Imfundo yezintlu ezicwangcisiweyo iye yachuma njengoko izikolo zifuna ukufaka imilinganiselo yentembeko, inhlonipho, uxanduva, ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka, ukunakekela, nokuba ngabemi kubafundi babo ukuqinisa intlalo yoluntu yesikolo kunye noluntu. Nangona kungekho ngaphandle kokugxekwa, le mizamo yokuqinisa umgangatho wabantwana ngokusebenzisa iinkqubo ezisekelwe ezikolweni zamukelwa ngabazali abafuna ukuba abantwana babo bafundiswe kwinkcubeko enzulu yokuhlonipha, ukunyaniseka nokuzithiba.
Ukuphuhlisa umgangatho wabantwana ngokuqinisekileyo abakwazi ukuvela kwigumbi lokufundela kuphela. Iimpawu zobume ziphuhliswa ngokubambisana kwintsapho, isikolo, icawa, kunye neempembelelo zentlalo, kunye nomoya womntu ngamnye, amava kunye nokukhetha. Yintoni abazali abangayenza ukuze bakhuthaze ukuphuhliswa komntwana weempawu zobuntu abalungileyo? Unamathuba amaninzi kunye nezixhobo zalo msebenzi obalulekileyo. Ukusebenzisa kuzo kukunika uvuyo kunye nokwaneliseka kokubona umntwana wakho ekhula abe ngumntu wobungqina, imfesane kunye nomlingiswa.
UkuFunda kweNtlalo: Inkcubeko yeNtsapho Yomntu
Abazali abonakalisa iimpawu zobungqina obufanelekileyo bahambisa amandla abo ngokumisela izigqibo kunye nezenzo ezibalulekileyo ukuba ngumntu onomntu ontle. Ngaba unyanisekile, uthembekile, unobulungisa, uvelwano, uhlonipha, kwaye unenxaxheba enkulu kwintsapho yakho kunye noluntu? Abantwana bakho bayazi njani oku?
Bakubona kwizenzo zakho zansuku zonke kunye nokukhetha. Bona ukuba kuzisa umxhelo wovuyo, ukwaneliseka, noxolo kubomi babo bentsapho. Abantwana bafunda ukuba xa bephula le miyalelo yokuziphatha, abazali baya kuphumeza imiphumo ngokulingana nesithunzi.
Kwiincwadi zakhe malunga nophuhliso lokuziphatha kubantwana, uMichelle Borba ufundisa ukuba isinyathelo sokuqala sivelwano.
Imfesane yimeko eyimfuneko kumtshato womzali nomntwana ovumela ukuba sifundise zonke iimpawu zobuntu kubantwana bethu. Xa abantwana bakho banomuvo wokuba uyayiqonda kwaye uyayikhathalela ngokujulile, banesishukumiso esisisiseko sokufunda izifundo zothando nothando owabelana ngalo.
Umyalelo oLawulayo: Iimvavanyo ezifundiswayo zokwakha isimo
Izicwangciso zoqeqesho zixhobo ezibalulekileyo zokusebenzisa ixesha elinokufundiswa ekwakheni umlingiswa. Kufuneka uhlale uthatha ithuba lokucacisa ukuba kutheni ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kakubi xa ulungisa. Yenza umkhwa wokubonakalisa engqondweni yakho ixabiso onqwenela ukufundisa umntwana ngokusekelwe kwindlela ethile yokuziphatha. Khetha umphumo ofanelekileyo ukufundisa loo xabiso.
Esinye isiphumo semvelo ongayisebenzisa ukulungisa . Ngokomzekelo, ukunganyaniseki kuyona isisombululo esiphezulu xa uvuma kwaye uxanduva. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxolisa kumntu ophosakeleyo kwanele; ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uthathe isenzo ukulungisa okungafanelekanga. Ngcaciso emfutshane, kodwa umyalelo ochanekileyo malunga nokuba kutheni ulawulo lwentsapho kunye nexabiso elibalulekileyo elibambayo linceda umntwana ukuba afunde kwimiphumo nokuziphatha.
Ibali Ukuxelela: Imilinganiselo yokuFunda yoBuntu kwiNcwadi noBomi
Abazali nootitshala basebenzisa amabali ukufundisa izifundo zokuziphatha ngaphambi kokuba iincwadi ziqulunqwe.
Ukuba ucinga ngako, usenza njalo. Njengoko uthetha amabali obomi bakho kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo, udlulisela izifundo kwizibakala nokuziphatha kwabantwana bakho. Iingxoxo malunga neendaba ozibonayo kwiTV ziyimathuba okuqinisa amaxabiso akho. Ukuphulaphula nokuphendula kumabali abantwana bakho ngesikolo nakwaontanga, unokubanceda bacinge ngento efanelekileyo yokwenza. Ukukhumbula abantwana bakho bephulaphule amabali oxelela abanye abantu abadala, ufundisa ukuba ixabiso lakho likhokela zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Iincwadi zezingane zizele ngeencwadi ezinkulu ezibonisa ixabiso elibalulekileyo. Iincwadi ezinkulu zifikelela kumntwana ongaphakathi kwaye zifundisa izifundo zabo ngaphandle kokuchazwa komzali okanye umyalelo.
Ukwabelana ngamabali obubomi beendaba ezivela kwiindaba kunye ne-intanethi kunye nabantwana bakho kukuphefumlela ukuba ulandele ixabiso lakho ebomini.
UkuFunda okuFundayo: Ukusebenzisa iimpawu zobuntu
Imodeli yezemfundo ithi kufuneka usebenzise oko ufundayo ngaphambi kokuba ufike ngokwemvelo kuwe. Unokufunda ngokukhawuleza xa uyibona kwaye ufunde ngokuthe ngqo xa uyiva. Kodwa, kufuneka uyenze kwaye uzive ukuba uyayazi intsingiselo yangempela yomntu kuwe. Ungasebenzisa amathuba okwenza izigqibo ukunceda umntwana wakho athathe isenzo sokuziphatha kwaye ubone iziphumo ezilungileyo ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Unokufumana namathuba okubandakanyeka kwintlalo yoluntu kunye noluntu olufikeleleka kubantwana bakho. Fumana iindlela zokuba abantwana bakho bafunde ngezenzo ezilungileyo .