Candice wayenomdla kakhulu malunga nokuzalwa kwakhe kwinyanga yesibhozo waza wabuza uyise ukuba amncede ucebe aze agqoke umkhonto wakhe nomhlobo wakhe omhle ukugubha usuku lokuzalwa. I-Sleepovers yayiyiyona ndlela eyintloko ngayo abahlobo bakhe, kwaye wayefuna ukuba nomnye. Kodwa uyise kaCandice akayiyo yonke into eqinisekile ukuba le nto yayingummangaliso omkhulu.
Ingaba utata ungatshatanga okanye uyinxalenye yentsapho enomama obandakanyekayo, ukukhwabanisa kungabangela ukwesaba ezintliziyweni.
Kungenzeka kube lula njengoko ukhathazekile ngomntwana onamava amahle, kodwa kunokuba nzima kunokuba. Ngokukodwa ukuba uyise engatshatanga, unokukhathazeka ngabazali abathile bakhathazekile ngokuba nomntwana ekhaya kunye nobawo kuphela obawo njengabantu abadala. Nangona kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo, ootata banokuziva bexakeka kakhulu malunga nokusingatha i-sleepover kumntwana wakhe.
I-Sleepovers mhlawumbi ayinjalo njengabafana nayo ngaphambili, enikwe ezinye iinkxalabo malunga nokuba nabantwana balele ebomini labahlobo babo. Abazali abaninzi bakhetha ukungabathumeli abantwana babo ukuba bangene kwiimpahla zabo okanye bababambe emakhaya abo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Abanye abantwana nje abahlali kakuhle belele ekhaya. Abazali banako ukukhululeka kunye nabazali bezinye zabo zabahlobo, kodwa bangabanye, kwaye banokukhetha ukungajongani nemiba enzima yokubangela ukuba abanye bangabi ngabanye.
Kodwa abanye bazimisele ngokupheleleyo ukuba nezingane zabo emakhayeni abahlobo ngobusuku xa benethemba kubazali.
Ngoko, ukuba intombi yakho okanye unyana (ngakumbi intombazana) ufuna ukuba ne-sleepover, nantsi ingcamango embalwa yokwenza amava aphile kwaye aphephile kubo bonke abachaphazelekayo.
Ngaba ngaba abazali bayamema. Ngelixa abantwana befuna ukufumana lonke ulwazi olucwangcisiweyo kunye nolwenziwe, abantwana abafanelekanga ukwenza isimemo.
Xa umntwana efumana imvume yakho, ngumsebenzi wakho ukuba ube nengxoxo kunye nabazali bomngane malunga nokuba ne-sleepover. Abazali ngamacandelo anoxanduva lokhuseleko lwabantwana, ngoko ke abazali kufuneka benze ukwamkela nokwamkela. Ngaphandle kokuqwalasela ukucwangcisa, kufuneka usebenze ngezinye iingcamango zabazali okanye izinto ezixhalabisayo. Ukuba izinto ziya kusebenza, ngoko abantwana bangakwazi ukucwangcisa. Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba abazali kufuneka babe "ababi" kwaye bathathe uxanduva malunga nesigqibo.
Izicwangciso ezicacileyo kunye nabo bonke abazali abachaphazelekayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukuphi, abantwana kunye nabazali kufuneka babe kwicala elifanayo. Ukuba ushiya ikhaya le-movie okanye umsebenzi, qi ni sekise ukuba abazali bomnye abantwana bakhona. Ukuba uhlala ekhaya kwaye baya kujonga ibhayisikobho, okanye batya, baqinisekise ngenye umzali malunga nazo zonke izicwangciso baze bafumane i-OK. Ukuba abantwana bafuna ukuba benze ucwangciso, bazise ukuba nawuphi na wabazali banokwenza nayiphi na inguqu abayifunayo kwizicwangciso.
Gcina yokuqala elula. Ngokukodwa neentombi, ngamanye amaxesha izicwangciso zabo zomcimbi osonwabileyo zingasuswa. Ngaloo mkhono wokuqala, bancede bahlale bezicwangciso ezilula. Ukuzama ukukhwela kakhulu kwiiyure ezimbalwa ngokuhlwa kwaye kusasa kungabangela iingxaki ezithile.
Ukwenza imisebenzi elula kunye nokulungiswa okufutshane kunye nokucoca kuyindlela efanelekileyo. Ukuyigcina imfutshane kukunye into enhle kwi-sleepover yokuqala. Ukuba neendwendwe ziza malunga ne-5: 00 ntambama kwaye zihamba nge-9: 00 ekuseni ngumgaqo omhle wesithupha.
Gxininisa ekukhuseleni. Ncedisa indwendwe yomntwana ukuba ukhululeke kunye namalungiselelo. Mhlawumbi unendwendwe ezayo emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa ukuza kubona apho uza kulala khona, indlela abaya ngayo kwindawo yokuhlambela, apho ifowuni ikwazi ukubiza ikhaya ukuba kufuneka, kunye nokuba bangabelana njani - okanye kungekhona - kunye nezilwanyana zentsapho. Yiya kwiimigaqo eyisiseko - akukho ngaphandle ngaphandle komzali owaziyo, akukho ukushiya isakhiwo okanye ukuya naphina nawuphi na umntu, akukho ukuchithwa okanye ukungalungi.
I-Sleepovers idinga ukuzonwabisa, kodwa kufuneka ilawulwe. Abantwana abadiniweyo kwaye banomdla badla ngokukhetha izinto ezimbi.
Gcina abanye abantakwabo bahlaselwe. Ukuba umntwana ubamba i-sleepover, kubalulekile ukuba uceba izinto ezithile ukuze bangene kwi-sleepover. Ukuba abazalwana bakhulile, kuya kuba kuhle ukuthetha nabo. Uya kufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba bahlala ngaphandle kwendawo apho abachaphazelekayo be-sleepover balele khona. Ukuba bebancinci, baya kufuna ukubandakanyeka, ngoko kuya kuba kuhle ukucwangcisa imisebenzi eminye ukuze bahlale bexakeke xa abanye bephethe i-sleepover yabo.
Ukujonga imisebenzi. Kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ukuba ube negumbini apho umntwana wakho kunye nesigwendwe siza kulala. Ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho nabangenayo (abasamkelekileyo okanye abangamkelekanga) kwaye balala ngokukhuselekileyo nangokukhuselekileyo. Uya kufuna kwakhona ukujonga kuzo ngezinye iinkqubo ngaphandle kokungafuni. Ukuba nabo bazi ukuba ubukele kuzobanceda benze ukhetho olungcono.