Enoba udla ekhaya, ukutya, okanye ukutya isidlo kunye nabahlobo, ukuziphatha kakuhle kwetafile kubantwana kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke isidlo. Xa ufundisa umntanakho ukuziphatha kakuhle kwetafile, ubanika izixhobo ezibalulekileyo ekusebenzisaneni nentlalontle eziya kubakhonza babo bonke ubomi babo. Ngaphezulu, ukubeka umgangatho wokuziphatha okulungileyo kwietafile zedli kuthetha ukuba abantwana bakho baya kuba ngabahlali abanomdla wokutya kwintsapho kwiminyaka ezayo.
Iimpawu zokuSebenza eziPhambili ukufundisa abantwana bakho
1. Yiza etafileni ngezandla zakhe nobuso obucocekileyo. Fundisa abantwana bakho rhoqo ukuhlamba ngaphambi kokutya, utsho uPatricia Rossi, umbhali we-Everyday Etiquette. Oku akubonisi nje ukuhlonipha umntu olungiselele isidlo kunye nabanye kwisidlo sesidlo sakusihlwa, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu kumkhwa wokucoceka .
2. Njalo ubuze ukuba kukho nayiphi na into ongayenza. Enoba ekhaya okanye indlu yomnye umntu, soloko ucela umntu omdala ukuba unokunceda ukwenza nantoni na ukuba ulungiselele isidlo sakusihlwa.
3. Ukuba ubeka itafile, khumbula i-BMW. Abantwana abaneminyaka eyaneleyo yokunceda ukuseta itafile banokukhumbula apho izinto zihamba khona nale mithetho elula: BMW. Isonka kunye nobisi ziya ngakwesobunxele kunye namanzi ngakwesokudla. Bakwazi kwakhona ukukhumbula apho i-silverware ihamba khona nenani letalela ngamagama "asele" kunye "ekunene," kutsho uRossi. Imfoloko iya ngakwesobunxele kwaye inezine iileta. Ummese uqhubeka ngokunene kwaye unobumba abahlanu.
4. Jonga umphathi ukuze ubone xa kufuneka uvule i-napkin yakho. Ukuba uyifake i-napkin kwipuphu yakhe, yile mqondiso ukuba ubeke i-napkin yakho yakho.
5. Lindela kude kube ngumntu wonke phambi kokutya. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba angaqala ukutya ade umntu ahlale phantsi kwaye akhonze.
6. Ungaze uhlabe umlomo wakho uvule. Ukuhlafuna ngomlomo wakho kuvaliwe kwaye ungathethi xa umlomo wakho uzele ziyimigaqo emibili yemakhadi yeendlela ezifanelekileyo zeetafile.
7. Ungaze ubeke umlomo wakho. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athabathe amancinci kwaye angaze aphule ukutya kwakhe.
8. Musa ukuphazamisa xa omnye uthetha. Kwitheyibhile yokutya, qhelanisa ukuba umntwana wakho alinde ithuba lokuthetha xa ekhuluma malunga nomhla okanye omnye umxholo. Fumana abantwana kumkhwa wokuthetha ngeendaba, abahlobo babo, isikolo, kunye nezinye izifundo ezithandekayo.
9. Ungaze ufinyelele ukufumana into. Mkhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba angayi kufinyelela kwitafile ukuba atye ityuwa okanye nayiphi na into ayifunayo. Mfake kumkhwa wokucela i-table mates ukudlulisa into ayifunayo.
10. Beka i-napkin esihlalweni, kungekhona itafile. Fundisa umntwana wakho rhoqo ukufaka i-napkin kwisihlalo sakhe ukuba kufuneka asebenzise indlu yokugcina. Akufanele ihambe kwitafile yakhe okanye itafile.
11. Soloko unqumla isihlalo sakhe xa usugqibile. Xa evuka etafileni, kufuneka axhoxise isihlalo sakhe etafileni.
12. Hlala uthabathe isitya sakho uze uthi unkosi. Lo ngumkhwa obalulekileyo ukufumana umntwana wakho ekhaya kuba ukuba ngaba yinxalenye yenkqubo yakhe, uya kukwazi ukwenza oko xa engummndwendwe kwikhaya lomnye umntu. Ukuba usendaweni yokutyela, fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba aqhagamshelane nelo xesha kwaye athi "siyabonga." "Siyakhuthaza abantwana bethu ukuba bazilungiselele baze bathi ngibonge," utsho uRossi.
"Ukuba ayenzi, abafumani i-dessert."
Iimpawu zetekisi ezilungileyo, njengemilinganiselo emihle ngokubanzi, ziya kuyanconywa ngabantu abadibana nomntwana wakho. Mfundise ukuba xa ebonisa intlonelo kwabanye, uya kuzuza izinto ezintle ngokubuyisela.