Ingaba uneminyaka engama-5 ubudala uthi, "Awuyena umphathi wam!" okanye wakho oneminyaka eyi-15 ubudala uthi, "Uyisidenge, andikuphulaphuli," iimpendulo ze-sassy ziyingxaki enkulu. Ukuba ukushiywa kungacatshungulwa, abantwana abangenasidima baya kuba ngabantu abadala.
Bonke abantwana bahlaselwa ngexesha elinye. Njengabantwana abancinci, bavame ukuthetha kwakhona ngomzamo wokuvavanya imida baze bafumane ukuzimela.
Ngelo xesha, ukuphendula akulona nzima.
Njengoko umntwana wakho ebudeni, nangona kunjalo, kukho izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba i-sass, nangona phantse bonke abantwana bahamba ngezigaba zomlomo ngexesha elinye. Nangona ufuna ukukhetha iimfazwe zakho, ukuziphatha kakubi akufanele kubekezelele. Fundisa umntwana onamahloni ukuba ahlonipheke kangakanani nale ndlela.
Ukunikela "Ukukhubaza" impendulo
Nangona ufuna ukuphosa i-sarcastic ebuyela kumntwana onqabileyo, thintela ukunyaniseka kwinqanaba lomntwana wakho. Kunoko, phendula ngegama elingathathi hlangothi elibonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uvile oko akutshoyo, kodwa awuyi kuphendula.
Izinketho ziquka, "Ndiyabulela ngombono wakho" okanye "Oku kuyithakazelisayo." Ukuba kuyimzuzu enokufundiswa, sebenzisa oko. Ekuphenduleni ukuphawula ngendlela efanelekileyo malunga nokwenza imisebenzi , tshela "Impendulo efanelekileyo ibe yinto efana nayo, 'Ndiya kuvaliwe iTV kwaye ndize ndikuncede ngoku, Mama.'"
Cima emva kwiThelevishini
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni ixesha leskrini elingafanelekanga kulutsha , kwaye liquka ukulinganisa kwabo abalinganiswa be-TV kwiTV.
Baza kuthatha amagama kunye namaqela ukusuka kwimiboniso (mhlawumbi yabo intandokazi okanye enye yeyakho) aze abuyele kuwe ngaphandle kokuqonda ngokwenene intsingiselo yalo.
Indlela yokumisa loo nto? Vula iTV. Unokucinga ukuba i-TV yabantwana mhlawumbi ilungile, kodwa xa uphulaphula intetho yebalinganiswa abathile, uya kutshitshiswa ngolwimi olungenaluhlonipho oluphonswa ngaphandle.
Xa ufumanisa abalingisi usebenzisa i-sassy, uxoxe nomntwana wakho malunga nokuba kutheni ezo zinto zingalunganga. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Kwakuyinto engento enyanisekileyo ukuyithetha kwaye inokulimaza iimvakalelo zomntu. Yintoni ayengayithetha kuyo esikhundleni sokuba kube yinto enhle? "
Buyisela iMandla
Ingxenye yomlomo womntwana ngumzamo wokufumana amandla amancinci kumzali nomntwana. Ukuba usabela ngendlela ecatshulwayo, unika amagama abo amandla.
Kunoko, buyisela amandla oomzali. Xa uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba agqibe umsebenzi, kwaye uyaphendula, "Yenza ngokwakho," ungavumeli ukuba loo nto imele. Yicacile: "Ndakuyala ukuba wenze oko, kwaye ndikulindele ukuba wenze njengokuba ndabuza."
Gwema ukungena kumzabalazo wamandla xa umntwana wakho ezama ukukukhanga kwiingxoxo. Ukuphikisana nomntwana wakho kunceda nje ukulibaziseka ixesha elide lokuyeka ukulandela emva kwemiyalelo yakho. Ngoko kunokuba ungene kwimpikiswano ende, umane ugxininise imiphumo ukuba akahambelani.
Uyila
Ukunyaniseka kwindlela enye yokubuyisela amandla okuba ngumzali. Ukuba awukuvumeli ukungahloneli, umncinane wakho uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba akayi kukuqwalasela okanye atshintshe iimeko.
Khangela nje olunye ulwalathiso okanye uhambe ngaphandle kokuthetha igama. Lo ngumyalezo osebenzayo xa uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho uzama ukunikwa ingqalelo kunye namagama akhe athetha ukuxabiswa kwexabiso. Ukungabikho kwempendulo kuyomthumela umyalezo wokuthi amagama angalunganga aya kufumana ingqwalaselo ayifunayo.
Phinda ubandakanyeke kwakhona xa eqala ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Yaye xa bonke abantu bezolile, bambe ingxoxo malunga nokubaluleka kokusebenzisa amagama anomusa kunye namahle kumnye nomnye.
Nika isilumkiso esisodwa
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana badinga isikhumbuzo sokuba iimpendulo ezingenakulungelekanga. Ngoko ukuba umntwana wakho uthi, "Mama, Mna ulahlekile," okanye uyaphakamisa, "Naluphi na" phantsi komphefumlo wakhe, yidibanise.
Hlalani nizolile, nithi, "Akulungile. Ukuba awuyikuhlonela kwakhona, siya ekhaya. "
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukujongana neengxelo zomntwana wakho xa ebonisa phambi kweendwendwe okanye ukuba uzama ukubukeka epholile phambi kwabahlobo bakhe. Yenza kucacise ukuba awuzimisele ukunyamezela olo hlobo lokungahloneli kwaye umxelele oko kuya kwenzeka xa esenza kwakhona.
Landela NgeZiphumo
Ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kumisa emva kwesilumkiso, okanye ukuba uthethe into engalunganga, landela ngokulandela. Imiphumo efanelekileyo ingabandakanya ukushiya indawo yokudlala ngokukhawuleza, ukuphuma kwexesha okanye ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo .
Qinisekisa ukuba isiphumo sinobuchule. Ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuthatha uhambo lwakhe ukuya kwindlu ka-Grandma kwiveki ezayo akunakusebenza. Fumana into eya kusebenza ngoku ngoku, ngoko uya kucinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokungahloniphi ixesha elizayo.
Ukuhlonipha uMzekelo
Yenza umgaqo wendlu ugxininisa ukubaluleka kokuphatha abanye abantu ngobubele nangenhlonipho. Emva koko, qiniseka ukuba ulandele loo mthetho.
Ukuba umntwazana wakho ubona njalo ukuba unikezela abantu abakujikelezile, ingaba unomnye obalulekileyo, unyoko okanye umninimzi wesityela, ungalindelanga ukuwudla umlomo wakhe. Ukuhlonipha ulwimi, ulwimi oluhloniphekileyo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Phendula ukuze uhlambe ngokuziphatha ngendlela ehloniphekileyo. Hlala uxolo uze usebenzise amagama ahloniphekileyo ukulungisa ukuziphatha kakubi. Bonisa umntanakho indlela yokujongana nomsindo noxinzelelo ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu.
Ngoxa unokuba usebenzise iimeko zokuzithengisa, njengoko ziza kuvela kwiminyaka yobutsha bakho, qiniseka ukuba mhlawumbi isigaba. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukunciphisa ukubuyela emva, kodwa khumbula ukuba abanye abazali bajongana nomcimbi ofana nawe.