Ukufundisa abantwana Abanemidlalo emihle

Ngabantwana beqala ibhola ekwi-3 kunye neqela lokubhukuda nge-5, ukufundisa ukuzonwabisa kwezemidlalo kubaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. UJoel Fish, Ph.D., umlobi weendlela ezili- 101 zokuba ngumzali wezemidlalo okhuselayo kunye nomlawuli weziko lezemidlalo kwi-Psychology eFiladelphia .

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Kutheni kuthethwa ngemidlalo yezemidlalo

Oku kuthetha ukugxininiswa ngakumbi ekuphumeleleni, kusho intlanzi, kodwa kunika ithuba lokufundisa ezemidlalo ekuqaleni kwaye kaninzi. Kwaye ukuqonda indlela yokuba ngumdlalo omhle ngenye yezifundo zobomi obukhulu kunokuba abantwana bafunde kwimidlalo .

"Ixesha elona xesha elifanelekileyo lokufakela imilinganiselo xa abantwana bebancinci," utsho uRob Gotlin, INGABE, umbhali weDkt Rob's Guide yokukhulisa i-Fit Kids . "Abazali kaninzi abaqapheli ukuba kulula kangakanani ukufaka imilinganiselo yezemidlalo," utsho. Kubantwana-ikakhulukazi abatsha, abaneminyaka eli-8 nangaphantsi-iinjongo zemidlalo yolutsha kufuneka kube ngumsebenzi wokwenyama kunye nentlalo yoluntu. "Ukuba sikwazi ukukhumbula le nyaniso, khangela ukuba yiyiphi imidlalo eyenziwa ngayo, sibeke isiseko" sokuzonwabisa, "kusho uDkt. Gotlin.

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Qala Ubutsha: Uhlobo lwezemidlalo lwabantwana 8 no-ngaphantsi

Nangona-njengokuba kusebenza kwimigangatho emininzi yezemidlalo kubantwana abancinci-abakho abaphumeleleyo abasemthethweni okanye abalahlekileyo, ukuba amaqela kunye neefomfom ziveza uluvo lokhuphiswano . Ngoko kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba abazali nabaqeqeshi bagxininise ekuzijabuliseni, ekusebenziseni umzimba, nangokudlala kunye. UDkt. Gotlin uqhuba iqela lebhola lebhokisi lebhola lebhokisi kwaye ufune ukuba abadlali bathuse izandla phambi kokuqala nangemva kwemidlalo. Ukwacebisa ukuba abantwana, abaqeqeshi nabazali baqalise umdlalo kunye nentlanganiso yeqela ukuze bahambe imithetho kwaye bakhumbuze wonke umntu ukuba adlale kwaye abe nexesha elifanelekileyo. Ukuba awuyi kugcina amanqaku, vumela abantwana baqonde-kwaye bachaze isizathu sokuba, utshilo uDkt. Fish.

Kule minyaka, imidlalo yeqela lexinzelelo eliphantsi lifanelekileyo. Ukuba ukhona kwinqanaba le-pitcher okanye umgca ococekileyo uhlolisisa umntwana omncinci, utshilo uDkt. Gotlin. Ngaphezu koko, kwimidlalo efana nebhola , abantwana bachitha ixesha elininzi balinde-kwaye bemi. Xa bedlala ibhola , kufuneka baqhubeke behamba! Kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lomdlalo umntwana wakho adlalayo, khangela iague kunye nomqeqeshi ogxininisa ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuqina xa ugxininisa ukuwina nokulahlekelwa; onke amalungu ekomiti kufuneka abe namathuba amaninzi okudlala kwaye afumane amaninzi impendulo emihle kwimigudu yabo.

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Gcina Intloko Epholileyo: Ukuzonwabisa Kwezithuba Zobantwana 8-12

Njengoko abantwana beqala ukutshatyalaliswa, ukuvutha komsindo kuqala ukuphazamiseka kwintsimi kunye nangaphandle. Kwizinto ezingabonakaliyo, kulula ukuvuma malunga nemigaqo siseko yezemidlalo : inhlonipho kubadlali beqela, abachasi kunye nomdlalo; kuphumelela nokulahlekelwa. Ukunika aba baxabisekileyo, abaqeqeshi (kunye nabazali ) bangasebenzisa ukudibanisa imfundo (ukufundisa abantwana ngolwimi abaziqondayo), uxinzelelo lwabaontanga oluhle, kunye nemiphumo okanye imigaqo-nkqubo (njengendlela yokuxwayisa kwimithetho ephukileyo elandelwa ukumiswa kwenkqubo okanye umdlalo).

Nangona isiseko esisisigxina esifana nale, ukulandela ngoku ahlale kunzima xa kushushu kwexesha. Ngoko bobabini abazali nabadlali badinga ukukwazi ukuxela nokuthintela ukuqhuma. Kwincwadi yakhe, uDkt. Fish ukhankanya icebo lesithathu:

1. Yazi indlela ozijonga ngayo ngokuphumelela nokulahlekelwa, ukusebenzisana kunye nokukhuphisana. Ukuba ungumntu okhuphisana kakhulu, kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho.
2. Yazi zakho iziphumo. Uthi: "Ukuba ndibona umqeqeshi ethetha kakubi kum umntwana wam, uqhuba iqhosha kum," kutsho uDkt. Fish. Kwabanye abazali, izinto ezinokubangela ukuba zibandakanye iifowuni ezimbi ezibonakalayo ezivela kumpempe okanye ukuva ukuba umdlali usebenzisa inxaxheba kumntwana wakho. Abantwana bangasuswa ngokuzenza iphutha (njengokubetha).
3. Yazi indlela yokuzola. Yiba nesicwangciso semidlalo sokuba wenze ntoni xa enye yezo zinto ibangela ukuba iphendule imvakalelo. Umzali unokufuneka ahambe ukusuka kwinqanaba elithile. Umntwana angacela umlingane ukuba amkhumbuze ukuba athabathe umoya okhulu okanye "uyigxotha."

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Fundisa Ukuhlonipha Nokuzithemba: Ukuzonwabisa kweentsha

Esikolweni esiphakeme, abantwana baqonda ngokuphumelela ukuphumelela, ukulahlekelwa, kunye nokusebenza kwabo, kwaye oko kunokukwazi ukuchazela iingxaki zokuzonwabisa. "Naliphi na uxinzelelo olungakumbi lweziphumo, okwandisa amathuba abantwana baya kwenza oko bafuna ukwenza ukuze banqobe," kusho uDkt. Fish. "Bakwazi ukuwela umgca, behlekisa omnye umdlali okanye baqhube umthetho."

Ukuba umdlali wenza iphosakelo, uhlala elahlekelwa ingqalelo. "Impumelelo ivelisa ukuzithemba nokuthe ngqo," kusho uDkt. Gotlin. Ukuqiniswa ngokuqinisekileyo kubalulekile ngoku, njengokuba kugxininiswa ngamandla kwiingqeqesho kunye nemilinganiselo. Abantu abadala kufuneka bahole. "Kufuneka sifundise ukususela ngomhla owodwa: Xa uhamba kwintsimi, inkundla, okanye umgca, kufuneka ube nenhlonipho yomdlalo kunye nabo bonke abakhuphisana ngokulinganayo, njengokuba ubona kwezobugcisa be-karate ngenhlonipho ye-dojo."

Abazali nabo kufuneka bajonge i-mindset yabo, utsho uDkt. Gotlin. "Abazali bafuna ukubona inkunzi yabo iba isiseko okanye ifumaneke ngakumbi. Ihlabathi elidala liyabhubhisa ingqondo yabantwana. Sifanele sizilungiselele kuqala size senze ixabiso kubafundi bethu." Isimyalezo ofuna ukusihambisa: "Ndilapha ukukubona ukhuphisana kwaye usebenze kwizakhono zakho."

Gxininisa oko unokukwazi kwaye awukwazi ukulawula: Ukuzonwabisa ngumdlalo. "Kukho iintlobo zamandla apho apho abazali nabaqeqeshi abakwazi ukulawula," kusho uDkt. Fish. "Andikwazi ukulawula oko i-ESPN ithi okanye yintoni enye iqela elenzayo. Kodwa ndiyakwazi ukufundisa umntwana wam ukubaluleka kokudlala ngemithetho, ukuxhaphaza izandla zomdlali, ukumnceda xa ewa-efundisa ukuba nokuba Umchasi wakhe akenzi oko, unokukwazi ukwenza oko kuba kuyinto efanelekileyo yokwenza. "

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Fumana Umqeqeshi Ofundisa Ukuzonwabisa

Ngaphambi kokuba ubhalise umntwana wakho kwiqela lezemidlalo okanye leqela lezemidlalo, khangela ifilosofi yayo kwizemidlalo. Buza:

• Leli ligi lifundisa njani umdlalo wezemidlalo? Ziziphi iinkqubo zalo malunga nokugcina amanqaku, ukuthetha-incoko (ngabadlali okanye ngabazali), udibana nabachasi kunye noqeqesho?
• Ixesha lokudlala elinqunywe ngetalente, ubudala, umgudu wenzeni? Okanye ngaba ihlulwe ngokulinganayo phakathi kwabo bonke abadlali?
• Ziziphi iinjongo zomqeqeshi weqela? Ingaba uyena-gung-ho ngokuphumelela, okanye injongo yokuzisa umdlalo? Kuthiwani ngokukhuthaza imisebenzi yomzimba okanye ukusebenzisana nentlalo?

Akukho zimpendulo ezichanekileyo okanye ezingalunganga apha; kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala bomntwana kunye nesimo sengqondo. Kodwa ukuba awuwanelisekanga ngeempendulo ozifumanayo, zama ukufumana enye inketho-okanye ubuncinane uyazi ukuba ungena ntoni, kwaye ufundise umgangatho wakho kumntwana wakho.

Ukuba awuhlali ujongene nokusebenza komqeqeshi phakathi kwexesha, thintela ukumelana naye kumkhwa okanye umdlalo. Cwangcisa intlanganiso kwindawo engathathi hlangothi kunye nexesha , faka abanye abazali ukuba unako, kwaye kunjalo, uyabahlonela umqeqeshi.

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Ukufundisa iimfundiso zoLuntu kwiMpawu zobuntu bakho

Ukwazi ulwazi lomntwana wakho kukunceda ukuba ufumane iindlela eziphambili zokufundisa ezemidlalo kunye nemilinganiselo. Izingane zihlahlela zibe ziintlobo ezine eziphambili zobuntu, uthi uDkt Fish: unomzwelo, unembeza, unobundlobongela kunye noluntu. (Nangona ininzi abantwana baya kubambisana kunye nambalwa kula maxesha, ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uya kulawula.) Ukuba unako ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani umntwana wakho, ngoko uyazi ukuba ufuna ntoni xa ufundisa i-sportsmanship:

• Umoya : Gxininisa ekumfundiseni indlela yokuzola kunye nokukhawuleza. Ncedise ukuba aqaphele indlela umzimba wakhe uphendule ngayo xa ecatshulwa (ukuxhamla imisipha, ukuphefumula okungapheliyo). Qinisekisa iindlela zokuphendula (ukubala ukuya kwe-10, ukuphefumula, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza).
• Unonophelo : Mncedise ukuba ahluke phakathi kokuzama ukufezekisa nokuphelela. Thetha ngokubeka iinjongo ezifanelekileyo zokuphucula indlela, kunokuvumela ukugxininisa kakhulu kwizinto ezimbi.
• Inzondo : Yenza imiphumo ecacileyo. Mbonise ukuba uluphi umgca, kwaye yiyiphi impendulo eya kuba iyayiwela. (Emva koko ulandele ukuba uyaphula umthetho.)
• I- ocial : Sebenzisa ukunyanzeliswa koontanga kulungelelaniso lwakho. Ukugxininisa ukubaluleka kokubambisana nabalingani bakhe, kwaye umkhumbuze ukuba banokumnceda ukuba ahlale ehle xa eziva ephantsi.