Isayensi Yomhla Wokubazali Umhla Wobusuku
Uzali ... ngaba yintlekele okanye umdlalo? Ngelinye ilanga unomuvo onjengo-supermom kunye nolandelayo ukhalela kwikati yakho kuba awufuni ukutshintsha elinye i-poop diaper. Njengoko sonke siyazi, ukubeletha kunzima! Ubuzali buzisa imibuzo enzima efana nale:
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Khangela phambili! Kukho incwadi entsha eya kusombulula yonke le mfihlelo. Ukudibanisa inzululwazi uNosine Dworkin-McDanial kunye noJessica Zeigler, abanama-mother emva kweScience of Parenthood: Ngokucacileyo iNgcaciso yeNzululwazi yeZingqinisiso zokuBazali. Ukususela ekukhutshweni kwayo, iNzululwazi yoBuzali isiye ihamba ngee -shelf! Kukhoyo okwangoku kuluhlu olutsha lwe-Amazon olutsha lokukhupha. Abazali banokuqhagamshelana nencwadi epheleleyo ngokwenene, ekunyaneni ukukhulisa abantwana. Unokufumana i-Science of Parenthood kwi-Amazon, i-Barnes ne-Noble, i-BooksAMillion, kunye naphi na iincwadi zithengiswa khona! I-Science of Parenthood nayo iyafumaneka kwi-Nook okanye i-Kindle e-readers!
Nantsi intsingiselo yencwadi, ngesihloko esiseduze nentliziyo yam - ukutshintshela umntwana wakho kunye nokubonisa ukugqithisa okukhulu kwe-neurosis ehambelana nokunyamekelwa kwabantwana.
Kwiiveki zokuqala emva kokuba unyana wethu azalwe, ndatshwenyeka kangangokuba wayeyeka ukuphefumla, ndiza kumvusa ukuba ndikhangele. (Ngoko, ke, kwafuneka ndijamelane nokukhala.)
Kodwa into ephefumlelweyo yile fikethi yayiyiyoyiko-into yokuba umfana wethu wayeza kubamba umntwana. Ekubuyiseleni, mhlawumbi ndibe nje nge-neurotic. Njengokuba intombazana enhle, enye i-twentysomething intombazana yayifuna iinyanga ezine. Ndiyathetha, ngubani ongefuni ukuhlala ubusuku bonke ngokukhawulela izifungo ezithintekayo ngokutya kunye nokutshintsha kwe-diaper, kunene? Zihlandlo! (Ukungabi nobuthongo kunokwenza izinto ezintle kwingqondo yakho ukuba unyanzelekile ubuqhetseba obungenangqondo.)
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndandidliwano-ndlebe nalo mfana kwaye ndakujonga iingxelo zakhe kwaye wayebonakala ngathi ngumfazi osemncinci onomdla onamava amaninzi. Ndandihlala ndikhululekile ngokuhlala naye endlwini yam. Ndandingazange ndikhululeke ngokumkhulula emehlweni am. Wayehamba nam ngeeveki ezimbalwa xa ebuza ukuba ingathatha umntwana ukuhamba. Ngelo xesha, sasihlala kwindawo elithulileyo, eyakhiwe kwi-loop-mile loop. Njengoko ehamba endlwini yam kunye nosana e-stroller, ndema efestile ndamlinda de ndize ndambona. Kwaye ke, nangona ndimqeshe ukuze ndisebenze uxolo kwincwadi endiyayisayina inkontileka yokubhala, ndema ewindoweni endaweni yoko, ndibala imizuzu ade abuyele ekubukeni.
Kwiiveki ezimbalwa kamva ke, i-paranoia yam inene yatshintshela kwi-overdrive. Kwafuneka ndihambe ngokukhawuleza ukuya eLas Vegas apho sasihlala khona ngaphambi kokuba sithuthele e-Orlando. Ndiza kuhamba malunga neeyure ezingama-36, kwaye isicwangciso sasiyinto yokuba i-nanny iphose kwisikhumulo sezindiza, ndinyamekele umntwana kude kube yindoda kaStewart ebuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini aze andiphinde ndikhange emva komhla ozayo.
Kodwa xa ndangena emotweni yakhe ukuya kwisikhumulo sezindiza, ndabona ukuba wayenomfanekiso-mfanekiso wesibhokhwe wenkwenkwana yam enqwelweni lakhe. Ndamkhumbula ukuba ucele umfanekiso. Kodwa ukuyijonga emotweni yakhe kwandichukumisa. Njengoko sasiqhubela kwisikhumulo sezindiza, ndenza isithembiso sakhe sokundwendwela rhoqo ngeeyure ngelixa ndihambe. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ndikhuphe ukhuseleko, ndambiza udadewethu uShari.
"Ngaba kunzima ukuba unina unomfanekiso womntwana, njengemoto yakhe? Liyinqaba, akunjalo? Ukungabi nobuthongo, ama-hormone aguqukayo, i-caffeine engaphezulu kunye noyiko olungcolileyo lokushiya umntwana wam belenza i-tad bonkers. "Ndicinga ukuba angathatha umntwana. Ngaba ucinga ukuba kuthetha ukuthatha umntwana? Mhlawumbi ndimele ndibuyele ekhaya? Andikwazi ukubuyela ekhaya. Ndiya eVasgas. Kodwa mhlawumbi ... "
Hayi ... akukho nto iphosa njengomama omtsha. Ngomnye umgca wefowuni, udadewethu wagubha waza wathi, ngokukhawuleza, "Hayi, andicinga ukuba uya kuthatha umntwana. Ndicinga ukuba nomfanekiso kwimoto yakhe inkulu. Kuthetha ukuba uyamthanda umntwana. Yinto entle. Ngoku uthathe umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye mhlawumbi u-Xanax kwaye ufike kwidiza elibi. Siza kukubona kusasa. "
Xa ndithe ndafika kwi-Arrivals terminal ngomhla olandelayo, ndandidla ngokukhululeka ukubona umntwana kunye nosana elindindileyo, njengoko sasiyicebile. Kakade, wayeka imini elandelayo. Emva koko, ngubani ofuna ukusebenzela umfazi osweleke?
Ngama nanny esilandelayo esasiba nayo, ndazikhulula ngakumbi kwaye ndinikezela ngakumbi i-latitude kuze kube ngenye yethu yokugqibela, kwakukho amaxesha apho ndingazange ndikwazi ukuba yintoni umntwana wam. Kodwa ndayazi ukuba wayenomntwana wakhe, wenza kakuhle.
U-Norine Dworkin-McDaniel ungumbhali-mbhalisi onomfanekiso-mboniso uJessica Ziegler weSayensi ye-Parenthood: Iinkcazo ezingapheliyo zeNzululwazi ezichazwe ngoNovemba ngoBhala ngo-Novemba. Itholakala kwi-Amazon kwaye apho iincwadi zithengiswa khona. Landela uNorine noJessica kwiiblogi zabo, i-Facebook, i-Twitter ne-Instagram. Ingaba isayensi yobuzali iza kwidolophu yakho? Hlola ixesha lethu lohambo. Ngaba ufuna iNzululwazi yoBuzali ukuba ufike kwidolophu yakho? Myalezo!