Ukuguqula INTSHOLI YOMNTI
Uninzi lwabantu abadala luyavuma ukuba abantwana banamagama amakhulu. Abantwana banokuvakalelwa kukuba bathetha ngokugqithiseleyo, ngakumbi baya kuva okanye bafumane oko bafuna. Ukukhawuleza ukuphulaphula nasiphi na isilungiselelo esibandakanya abantwana baya kuthumela iingxaki zakho ezibuthathaka, ezivelele kwi-overdrive. Abantwana bavame ukukhawuleza, ukugqithisa, kunye nokuhle, "ukuthetha" ngamathoni ahlaseleyo emida ekumemeza. Abanye abantwana basebenzisa la mazwi aphezulu kangaka ukususela ngelixa bevuka baze bawalele.
Umzekelo Ngokusebenzisa Izwi Lakho Elimnandi
Gwema ukusebenzisa izwi elikhulu ngaphakathi, kubandakanywa xa ubiza ilungu lentsapho ukusuka kwelinye igumbi ekhaya okanye ukuphendula ngokukrakra into ethile kumabonwakude. Xa uqondisa umntwana wakho, uthetha ngoxolo, ngokuthula, nangendlela ephosakeleyo. Ukuba umntanakho akahlalise kwaye uyanyamekela, akayi kuphulaphula into oyithethayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhula ngomsindo okanye ubonakala ekhupha ngaphandle kokulawula, thulisa kuye ngokuzola kwaye uzithule. Cela bonke abakhathalelayo ukuba bahlale beqhubeka xa befundisa amazwi angaphakathi. Ukubambisana phakathi kwabakhathaleli kubalulekile xa ufundisa ukuziphatha.
Sebenzisa Ukuphindaphinda
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo uphinda usebenzisa igama lakho langaphakathi (ukucinga ukuba ungaphakathi), kwaye le yileyonto ivolumu yokuthetha kunye neetoni zokusebenzisa nanini na xa usendlwini, isakhiwo saluphi uhlobo, okanye nayiphi na indawo. Unokuxelela abantwana ukuba bangasebenzisa "amazwi angaphandle" (ngaphakathi kwesizathu) xa bengaphandle, kwindawo yokudlala, okanye "enye i-hoot kunye nokubetha" amaxesha afanelekileyo.
Dumisani Iindlebe Zengaphakathi
Nanini na xa umntwana wakho uthetha ngokukhawuleza ngezwi langaphakathi, adumise abantwana ngokuziphatha kakuhle. Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo kuya kukufumana ukuziphatha okufanayo xa inkwenkwe yakho ibona indlela onoyolo ngayo naye. Ukuncedisa ukuqinisa ukungafani, abanye abazali banokubakhuthaza njengokuthabatha ilayibrari yasekuhlaleni xa bephumelele ukulawulwa kwezwi baze bamangalise ngokutyelela ipaki okanye ukuhamba ngaphandle apho bavumelekile ukusebenzisa amagama angaphandle.
Ungayithobeli Izwi Loud
Ungayihoyi umntwana wakho xa uthetha nawe ngezwi elikhulu okanye elihle. Njengoko ungumzekelo, ungathi into enje, "Ndiyaxolisa! Andikwazi ukukuphulaphula xa ungasebenzisi igama lakho elincinci, elingaphandle. Ngaba uya kuphinda uzame ngelizwi langaphakathi ukuze ndikuve? "Gwema ukunika amandla xa umntwana wakho ekhala okanye ekhwaza ngaphakathi. Ukuba umntanakho uphosa umsindo kwaye akhuphuke, ungabaqwalasela okanye into ayifunayo. Yenza umntwana wakho azi ukuba uya kumnika oko akufunayo xa ehlisa ilizwi lakhe aze alandele xa ebuza ngendlela ephumlileyo.
Vumela Amazwi Aphakamileyo kwiindawo ezifanelekileyo
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ameme aze amemeze kwindawo apho "ilizwi langaphandle" lifanelekileyo, njengendawo yokudlala okanye ngasemva. Oku kunokukunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuba ilizwi elifanelekileyo lifanelekileyo kwezinye iimeko, nokuba akufanelekanga ngaphakathi. Ukuba umntwana wakho ucinga ukuba unokukwazi ukukhala ngokukhawuleza ngezinye izihlandlo, akayi kucinga ukuzola ngamanye amaxesha.
Yenza Umdlalo
Iinyana ezininzi zitshintsha indlela yokuziphatha xa zithethwa ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo okanye zijonge umsebenzi njengomdlalo. Omnye umdlalo ukucela umntwana wakho ukuba zininzi amehlo kunye neendlebe. Xa bephendula "ezimbini," cacisa ukuba sonke sinamazwi amabili.
Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba sinesandi esinye esikhulu esasetyenziswa ngaphandle kunye nesinye esincinci, ilizwi elidlulileyo elisetyenziselwa ngaphakathi. Zama ilizwi elingafaniyo nomntwana wakho kwaye bavumele ukuba baphendule nokuba ilizwi "lizwi langaphandle" okanye "ilizwi langaphakathi." Omnye umdlalo ngumdlalo wokuhlekisayo apho wena nomntwana wakho nizama ukutshintshela ukuthetha ngokuphantsi njengoko unako. Mvuza umntanakho ngesitiki okanye omnye umvuzo wempumelelo yakhe xa uthetha ngokuthula.
Icebiso loMzali
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba umntwana wakho okanye umntwana ongasesikolweni angakwazi ukukhululeka ngokomzwelo kwaye akakwazi ukuzincama ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ujongene nokugqithiswa ngokupheleleyo, into efanelekileyo kukususa umntwana wakho kwimeko, ubalethele kwindawo ethile kwaye umvumele ukuba asebenze ngokudabuka okanye ukugquma.
Emva kokuba umntwana wakho ethule, unokuxoxa ngamazwi angaphakathi, kodwa ukuxoxa ngale sifundo ngexesha lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo akuyi kuvelisa wena okanye umntwana wakho.
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