Iingcebiso zokunceda umntwana azive ekhululekile xa edibana nomntu okanye esithi u-hello
Ukufundisa umntwana indlela yokubulisa abantu ngokufanelekileyo kuya kunceda ekuphuhlisweni kwabo kwezakhono zentlalo. Ukubulisa kusetha ithoni yazo zonke iintlalo . Umntwana onobuqhetseba obunemvelo okanye u-introverted angazuza ngokukwazi ifomu elifanelekileyo kwaye akwazi ukuyisebenzisa ngokuzithemba. Umntwana okhungathekileyo unokufuna isakhiwo ukuba sibe bhetele ngakumbi kunokuba siphumelele kunye nezibingelelo.
Indlela umntwana azibonakalisa ngayo kwabanye xa edibana nabo uya kuthetha kakhulu malunga nendlela engummangaliso ngayo, kwaye olu buchule luya kumyisa kumntu omdala. Ukuba uke wadibana nomntwana omdala okhuphayo okanye engahlaziyiyo xa ebingelela abantu, uyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukufaka ezi zakhono kwiintsana eziselula.
Iindlela Ezilula Abazali Banokubanceda Abantwana Bafunde Ukubulisa Abantu
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba afune umbala wamehlo abantu. Ukwenza uqhagamshelwano lwamehlo luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokubulisa. Abantwana abaselula banokuziva banamahloni ngokujonga abantu, kwaye yile ndlela yokubanceda bazive benganyelwanga, ngokutsho kukaPatricia Rossi, umbhali we "Daily Etiquette."
- Mncede unamathele kwiincinci ezincinci. Mfutshane wakho umntwana ngaphambi kokuhamba esitolo, ilayibrari, okanye nayiphi na indawo apho umntwana wakho angabonisana nabantu, aze ahambe kwezinye izinto anokuthetha ngazo. Mxelele ukuba xa umntu ebuza ukuba wenza ntoni, konke okufuneka akwenze kukuthi, "Uyabona, ngiyabonga." Ukunika umntwana wakho isandi esifutshane nesilula ukusebenzisana naye kunokumnceda aziva ecinezelekile ngokuza kunye nezinto kuthetha. Oku kunokubathintela ekunikeni ulwazi oluninzi olunokuba lukhuseleko.
- Nika inkxaso kwaye ukhuthaze. Hlola indlela izinto ezihamba ngayo nomntwana wakho emva kokumnceda umntu. Ukuba wayengenakukwazi ukumncedisa i-hello, ke mqinisekise umntwana wakho ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kwenza ngcono ixesha elizayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho udimazekile okanye uvakalelwa ngathi akazange enze into eyiyo okanye enze iphutha , mkhuthaze ukuba afunde kulo mava kwaye alisebenzise ithuba elilandelayo ukuba alingele umntu. Ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle, mxelele ukuba uziqhayiya ngaye ngokubulisa umntu omhle. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Wenza loo mntu uzive kakuhle kwaye walukhanyisa usuku lwabo ngezwi lakho," utsho uRoss.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athabathe izandla. Kwaba nabantwana bokubeletha banokubulisa omnye umntu ngokugubha izandla. Yenza okunye ukudlala-nxaxheba kukunceda umntwana wakho asebenzise izandla kunye naye aze akubulise ngokuzithemba ngezandla. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlangabezane nomntu onesisu sakhe kunye neenzwane ezibhekiselele kuloo mntu xa ebingelela lowo mntu.
- Mxelele ukuba eme. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhleli-kutsho kwivenkile yokutyela okanye kwi-sofa ekhaya-kwaye isivakashi okanye umntu omaziyo uyena egumbini okanye afike kuye ukuze athole, mfundise ukuba eme phambi kokubonga.
- Yenza kube mnandi kumntwana wakho. Musa ukulibala ukwenza oku malunga nokuzonwabisa nokuxhuma nabantu kunokuba ubonise njengabantwana abaqeshwe ukuba bayenze. Yenza umdlalo omncinci ngelixa udlala indima, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ubanika indumiso emininzi. Chaza umntwana wakho ukuba xa ebingelela abantu ngokuzithoba, baya kumvuza ngokuncoma.