Omnye wemisebenzi yethu ebaluleke kakhulu njengabazali kukukwakha ukuzithemba kwezingane zethu , kwaye oko kufanele kwandiswe kukuzithemba . Abantwana abanokuzithemba ngokwabo kunye namakhono abo baya kwenza ngcono emfundo, emphakathini nakwindlela yokuziphatha. Ukuzithemba ngokwemvelo, ngokukodwa, kunokuthetha impilo engcono yengqondo kunye nempilo. Ngona obunzima kunye nabangaphezulu kakhulu abancinci abasoloko bejamelana nokuxhatshazwa kunye nokucalulwa banokuziva banamandla kwaye baphuculise ukuzixabisa kwabo ngokuzivocavoca.
Iimpawu zeNtembelo Yokwenyama
Ukuba nethemba lomzimba akukona nje ukuba usebenze ngokomzimba, nangona oko kuyingxenye yalo. Abantwana abathembekileyo emizimbeni yabo:
- Ukhuthazwe ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zemidlalo kunye neminye imisebenzi yomzimba
- Unqwenela ukuzama izinto ezintsha kwaye uthathe imingeni emitsha
- Ukhuselekile emandleni abo omzimba wokusingatha loo mingeni
- Ukuqaphela imida yabo, kodwa nokuqonda loo mida inganqotshwa
- Ngomlomo onzima; Bayaqonda ukuba ezinye izakhono zinzima ukuziqonda, kodwa zizama
Ukuba ngaba umntwana wakho udlala imidlalo, ukuba nethemba lomzimba kuya kumncedisa ukuzonwabisa kunye nezinye izinto ezisebenzayo. Kwaye ukufika kwangaphambili kwi-mindset kungamnceda aphile impilo yakhe yonke!
Iindlela ezili-7 zokukhuthaza ukuthembela ngokwemvelo
Yiba ngumzekelo. Njengemisebenzi eminingi yomzali, lo uqala nawe ube ngumzekelo. Konke "malunga neenambuzane zibona, i-monkey yenza." Vumela abantwana bakho bakubone uthabatha imingeni yomzimba , nokuba udlala ipaki ye-adventure kunye kunye nokuzama ukuma-paddle-boarding okokuqala.
Uze ubonise indlela onamathela kuyo, nangona xa kunzima. Gwema ukwenza izizathu, njengokuthi "Ndimdala kakhulu / ndibuthathaka / amanqatha ukuzama oko." (Musa ukuzilimaza, ngokucacileyo, kodwa ungasheshi ukuyeka, nokuba unokumangaliswa!)
Vumela abantwana benze iimpazamo. U-John Kelley, i-CEO yeCoachUp, inkonzo edibanisa abadlali kunye nabaqeqeshi nabaqeqeshi babo.
"Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukubuza abantwana ukuba bayiphumelelani ngaloo mini, njengendlela yokunciphisa ukwesaba ukwehluleka nokukhuthaza ukuba bazame izinto ezintsha."
Inkxaso yokuthatha ingozi. Ipaki leyo i-helicopter kwaye mvumele umntwana wakho enze into eyoyikisayo, nokuba uyakhuphuka phezulu emthini okanye uzifundise ngokwakhe kwi-skateboard. Ukudlala okukhululekile kunye nokuthatha ingozi kumathuba amaninzi abantwana ukuba basombulule iingxaki zabo. Yaye xa bekwazi ukwenza oko, baziqhenyce ngokwabo-kwaye kufanelekile!
Nceda abantwana babeke iinjongo. "Ukukholelwa kwintsapho yakho kuthetha ukukhuthaza ukuba basebenze nzima kwaye banzima ukuba baphucule kwimidlalo yabo. Ukuba unganikezi umntwana wakho ithuba lokukhula, banokucinga ukuba awuboni amandla abo," kusho uKelley. Ucebisa iinjongo ezincinci ezinokulinganiswa kunye nenjongo, kodwa azixhomekeke kwiingongoma okanye ngokuphumelela. "Khumbulani ukuba bangazigxeka kakhulu, kwaye bagxininise ekuphuculeni kunokuba babengaphambi komhla. Bakwenza oku ngokugxininisa kwimpumelelo encinci-njengokufumana uncediso kwibhola-kunye nokuthatha isinyathelo sokuphucula izakhono zabo zomzimba ngaphandle kwenkqubo ehleliweyo, "ucebisa.
Yiba nombongi ongeyena-mfihlelo. Izingane zidinga ukuxelelwa ukuba zilungile, kodwa (ukumangaliswa) abahlali bephulaphula xa beva kuMama noTata.
"Ukuba nomntu ngaphandle komzali okanye umqeqeshi weqela ukunika ingxelo kunye nemyalelo kunokunceda. Ivumela umzali ukuba ngumzali, kwaye ivumela umntwana ukuba ujabulele umdlalo aze aphucule ngokwabo," kusho uJohn Kelley. Lo mdlali unokuba ngumqeqeshi wabucala, kodwa unokuba ngumhlobo osapho okanye osapho, ngokukodwa umntu onomdla kwimidlalo efanayo okanye umsebenzi owenzayo kumntwana wakho.
Yakha uluhlu lothando. Umntwana wakho unokuphendula ngokuncinci kangcono ukuba adumise ukuba wenza iprojekti yomsebenzi. Nasi umzekelo wendlela yokwenza le zakhono kunye nezikolo ezinxulumene nezikolo, ukudala ucwangciso lwephepha lweengxelo ezilungileyo.
Unokuzilungelelanisa lo msebenzi wokuzibandakanya ukubandakanya izakhono ezingokwenyama nezengqondo ezihamba kunye nokuvakalelwa ngokwasemzimbeni. Unokwenza nokuba ube yiprojekthi yentsapho, ukwabelana nothando. Usenokumangaliswa yiziphi iintlobo zokudumisa abazalwana kunye nabo.
I-Counter i-self-intetho. Enoba uthethwa ngokuvakalayo okanye kungekho, yintoni abantwana abakuthetha ngayo ngokuzithemba kwabo banokuyichukumisa okanye bayithuthukise. Kubalulekile ukuvumela abantwana bazi ukuba akufanele baphele amandla emva kokudangala ngenxa yezakhono zabo zomzimba , "kusho uKelley. "Ngokuqhelekileyo kunzima ukuba bazihlole ngokunyanisekileyo-nokuba kukuhle okanye kakubi." Ucebisa ukuba bancede benze uluhlu lwamandla abo kunye nobuthathaka. Baya kusebenzisa oku kusetyenziselwa imigomo kunye nokwakha ukuzithemba; Kukhulu ngokukhula kwabo kunye nophuhliso njengomdlali kunye nomntu. Hlola ngeomqeqeshi womntwana wakho okanye ootitshala kulo mnye. "Ukubheka ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunokuvula amehlo abantwana kwizinto abangaziqondiyo. Iingongoma ezivela kumqeqeshi, ngokuchasene nomzali, ziza kubakho ngaphezulu kunye nomdlali."
Ukuba umntwana wakho unesidenge, ungakhathazeki. Thatha amanyathelo amancinci uze unikeze isiqiniseko nenkxaso. Uya kufika khona-kwaye uya kuba namandla ngakumbi emva kohambo othabathayo kunye.
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