abasapho)
- Ukubiza umntwana ngegunya elithemba ukulufaka (ukholo, ithemba, uthando, njl)
- Ukudala igama elikhethekileyo, mhlawumbi ngaphandle kokuhlanganiswa kwamagama entsapho okanye amagama
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu banquma ukutshintsha izithethe zentsapho kwintsana ekuthiwa ngamaxesha onke. Oku kwamkelekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni intsapho yakho izama ukukuxelela. Ngaphambi kokuba uqhube phambili, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela indlela yokulawula naluphi na ukuxhalabisa kwintsapho ekhoyo.
Ukuba ugqiba ukuvakalisa igama lomntwana ngaphambi kokuba uzalwe, unokufumana ukuba ukuva iindaba ezincinane ekuqaleni kunika izihlobo zakho ixesha elifanelekileyo ukuba lihambelane nesigqibo osenzileyo. Bangasebenzisa eli xesha ukucela ukuba utshintshe ingqondo yakho. Oku kunokwenzeka okanye akunakukuphawula, kodwa lungele ulungele.
Kungenzeka ukhethe ukulinda de emva kokuba umntwana azalwe ukuvakalisa igama lakhe. Le nto inokuba neyinto eyongeziweyo kuyo. Ukuba nabani na onokukhathazeka kakhulu, unokucinga ukuba uceba ukuphula isithethe ngaphambi kwexesha (nangona ungabelana ngegama elikhethiweyo elikhethiweyo). Ukuba zididekile, zama ukuqonda, kodwa uqine ngokuzibophezela kwakho kwigama lomntwana wakho.
Ukukhetha igama eliphakathi kuMntwana wakho
Ininzi yeentsapho zaseMerika zikhetha igama eliphakathi labantwana. Into enhle abantu abaninzi bazive bekhululekile kwaye bancinci ngaphantsi kwegama eliphakathi. Le nto ingaba yindawo yokufihla igama lomntu olikhethayo ngaphandle komntu onyanzelekileyo kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uyayithanda. Kwakhona yindawo yokuzonwabisa, xa unomuzwa wokuthi igama lokuqala lisesikweni, okanye ubeke "igama lokukhusela," xa umntwana wakho ekhula angayithandi igama lakhe lokuqala.
Liliphi Igama Lokugqibela Omele Ulisebenzise?
Igama lokugqibela oyisebenzisela umntwana wakho lingaxhomekeke kumthetho. Kwamanye amazwe nakwamanye amazwe, igama lentsapho elinikezelwe umntwana kufuneka libe ngumzali, ukuba liyazi, okanye unina okanye uyise. Ezinye indawo zivumela ukukhetha okungakumbi, ingakumbi ukuba ungatshatanga koyise wengane.
Ezinye iintsapho zisebenzisa igama lokugqibela njengeendawo zokudibanisa amagama kubantwana babo. Unokuba ngabazali abanegama elidlulileyo elikhethayo ukuba baxhamle umntwana ukuba abonise ukujoyina iindwendwe ezimbini (umz. Mary Smith-Jones). Ezinye iintsapho zikhetha igama elitsha. Inketho eyona nkcubeko yinto yokuba umntwana abe negama elifanayo lokugqibela njengabazali abelana negama lokugqibela, kodwa oko kuguqulwa kancane.
Izatifikethi zokuzalwa kunye neengxaki zomthetho ezinegama lomntwana
Isatifikethi sokuzalwa sikhutshwe kuyo yonke imihla yokuzalwa e-United States. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iphepha lizaliswa yindawo yokuzalwa (oko kukuthi isikhungo sokuzalwa esibhedlele, njl.) Ngokubambisana nogqirha okanye umbelethisi. Kuze kube nini ufanele wenze oku kuyahluka. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba iintsana ezizalelwe esibhedlele zihlala zibonelelwa ngephepha elincinci lephepha kunye neentshukumo zeenyawo zentsana; oku akusiyo isatifikethi sokuzalwa esisemthethweni.
Umbuzo omnye uninzi lwabantu abaninzi ukuba ngaba kufuneka bagqibe egameni lomntwana ngaphambi kokushiya indawo yokuzalwa. Impendulo ngokuqhelekileyo ayikho. Oku kuvumela abo banqwenela ukubiza iintsana zabo kwimibhiyozo yenkolo ukuba benze njalo, nangona abanye bakhetha ukubiza igama kungekudala kwaye bavelise ukhetho lwabo kude kube lixesha lo mthendeleko. Hlola neebhalisi zokuzalwa zesitifiketi kwindawo yakho yokuzalwa okanye kwiSebe lezitalathisi apho uhlala khona malunga nemithetho elawula ukuzalwa kwakho.
Nangona amanye amazwe enemithetho emininzi enxulumene noko ungayichaza umntwana wakho, iUnited States ayinayo imithetho emininzi yolu hlobo. Imithetho esezincwadini zaseMelika ngokuqhelekileyo ingakumbi malunga nokusebenzisa imifanekiso okanye iimpawu, okanye zingaphi iimpawu ongayifaka kwigama. Ininzi yale nto isekelwe kumsebenzi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umntu uya kwenza iindaba kuba ijaji izama ukutshintsha igama.
Ukuqwalaselwa kwezenkolo ngamagama omntwana
Imbopheleleko yonqulo yokubiza umntwana ishiyana kakhulu. Kufanele uxoxe nomfundisi wakho, umbingeleli, uRabi, okanye abefundisi malunga namasiko athile. Oku kungabandakanya ukubiza igama lomntwana emva kweqela leenkolo zonqulo.
Umzekelo wale nto ubuya kuba ngumKatolika, obona amaninzi amaninzi asebenzisa amagama angcwele okanye amanye amagama eBhayibhileni umntwana wabo. Ngoxa kungenokuba kuyimfuneko yegama lomthetho lomntwana, ngokuqhelekileyo isisiseko esinamandla.
Ezinye iicawa zisebenzisa kwakhona amagama angaphezulu awaye asetyenziswanga kwiziqinisekiso zokuzalwa. Ezi zinto zidlalwa emva kokuzalwa, njengomkhosi wokuqamba igama.
Imikhosi yokubiza abantwana
Ezinye iicawa zithetha ngokungabi nje kuphela okokubiza umntwana, kodwa xa uthetha umntwana. Ngokomzekelo, iintsapho zamaYuda zinika umntwana wazo igama elisemthethweni kunye negama labo lesiHebhere emthendelekweni emva kokuzalwa. Kuba ngamakhwenkwe, oku kufuthi kwenziwa ngosuku lwesibhozo kwi-Brit Milah. Intombazana encinci ibizwa ngokuba yinto ethile emva kweeveki ezimbini kwi-Brit Bat. Ngaphandle kwamaYuda, kukho ukungafani ngexesha kunye nantoni na eyenziwa kumthendeleko. Thetha notitshala wakho ukuba anqwenele ukuba unqwenela ukuba nomthendeleko wegama lomntwana wakho, nokuba ngaba libizo lonqulo kuphela.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhetha ukwenza ntoni, ukhetha igama ngumsebenzi obalulekileyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka aphile negama lakho lonke ubomi bakhe, okanye ade agqibe isigqibo sokuba asitshintshe (apho banokukwenza ngokusemthethweni kwiminyaka eyi-18). Oku kufana nokuxinzelelo oluninzi, kwaye sinokucinga ukuba kunjalo. Kodwa khumbula ukuba, ekupheleni kosuku, ukukhulisa abazali kukhulu malunga ne-intuition. Yithembele emathunjini kwaye ukhumbule ukuthanda ukuyenza esi sigqibo esithile.
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> Umthombo:
> Larson, CFW (Novemba 2011). "Ukubiza umntwana: Umgaqo-siseko ubukhulu begama lokuLungisa". Uhlolo lweGeorge Washington Law Review. 80 (1).