Uqeqesho olujolise ekumiseni iMida kunye nokuSungula iMida
Isiyalo esisekelwe kwisiGaba esisinye sinye kwiintlobo ezi- 5 eziphambili zeendlela zokuziphatha . Inkcazo emva koqeqesho oluxhomekeke kwimida lulula-abantwana baziphatha xa beziva bekhuselekile.
Isiyalo esisekelwe kumgaqo-siseko siquka ukubeka imida ecacileyo ebonisa abantwana ukuba bavunyelwe ukwenzani nantoni ephuma emida. Emva koko, xa abantwana beyazi ukuba yimiphumo yintoni yokuphuma emida, baya kuthobela ngakumbi.
Ngokutsho komyalelo osemgangathweni, abantwana baya kuvavanya imida yokubona indlela abanonophelo abasabela ngayo. Kodwa, xa beyazi imida kunye nemiphumo, abanako ukuvavanya abanonophelo babo. Ngenxa yoko, iingxaki zokuziphatha zinciphisa.
Imizekelo yovavanyo lokulinganiselwa
Abantwana babo bonke ubudala bahlala bexhamla ukuvavanya umda wokubona oko bangakuphelisa khona. Nazi ezinye zeendlela eziqhelekileyo zendlela abantwana abavavanya ngayo imida:
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-4 owaziyo ukuba akavunyelwe ukuma kwifenitshala, ufumana ingalo yombhede emadolweni ukuze abone ukuba ngabazali bakhe basabela.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-6 uthi, "Hayi!" Xa utshelwe ukuba ahlaziye amazinyo akhe ngethemba lokuba unokuhlala ebukela iTV.
Umntwana oneminyaka engu-8 uthi, "Ndiya kwenza emineni embalwa. Ndiphantse kwinqanaba elilandelayo lomdlalo wam, "xa exelele ukuseta itafile isidlo sakusihlwa. - Umntwana oneminyaka eli-10 olahlekelwe ngamalungelo akhe ukudlala ngaphandle kwimihla efuna ukuba asebenzise inja egcekeni.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-12 ubona unina uthetha ngefowuni aze angene ekhitshini ukuze ahlasele i-drackbox emva kokuba umama amxelele ukuba akayi kuba ne-snack.
- Umntu oneminyaka eyi-14 uxelwa ukuba aphume kwikhompyutha yakhe ebusuku ukuze aqale ukusebenzisa ifowuni yakhe ukuze agqume kwiwebhu.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-16 ufika ekhaya emva kwemizuzu engama-20 emva kokubuya kwakhe kweso sihlandlo kuba akukho nto eyenzekayo xa yayimaminithi engama-10 ebusuku.
Iindlela zokuLawulwa koMgaqo-siseko
Uqeqesho olusekelwe kumdawulo lusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zoqeqesho ukulungisa ukuphulwa komthetho. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo zokulawula umda:
- Nxibelelana nemida. Ukuseka imithetho yendlu kwaye ugcine uluhlu lwemithetho ebhalwe phantsi. Xa ulindele ukuba awunalo uluhlu, yenza ukuba izilindele zakho zicacile. Yithi, "Unakho ikhompyutha yakho imizuzu engama-30 namhlanje," okanye "Uya kucoceka igumbi lakho ngaphambi kokuba ungene ngaphandle."
- Nika iingcebiso xa kunokwenzeka. Zama ukunika isilumkiso seminithi emihlanu. Yithi, "Kwimizuzu emihlanu kuya kuba yithuba lokuvala umdlalo wakho ukuze ubeke ithala." Xa umntwana wakho evavanya imida, nikela ukuba ... ke isilumkiso esithi , "Ukuba awuyi kuthatha iidyshini okwangoku ngoku, awuyi kukwazi ukudlala kunye neebhloko zakho yonke imihla. "
- Ukunikezelwa kokunikezelwa . Ukucacisa ngokucacileyo ukhetho ukwenzela ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukubona ukuba ukuziphatha kwabo kuya kuba nemiphumo emihle okanye emibi . Yithi, "Unokuvala umdlalo ngoku kunye nokuseta itafile okanye ungaqhubeka uzama ukudlala kwaye ulahlekelwe yikhompyutha yakho kusasa." Yenza kucacise ukuba awuyikunyanzelisa abantwana bakho ukuba benze into kodwa kunoko, yimbopheleleko yabo ukwenza ukhetho.
- Sebenzisa iziphumo ezinengqiqo. Isiphumo esinengqiqo, njengokuthatha inkululeko yamakhompyutha ngenxa yokungafuni ukuvala umdlalo wevidiyo yakhe, ingqiqo. Isiphumo sihambelana ngqo nokungaziphathi kakuhle.
- Vumela imiphumo yemvelo. Imiphumo yemvelo inceda abantwana bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo ngelixa bebafundisa uxanduva. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhohliwe ukupakisha izicwangciso zakhe zokuqhuba ibhola, umphumo wendalo unokuthi akavumelekanga ukuba athathe inxaxheba kumdlalo.
- Thumela umntwana wakho ukuba aphume ixesha. Xa umntwana wakho engagqithisiyo okanye engcolileyo, thumela kuye ngexesha lokuphuma. Kungabizwa ngokuthi, "ixesha lokuthula" okanye "ukuthatha ikhefu" kodwa lingasetyenziselwa sisixhobo ekuncedeni abantwana ukuba bafunde ukuzinqabisa.
Gcina uqeqesho lwakho luvumelana
Ukubambisana kuyinkalo ebalulekileyo yomyalelo ophantsi komda. Ukugqithisa imigaqo okanye ukunikezela emva kokuba uthethile kungenza iingxaki zokuziphatha zibi nakakhulu. Xa ulandela imiphumo yokuphula umthetho ngamnye, umntwana wakho uya ku kholosa ukuba ungumkhokeli ontle kwaye uya kuziva ekhuselekileyo ekunyamekeleni kwakho, okubalulekile xa ufuna ukuba aphethe kakuhle iimpawu zakhe.
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> GreatSchools.org: Yisiphi Isimo Sakho Soqeqesho?
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