Ngomhla wokukhawuleza, i-teknoloji eqhutywe ngeteknoloji, ukufundisa imilinganiselo yabantwana yinto ebaluleke ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili. Enye yemisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu esinayo kubazali kukunceda abantwana bethu bathuthuke izakhono zentlalo, babonise indlela yokusebenzisana ngokuhlonipha nabantu, kwaye ubafundise ukuphatha abanye ngokuhlonela.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisihlandlo sokubuthwa kweeholide, ukutya kwentsapho, okanye uhambo olulula ukuya kwivenkile, abazali bangasebenzisa la mathuba omphakathi ukufaka imilinganiselo emihle ebantwaneni babo eya kuba yingxenye yobomi babo ebusheni nangaphezulu.
Nazi ezinye iindlela ezinkulu abazali abanokuzifundisa abantwana babo imbeko.
Imilinganiselo ebalulekileyo yokufundisa umntwana wakho
Le yimilinganiselo embalwa bonke abantwana kufuneka bazi.
- Bafundise ukuba bathi "Nceda" kwaye "Siyabonga": Oku, kunjalo, esinye sesiseko sekhadiyard of good behavior. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, abazali banokubakhuthaza ukubhala amanqaku okubulela, mhlawumbi kunye nephepha kunye nephepha. Kuye ngaphandle kokuthi abantwana kufuneka bafunde indlela yokubonga ngokuba izipho abazifumanayo; kodwa bafanele bafundiswe ukubonga abantu abancedisayo okanye abakhonzayo, njengabalindi kwiivenkile, kunye nangomama wabo nobawo xa benzela okuthile kwiindlela zabo zemihla ngemihla.
- Musa ukulibala abazala: Abazala baka "Nceda" kunye "Ndiyabonga," oko kukuthi. Qinisekisa ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukusebenzisa amagama anjengokuthi "Ndingathi," "Mhle, ndiyabonga; kwaye unjani? "kusho uPatricia Rossi, umbhali we-Everyday Etiquette.
- Ziqhelise ukubulisa abantu ngokufanelekileyo: Ukubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba ubingelela njani abantu ngokufanelekileyo ngenye yezakhono ezibaluleke kakhulu onokumfundisa, utsho uRossi. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abuke abantu kwisehlo, abhekane nabo ngokuthe ngqo, baze bagxininise isandla xa behlangana nabo. Indlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa ezi zakhono ngokuzihamba nomntwana wakho ngelixa udlala indima.
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzise "uMnu" okanye "uNksz": Ingangathi ibonakale idala, kodwa ukusebenzisa isihloko kunye negama lokugqibela ngokwenene yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuba umntwana abhekise okanye atshele kumntu, utsho uRossi.
- Hamba indlela abafanele baphendule ngayo ifowuni: Xa uphendula umnxeba, fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athi, "Ndingamxelela umama obizayo, nceda?" Kunokuthi "Ngubani lo?" Utsho uRossi. Kwaye ngenxa yokhuseleko, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba angatsho igama lentsapho yakho xa uphendula ifowuni (njengokuthi, "u-Smith yokuhlala"). Kwakhona, khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba angalokothi akhankasele indlu ngaphandle kwakho kodwa ahambe kuwe kwaye akuxelele ukuba unomnxeba. Ukuba awufumaneki, fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athethe into enjengaleyo, "Akafumaneki. Ngamana ndingathabatha umyalezo, nceda? "Nceda utshele umntwana wakho ukuba ahlawule ulwazi, ubuyisele kwakhona kumfowuni, kwaye ubuze umnxebi ukuba igama lakhe lishicilelwe njani.
- Gcizelela umyalezo weselula : Ukuba umntwana wakho uneselfowuni, qiniseka ukuba udlulisela umyalezo othi awuyi kuziswa kwitafile. (Enyanisweni, unokufuna ukucima yonke i-elektroniki etafileni kwaye ukhutshwe i-TV ukuze ukwazi ukugxila omnye nomnye kunye nengxoxo yokudla.) U Rossi ubonisa ukuba umntwana wakho abeke ifowuni yakhe kwisitya xa ehamba umnyango.
- Mkhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba athethe nabantu ngendlela afuna ukuthetha ngayo: Oku kuthetha ukungasebenzisi ukusebenzisa amazwi angenangqondo efana nokuthi "Vala," okanye uthetha ngezwi elingenalo uthando, nangona ungavumelani nomntu.
- Yenza umntwana wakho abe ngumkhwa wokulinda ithuba lokuthetha: Lo uninzi lwabantwana, ingakumbi abantwana abancinci, banenkathazo. Kungenxa yokuba kaninzi, abantwana bafuna ukuvakalisa iingcamango zabo ngokukhawuleza xa kwenzeka into ethile kubo. Abantwana nabo ngokwemvelo banomdla kuphela kwaye banokufuna izikhumbuzo ukuba balinde umntu ade aqede ukuthetha ngaphambi kokuphazamisa. Ukunceda abantwana bafunde le mkhuba, abazali bangazama ukusebenzisa isikhumbuzo esibonakalayo, njengesilwanyana esinyanyisiweyo okanye intonga yokuthetha. Yenza nje ukuba wonke umntu akhulume kuphela xa kuhamba ixesha lokubamba intonga yokuthetha ukufundisa abantwana ukuba balinde njani ithuba lokuthetha.
- Gxininisa ukubaluleka kokuba nomusa xa ukhuphisana: Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angabonakali xa ephumelela aze ahlabe abanye xa elahleka. Ukuzonwabisa okuhle kwezemidlalo kuya kuba yikhono elibalulekileyo kubantwana ukuba babe nexesha elide ebomini xa befuna ukusebenzisana nabanye kwiiprojekthi nakweminye imizamo ekhaya nasemsebenzini.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuziphatha kakuhle: Khumbulani umntwana wakho ukuba alandele imithetho yomngane wakhe xa edlala kumhla wokudlala, kwaye uhlale ehlambuluka emva kokuhamba kwakhe. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala ebingelela umphathi okanye umncedisi, akaze abeke iinyawo zakhe kwifenitshala, kwaye alinde de ukuba ummkeli adle okokuqala ngexesha lokutya. Ugxininise ukubaluleka kokusebenzisa "ilizwi lelayibrari" ngaphakathi kwindlu. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubamba umhla wokudlala, qiniseka ukuba ubeka umhlobo wakhe kuqala, ngokuthi, ukumnika isihlalo esiphezulu nokumkhonza kuqala, uthi uRossi.
- Ukufakela imifanekiso efanelekileyo yetafile kumntwana wakho : Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yidlo enkulu enkulu yeentsuku kunye neentsapho okanye isidlo esiqhelekileyo ngeveki, umntwana wakho kufuneka abe nokuphatha kakuhle kwiimpawu zetafile. Iimpawu ezintle zokuziphatha ezifana nokungafuneki ngomlomo ozelekileyo okanye ukulinda ukutya kude kube ngumntu wonke unokuthi zilandelwe ngumntu omncinane kubafundi besikolo. Kwaye njengoko abantwana bekhulile, banokukunceda ukuseta nokucoca ityeyibhile kunye nokuqhuba ingxoxo enomdla.
Imilinganiselo yezingane Ngokuqhelekileyo Ukungabikho
Ngenxa yokuba sibona ukuziphatha kakubi kuyo yonke indawo, sinokuyenza ntoni njengabazali ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bethu bathatha imbeko kwaye baphathe abanye ngesidima nangentlonelo? Nazi iindlela ezininzi iintsapho namhlanje ezikhoyo (kunye nezakhono ezinxulumene nazo) kunye nento abazali abangayenza ukuze bafundise abantwana babo.
- Ukusebenzisana nomntu osondeleyo kunokuba ukhanyise kwisikrini: Lo mkhuba uqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana ngokufanayo ukuba kukho ixesha elilandelayo: i-phubbing, okanye i-phone snubbing. Abantwana namhlanje basoloko basebenzisa amajelo eendaba zobugcisa, kwaye baqhubeke bebenzisayo xa benabo nabahlobo okanye abadala.
- Ukubingelela abantu ngokufanelekileyo / enomxholo: Abantwana abaninzi namhlanje abazenzi izinto ezilungileyo xa behlangana okanye bexoxa nabanye. Ukuziphatha okulungileyo kuthetha ukukhangela omnye umntu kwiso xa uthetha uxoxe nabo, bephulaphula oko bathethayo, baphendule imibuzo, balinde ithuba lokuthetha-izakhono abaninzi abantwana abasweleyo namhlanje.
- Ukuthi "siyabonga" kwaye "nceda": Kuyinto edabukisayo kukuba abantwana abaninzi namhlanje bahlambalaza xa bephuma kwivenkile yokudlela okanye kwenye indawo apho umntu ekhonza nabo okanye encedayo. Nangona abantwana abaselula abaneminyaka engama-3 no-4 kufuneka bahlale bekhunjuzwa ukuba babonge, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukubona abantwana babo bonke ubudala-kuquka nabantwana abadala abakulungele ukukhumbuzwa-abanako ukuziphatha okusemgangathweni.
- Ukuvula iingcango / ukugcina iingcango kwabanye abantu: Ingaba umntwana wakho ubona umntu olwa nesigxina kunye neengxowa kwaye uqaphele ukuba unokufuna uncedo ukuvula umnyango? Ngaba wayeyayibona umntu osekhulile elwa nengxowa enkulu aze abuze ukuba ufuna uncedo? Ukuba impendulo ayikho, lixesha lokumisela ukucinga kwengane yakho.
- Ukubonga kukubonga amakhadi: Le nto yinto ephantsi kakhulu kuba sonke saqala ukusebenzisa i-imeyili kunye nokuthumela imiyalezo. Kwaye ngelixa uthumela i-imeyile okanye umbhalo wokubonga ulungile, ngokwenene uhleli phantsi ukuze ubhale inqaku elibonakalayo ukubonisa ukubonga ngesipho okanye ubabalo lungcono.
Oko Abazali Bangayenza Ukuphucula Imilinganiselo Yabantwana
Nazi ezinye iindlela onokukukhokela umntwana wakho kwi-etiquette efanelekileyo ekunciphiseni le migaqo ekhoyo.
- Yidla ngokudliwayo: Akunjalo nje kuphela ukutya kweentsapho eziqhelekileyo ezibalulekileyo kwimpilo yabantwana kunye nophuhliso (badibaniswe nomngcipheko wokunciphisa umzimba, ukutya okunempilo, ukuphucula izakhono zentlalo, ukusebenza kwezikole ezingcono, kunye nokunye), banokuba Amathuba amahle okuba nezingane ziqhuba indlela abafanele bathethe ngayo nabanye nendlela yokuthetha (phulaphula, ulinde ithuba lokuthetha, lingavumelani ngokuhlonipha, njl.).
- Ngaba abantwana banokuthi "siyabonga" kwaye "nceda": Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ekhaya okanye kwindawo yokutyela, bangela ukuba abantwana bakho bakhonze ngokubonga xa umntu ebabonelela ukutya, ubancedise ngento ethile, abanike umnikelo okanye enze enye into kubo. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ehlonipha abadlali kunye nabaqhubi beeteksi, nabaqhubi bamatekisi kunye nabani na abanye abakhonzayo.
- Bababhale babhale amakhadi: Ixabiso elifanelekileyo lokubonga lakho liza kubonisa ukuba kungani umntwana wakho exabisa isipho esithile okanye uthanda, kwaye uquka ukuvuma okuthile ngesipho esithile.
- Vala i-TV: I- Pundits ixubana ngaphaya komnye kwaye iphosa izihlamba ziqhelekileyo kwiinkqubo zeendaba, kungakhange zikhankanywe ngesimo sengqondo "sassy" ohlala usibona kwimiboniso yabantwana abaninzi. (Hlala phantsi kwaye ubukele ezinye iziqephu ze-TV yakho yabantwana kwixesha elithile; ungashatyiswa ngumlinganiselo wokubuya kunye nobugwenxa obona ngendlela abalinganiswa abambisana ngayo, kungabhekiseli inani lobundlobongela , kwimizekelo echazwe ezifanelekileyo kubantwana abaselula ). Ukunciphisa ixesha leskrini yimbono enkulu ngokubanzi; uphando lubonisa ukuba ixesha lokuvala isikrini liphucula impilo yezingane, amabakala kunye nokuziphatha, phakathi kwezinye izibonelelo.
- Batshengise indlela yokubhala ii-imeyile ezihloniphekileyo kunye neetekisi: Umntwana wakho uya kunxibelelana nge-imeyili rhoqo xa ekhula. Hamba ezinye izinto ezisisiseko kunye nomntwana wakho, njengendlela yokubulisa umntu kwi-imeyile, ukuba ubhale njani ngeetoni ezicacileyo neentlonipho, nokuba ungasayina njani ekupheleni kwe-imeyile (kunye "Ngokuthobeka," okanye "Ngokwenene, "Okanye" Olungcono, "). Ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho omdala wesikolo ukuba abe nokufikelela kumajelo asekuhlaleni, qi
- Sebenza ngeendlela zokunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kweselfowuni kunye nezinye izixhobo zecomputer: Kukho iinzuzo kwizikrini ezithintelayo ezihamba ngaphezu kokwakha imikhwa engcono.
- Mfundise ukubaluleka kovelwano : Yenza umntwana wakho abe ngumkhwa wokubonga abo bangaswele (umntu olwa nomnyango okanye isikhwama esikhulu, umzekelo). Mfundise ukuba acinge ngaphaya kweemfuno zakhe aze acinge ngendlela anokuncedisa ngayo umntu onokufuna uncedo.
- Misela umzekelo omhle : Umntwana wakho uya kufunda ngokukujonga, ngoko ukhangele kakuhle indlela oziphatha ngayo. Ngaba uyabulela xa umntu enokwenza okuthile? Ngaba uthetha ngentlonelo kubantwana bakho nakwabanye abajikelezile? Ngaba uyayiphatha intsapho, abahlobo, kunye nabantu abangabaziyo ngeentlonipho kunye nentlonipho? Hlola iimpawu zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwaye wenze utshintsho xa kuyimfuneko ukuze umntwana wakho akusebenzise njengemodeli ekulandelwayo njengoko efunda indlela yokusebenzisana kakuhle nabantu.
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba ubeka umgangatho. Ukuba usetekisini lokudlulisa iitheyibhile kwiselfowuni yakho okanye ngokuqhelekileyo uthetha nabantu ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo, umntwana wakho uya kukhathalela kule miqobo kwaye uya kubakhopela. Ukuba ufuna ukuphakamisa umntwana kunye nomntwana onobuchule, into yokuqala kufuneka uyenze njengoko umzali ejonga kakuhle ukuziphatha kwakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uhlala uziphatha kakuhle.