Abazali Bamele Baphathe Umathuba Wokufundisa 'Kutheni' Nokuziphatha Okulungileyo
Iingcali ezininzi zezingane ziyavuma ukuba abantwana akufanele baphoqeleke ukuba bathi "baxolise" xa benza into engalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba abantwana bayakuyeka ukuziphatha kakubi. Abantu abadala kufuneka bathathe ithuba lokufundisa abantwana malunga nokuba kutheni ukuziphatha kwabo kungalunganga kwaye bafunde ngemilinganiselo emihle ngexesha elifanayo. Ukunyanzela umntwana omncinci ukuba athethe uxolo emva kokubetha okanye ukubetha omnye umntwana, umzekelo, umane nje uxhoxise isityholo, isingeniso "sokuzisola" ngaphandle kokutshintsha nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha.
Ngoko ke, ngabazali nababoneleli bafanele benzani kwezi meko?
Sebenzisa Ukuziphatha Okubi Njengomzuzu Ofundiswayo
Iingcali zinemibono eyahlukileyo, kodwa ngokubanzi ziyavuma ukuba umntwana afune ukucinga ngento ayenzileyo, kutheni kungalunganga, kwaye impembelelo yokuziphatha kakubi kumnye umntwana yindlela efanelekileyo yokusingatha imeko. Emva kokunika umntwana ixesha lokuba acinge ngezenzo zakhe, bacele ukuba banokwenza ntoni malunga nokwenza ukuba imeko ilungile. Umntwana wakho unokuthi acacise ukuba abuyele itekisi eyayithathayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthi ufuna ukuxolela okanye ukucela ukunika omnye umntwana, ke vumela ezo ntshukumo kuba yinto yakhe kwaye kuya kuba nenjongo ngakumbi ukuba yayiyakhe ingcamango. Ukuthi "uxolo" akufanele kuphoswe ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ukufumana abantwana ukuba bathi nje amagama, ngaphandle kokuqonda intsingiselo okanye indlela yokunceda ukulungisa oko kubangelwayo, ayiyikuyicombulula umba omkhulu.
Bhala uphawu lokuziphatha njengengalunganga
Abazali kunye nabanikezeli kufuneka baxelele ngokucacileyo umntwana ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi . Ngokwenza njalo, ufundisa isifundo sokubetha, ukubetha nokweba amathoyizi ayenzi ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwaye akamkelekanga. Ukuba uyayihoxisa indlela yokuziphatha, uyomeleza kumntwana wakho ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi akubalulekanga kwaye akuyi kuba nemiphumo emibi.
Umzekelo omhle wokuziphatha
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abazi indlela yokwenza ngcono imeko, njengabazali, unokubonisa ukuphendula okungcono. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bafanise ukuziphatha kakuhle kwaye bafundise abantwana ukuba bajongane njani neemeko ezinamathele. Ufuna ukuxhobisa umntwana wakho ukuba azibone njengomntu onomusa onokwenza izinto zibe ngcono xa enze into engalunganga okanye eyingozi. Abantwana abaninzi abancinci abayi kukwazi ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kude kube le meko iyenzeka kaninzi kwaye baqeqeshwe ngabazali endleleni yokuya kwelinye umntwana. Unokumnceda umntwana wakho ngokuthi: "Siyaxolisa gqitha ukuba udabukile xa uJoe ethatha ithoyizi yakho, wakhohlwa ukusebenzisa amagama akhe. Abantwana bafunda kubantu abadala indlela yokulungisa ubudlelwane. Kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana ukuba ubudlelwane buqhekeke kunye nokulungiswa.
Thetha Ngeemvakalelo
Ngokweminyaka yobudala, abantwana baqala ukufunda ngovelwano. Xa umntwana efunda ukuba izenzo zakhe zabangela omnye umntwana ukuba azive ecasuke okanye ahluthe, unokuba nempembelelo enkulu kunokuba 'ungene enkingeni.' Indima yabantu abadala kufuneka ibe kukunceda umntwana aqonde, okokuqala ukuba izenzo zakhe zabangela omnye umntwana ukuba ahlupheke (mhlawumbi ngokomzimba okanye ngokomzwelo), kwaye ke, qalisa inkqubo yokuba nomntwana avume uxanduva kwaye azive ephendula ngezenzo zakhe.
Yibani ngokuhambelana nabaNcedisi bokuNakekela abantwana malunga nesizathu sokuthi "Uxolo"
Uqeqesho oluhambelanayo luvumela umntwana ukuba aqonde ngakumbi ukuba kukho imithetho kwaye xa imithetho iphukile, kukho imiphumo eqhubekayo. Ukuba une-nanny, khetha isigqibo sokuqeqesha kunye. Ukuba umntwana wakho usekuhlaleni okanye esikolweni, cela ukuba yintoni indlela abaqhuba ngayo xa umntwana eziphatha ngendlela engavumelekanga. Abazali nabanikezeli benkonzo yokunakekela abantwana kufuneka baxelele umyalezo ofanayo kubantwana malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. Ukunxibelelana okulungileyo kuyindlela yokunceda umntwana endleleni ukuze aqonde isizathu esenza emva kokuba azive ngendlela ayenzayo.
Khumbula Ukubonisa Uthando
Ungaze uvumele umntwana azive engathandwa ngenxa yokwenza into engalunganga. Khumbula i-adage yakudala ithi, "Ndiyakuthanda; kungekhona nje ukuziphatha kwakho." Xa umntwana enokuziphatha ongazithandiyo, tshela into enjengokuthi "Andiyithandi ukuba uthathe imoto yokudlala xa umzalwana wakho edlala nayo. Asithatha amathoyizi kwabanye ngaphandle kokubuza. simnceda? " Ukuxolisa ukuxolisa akusitshintshi ukuziphatha (kubantwana okanye abantu abadala) kwaye kwenza umntwana abe neentloni kwaye abe nomsindo. Into efanelekileyo ukuyenza kukuba umntwana wakho avume ukuba yintoni ephosakeleyo eyenziwe ngayo, kwaye uncede baqaphele ukuba benze utshintsho.